Drama Queen / King Vs. Easy-Going
The expression "drama queen" is very popular and we can see it quite often on men's profiles on dating sites, for example. Of course, in phrases like: "Please, NO drama queens!". Usually opposed to the expression "easy-going".What is a drama queen and why are men so scared of this type of a woman? I guess it s a woman who:
- makes big problems from literally everything;
- is always ready for a nice scandal;
- is always ready to cry a river;
- always plays the victim...
What are the reasons for such a behavior?
Some women are too vulnerable, histerical, insecure, and/or irritable. Others are just bored and/or consider the drama a good means to make the relationship more exciting. Third ones use the drama as the perfect blackmailing to achieve their goals, since 99% of the men are terrified by scandals, nagging, and tears.
Now, the more surprising for me is that I found out there are drama kings too. The drama behavior has been traditionally attributed only to women considering their specific personality traits. There are men though, who perfectly play the dramatic role. Is it the famous feminisation of the males? Or other issues of the modern era (the women's emancipation, insecurity reasons...)?
Have you behaved as a drama queen/king and what were the results? How do you cope with such a behavior of your partner?
For me, more interesting is the characteristic "easy-going". Most of people (and again, most of men) claim that they prefer to be with someone who is easy-going. What does it mean?
Someone who agrees with you all the time?
Who is in a good mood all the time?
Who doesn t bother you when you are not in a good mood?
Who is easy to talk with about everything?
Who is always patient, considerate, loving, and understanding?
Who is low maintenance (whatever it means)?
Who is not jealous and respects your private space?
Who doesn t have (too) high expectations from you and accepts you for who you are?
Who doesn t rely on you but copes with everything on their own?
Generally, whose presence brings you only positives?
Comments (84)
cut it out or you will be as mad as me ........... eventually .
early warning signs
talking to yourself .
hearing voices
spontaneous aggressivness
feelings of being caged or separated
un provoked laughter
then wammo
it's a forced vacation to the white room and 1 free i love me jacket .
Is this the woman who is always full of love love love love for everyone? ? ?
WHAT HAPPENED ? ? ?
I never imagined in my dreams someone with your pure heart full of love for everyone can talk like this to anyone .....
I very much doubt Jana could be jealous of anyone ,especially not anyone here , it is usually all women who are jealous of her for her beauty and intelligence .
MY GOD ......
Its all yours, Adam. --->
p.s. they take the i love me jacket back before you leave tho bunch of indian givers is what they are .
i like everyone till they give me a reason not to .
p.s. they take the i love me jacket back before you leave tho bunch of indian givers is what they are .
I don't know what an 'Indian giver' is, but I can see why you'd want to keep the jacket - everyone needs to be loved by someone.
Indian giver derives from the alleged practise of American Indians of taking back gifts from white settlers. It is more likely that the settlers wrongly interpreted the Indians' loans to them as gifts. This term, which is certainly American, may have been coined to denigrate of the native race. Historians would now agree that, where deceit was concerned, it was the settlers who were the front runners. It isn't uncommon, and it could be argued that it is customary, for the conquering race to attempt to justify their invasion by dismissing the conquered as dishonest and stupid.
...I googled as well.
takemetofrance thinks i am .
you can hog my blogs if you want to .
I agree, sometimes they are.
But then again, sometimes they're not.
My posts are my choice, not yours, however annoying you may find that.
Someone who I will enjoy being with (most of the time).
Someone is generally (most of the time) all the things you list under easy-going.
Life comes with many burdens and sources of stress/worry. There are enough necessary and unavoidable ones. There isn't a need/desire for made-up, avoidable ones.
Yet - Some who are more dramatic are simply more fun to be around as they smile more often, laugh more often and are more expressive in general. It's just a matter of whether they are the type to usual focus on positive things or negative ones. "Dramatic" and "negative" together makes for a very challenging relationship.
I think those who desire "easy-going" are trying to find someone who will like them as they are and not be overly critical or want to change them.
Good night!
There are times when I use the phrase easygoing when referring to myself. I use it to mean that I'm easy to get along with. For I am flexible and can compromise and easily adapt when necessary. However,being easygoing does not mean I'm complacent. For respecting someone does not mean that you agree with them. Nor does it mean that you comply with what they want. It means that their feelings matter because those emotions belong to a person who matters. If someone is wrong,I will let them know about it,for love seeks the good of another.
We are to love other's, even those who are disrespectful. But love is not compliance. Love sometimes has to take a stance for a person's best interest. Compliance seems to rescue people from the consequences of their own sin or immaturity. Neither is good, if one expects to grow in a relationship. Those who like to control or manipulate others usually choose complacent people as their victims. This is unfortunate.
However,there are people who are easygoing,but have no backbone. This is why one has to take their time in getting to know someone,so they know whether the easygoing person is complacent or non-complacent. It can go either way sometimes. There has to be a balance,in being easygoing.
God bless you,Ariel! Your friend,Serendipity.
Drama Queen and King, unconsciously we have those traits (even if we know we have, ;).
Some reactions we may manifest depends on individuality, situation and time. I myself have those moments of overreacting on a small thing at certain point, but my reaction could differ the next time that thing happened or may happen again. On some instances, I ought not to deal/stress things even though others may perceived it to be of great importance. To each their own.
Well, it would be our lucky day if we ought to find that someone in life who can deal with us in our drama king/queen moments and enjoy our easy going days.
A drama monarch, I would say is high maintenance. They thrive on drama. They can turn the little things into major catastrophies.it seems everthing is about them. I would go on but I won't.
I was with a guy whose was a drama king for a very short while. In the end I couldn't stand him & I got sick of it. He talked a lot about himeself. There have been times where I hung up on him. His presence was emyionally draining.
Easygoing, I would say is someone who goes with the flow of life. And doesn't let the uncontrollable things negatively impact their lives. Some people may see the word "easy" & think the person is either easy or a walking doormat. I don't see it that way.
Who can you count on in an relationship, someone who is genuine & cares for you. Someone who you can trust with you being vulnerable with your emotions. Any good relationship takes work from both people & is never one sided.
A low maintenance relationship is where both work & grow together. Where both communicate their needs/wants/desires. The relationship starts as 2 seeds & with proper nurturing, blossoms into something beautiful.
Good blog Ariel.
Interesting comments also.