Drama Queen / King Vs. Easy-Going
The expression "drama queen" is very popular and we can see it quite often on men's profiles on dating sites, for example. Of course, in phrases like: "Please, NO drama queens!". Usually opposed to the expression "easy-going".What is a drama queen and why are men so scared of this type of a woman? I guess it s a woman who:
- makes big problems from literally everything;
- is always ready for a nice scandal;
- is always ready to cry a river;
- always plays the victim...
What are the reasons for such a behavior?
Some women are too vulnerable, histerical, insecure, and/or irritable. Others are just bored and/or consider the drama a good means to make the relationship more exciting. Third ones use the drama as the perfect blackmailing to achieve their goals, since 99% of the men are terrified by scandals, nagging, and tears.
Now, the more surprising for me is that I found out there are drama kings too. The drama behavior has been traditionally attributed only to women considering their specific personality traits. There are men though, who perfectly play the dramatic role. Is it the famous feminisation of the males? Or other issues of the modern era (the women's emancipation, insecurity reasons...)?
Have you behaved as a drama queen/king and what were the results? How do you cope with such a behavior of your partner?
For me, more interesting is the characteristic "easy-going". Most of people (and again, most of men) claim that they prefer to be with someone who is easy-going. What does it mean?
Someone who agrees with you all the time?
Who is in a good mood all the time?
Who doesn t bother you when you are not in a good mood?
Who is easy to talk with about everything?
Who is always patient, considerate, loving, and understanding?
Who is low maintenance (whatever it means)?
Who is not jealous and respects your private space?
Who doesn t have (too) high expectations from you and accepts you for who you are?
Who doesn t rely on you but copes with everything on their own?
Generally, whose presence brings you only positives?
Comments (84)
Easy Going = can adapt to most situations with a minimum of fuss.
JMO Jana.
But interesting reading.
You seem to know all these characteristics quite well Jana Hmmm
i like a bit of drama otherwise life would would be uninteresting
And very interesting that you define the easy-going person by the flexibility, ability to adapt! I haven t thought of it, thank you for sharing!
Now, what is low maintenance? I have heard it from men when I said I didn t smoke nor drink. On the other hand, I have been told I am high maintenance regarding feelings (that I need whole lotta love)
one learns to wield the same tactics to shift the mood, if one doesn't, one suffers
Well, a bit of drama in a love relationship can be fueling and inspirational for some people and saving from the routine. But I would never use it if I am not sure that it would only turn the man on
set the balance and you have harmony
;-}
Does the drama behavior imply feminine features? Maybe only if it goes too far. Being sensitive for a man is not bad at all... probably only if it doesn t turn against him.
And finally, is an easy-going person a mouse? Whose presence is pleasant but not exciting, not challenging? That s what I am trying to understand :)
I still think that many men don t know what actually women want from them and it really terrifies them. So they want to make it clear what would be expected from them so everyone is nice and happy ;) The uknown scares...
I have really seen women who play with men ('s feelings) in a masterly way. Many men like it, though. They accept is as a sigh of femininity. Or a sign of attention and love.
On the other hand, many women are utterly naive in love. They cause their own love troubles...
the opposite >>> Drama king/Queen are very vulnerable types bcz they are very emotional and easy to manipulate... unlike virtual world, LIFE itself is never flat and we should be able to adapt in various situation....
just a thought...
I find it so hard to find someone who feels equal to me
I would prefer to be alone comfortable in that now then sell my soul.
good blog
By the way I have seen more drama kings onhere cs than ever in my life. makes for some fun reading and blogging at times when is does not go over the top.
However when she drove her drama truck onto my highway,she came to s "STOP" sign.
I was able to outsmart her the way I am able to checkmate anyone I run into.
She would become so frustrated!......So she would then resort to using sensuality to in an attempt to control me.....This tactic I will admit,proved much more successful for her.
Yes the topic about drama kings comes from CS. I guess there are more drama queens here too, than in reality, since most of the people here are hurt and lonely. One more reason to try to understand it.
Now, I think you dream of an easy-going relationship, when the monarchy is suspended and the proletariat rules
Yes I like too this meaning of the easy-going thing. When you know each other well enough not to be afraid to open yourself fully. When you communicate almost by telepathy
Interesting subject to say the least . What I have observed on it is that we all have our " off " days . Sometimes life just gets to us and we don't always handel it well . This will manafest itself as anomosity toward our partners . Ususally when we calm down and see the error of our ways we try to make amends .
The real Queens will make a major issue out of this and steadfastly want the other to make the amends and never back up . They are never wrong and only want to hear amends from the other side . It also is a self justafication for errent behaviour on there part .
Are there any here ? I'm sorry to say definately and they seem to gravitate towards the spotlight and rant continuesly . It actually can be condensed into one word and that word is immaturity . Just look around and it will be evident .
I don't know much about women who are drama queens , I would avoid them like the plague.... However many men seem to be tainted with that characteristic I have noticed. I find many men to be nothing but drama kings, its frightening , they imagine i suppose they are defending their honour, acting like defenders of the truth , when actually they are just showing themselves to be poor sports and weak minded men. Dominance has a lot to do with it, pride certainly comes into play as well.
An easy going man listens, listens some more , understands , thinks, thinks again .....is slow to react , then knows exactly how to get to someone without making himself look small or lose any credibility...he can do it respectfully , with integrity, and without lowering himself in others esteem.
He won't name call, make threats, undermine someone , try to make himself look smart by uncovering some revealing secrets about someone , he will never hit below the belt. He will be in TOTAL CONTROL.
I don't know about feminisation of men in this era, but I have noticed many men have this unmasculine side to them , which it totally unappealing to most women.
JMO....... Saskia granny of love, back in bloody bahrain for a while
A drama monarch (how PC is that?) is generally perceived as someone who does not communicate effectively, creating an adrenalin fuelled situation to fulfil some kind of need.
That need may, or may not be valid, however. If the drama monarch satisfies their own needs at the expense of others, then they maybe need to review their communication style in order to be satisfied long term.
If however, a valid need is ignored, calling someone a drama monarch (when their needs and communication thereof become more frustrated), can be a way of shutting them up with the aim of continuing current neglectful behaviour. This could be unconscious, or consciously manipulative.
Likewise, easy going may mean more than one thing. It may be someone easy to communicate with, or someone who doesn't communicate at all. The phrase 'easy going' then becoming an excuse for avoiding conflict, or for choosing a partner who is easy to dominate.
We talk generally about them but I guess there are different types of drams people. Some just can t overcome it, they really have psychological issues, and others just deliberately use this as a tactic to gain power.
Thank you for the tea, just the way I like it