Drama Queen / King Vs. Easy-Going
The expression "drama queen" is very popular and we can see it quite often on men's profiles on dating sites, for example. Of course, in phrases like: "Please, NO drama queens!". Usually opposed to the expression "easy-going".What is a drama queen and why are men so scared of this type of a woman? I guess it s a woman who:
- makes big problems from literally everything;
- is always ready for a nice scandal;
- is always ready to cry a river;
- always plays the victim...
What are the reasons for such a behavior?
Some women are too vulnerable, histerical, insecure, and/or irritable. Others are just bored and/or consider the drama a good means to make the relationship more exciting. Third ones use the drama as the perfect blackmailing to achieve their goals, since 99% of the men are terrified by scandals, nagging, and tears.
Now, the more surprising for me is that I found out there are drama kings too. The drama behavior has been traditionally attributed only to women considering their specific personality traits. There are men though, who perfectly play the dramatic role. Is it the famous feminisation of the males? Or other issues of the modern era (the women's emancipation, insecurity reasons...)?
Have you behaved as a drama queen/king and what were the results? How do you cope with such a behavior of your partner?
For me, more interesting is the characteristic "easy-going". Most of people (and again, most of men) claim that they prefer to be with someone who is easy-going. What does it mean?
Someone who agrees with you all the time?
Who is in a good mood all the time?
Who doesn t bother you when you are not in a good mood?
Who is easy to talk with about everything?
Who is always patient, considerate, loving, and understanding?
Who is low maintenance (whatever it means)?
Who is not jealous and respects your private space?
Who doesn t have (too) high expectations from you and accepts you for who you are?
Who doesn t rely on you but copes with everything on their own?
Generally, whose presence brings you only positives?
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Yes you are right that most of the women have had at least several such momments! As about a relationship, I have found out which men's types make me act like a drama queen and which one makes me calm and happy enough and doesn t bring the drama person out of me. For I am a quite emotional person and love plays a big role in my life, I need a very stable and confident man who would love me unconditionally and wouldn t pay too much attention to my drama moments. Since my drama moments are usually "drama for nothing", the too big attention to them would make me think that there is a real reason for my worry. In such moments, some humor helps a lot, it grounds me and make me see how absurd my overreaction is. So I love men with good sense of humor.
Good vs bad....maybe I'll elaborate another time on it. At the moment its not coming to me. Lol. To me its like this, give & take....if you take more than you give....high. if you give more than you take....low. Balance is key tho. I hope I'm making sense.
High....more effort. Low...less effort.
But can be seen differently.
The happy medium....50/50 effort.
You know, people are scared of something they don t know and/or can t understand. Their fear automatically transforms into hatred.
And sometimes, the more they get to know somebody, the more they fear and hate, because they get jealous.