No-Answer: Back to Reality
Believe it or not, but in reality I am a quite sweet and kind person. I even have problems with saying "No" sometimes since I don't want to disappoint people.But some questions here bring the worst (or the best?) out of me provoking me to answer "No!" Such as:
Does Love exist? - NO, it doesn't!
Will I ever find my Knight in shining armor? - No, you won't!
Is there any Prince left in this big world? - No, there isn't!
Does he (the scammer) love me? - No, he doesn't!
Shall I stay on this awful site? - No, don't!
Is my love somewhere waiting for me? - No, it isn't!
Anyone out there? - No one!
Am I beautiful/handsome/sexy? - No, you aren't!
What annoys me in such questions is that they want one and only answer: "Yes". They want some cheering up, some ego stroking and they are flirting with the public.
In such cases I am not bad only with other people, I am merciless with myself too: when I pretend I don't know the real answer and ask:
Will he email me soon? - No he won't (because he doesn't care of you)!
Do we have a future together? - No, you don't (because you are different like fire and water, also see the reason above)!
Shall I continue waiting for him? - No, you shan't (see the reasons above)!
Back to reality...
Comments (54)
Its not only you who has that particular problem, have to admit its a hard one to overcome
In the meantime, it is possible to make our reality a little too cold sometimes when it may not be as cold as we may think. Realism is very important but we don't have to completely close the door to the whimsical side of it.
Balance and moderation in thought and approach is usually a good thing
no one takes your hand and presses the keys, no one forces you to press send........you do have choice, to reply or not, to ignore or not.........
What could be happening is that you take out on here any anger you have in your real life.
Just a thought
To tell you the truth, when I am not busy with some practical things I like burying my head in the clouds and dream and think of things far from reality. Together with reading this is my ultimate escape from the "unbearable lightness of being" (quote from a famous writer). :) Sometimes therefore I need the shock of the "No" to balance myself.
/ Nesnesitelna lehkost byti/
from Czech author Milan Kundera.
Not a perfect world so have to live with alot of NO
Yes is what matters for the drive we have all our lives
And the reason these folk ask such "in depth" questions is probable the same reason they fail. Cannot think, cannot string a proper question together. So how do they hold a conversation with someone?
I have spoken with some such individuals in the past. You ask an open question and they answer yes or no !
I get bored and give up so quickly with these individuals.
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dont you think, at times we as an individuals want to hear one particular form of YES, anything relating that yes is not acceptable.
isnt it baised on NO side and unfair to YES
so do u feel the question is a productive one
"What annoys me in such questions is that they want one and only answer: "Yes". They want some cheering up, some ego stroking and they are flirting with the public."
They???
Maybe another philosophy in this could work.
You have to be real when you have to be real, but being able to enjoy a indulgence helps make life more than just the sum of its parts.
> Can we describe the truth without bias?
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Hi Ariel of Sofia,
Have you heard "If you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything?". That question annoys me.
Of course, if you only have something negative to say, I would suggest thinking just a little longer so you can add something less negative to it.
"Negative only" tends to stop activity... yet within an instructive (constructive) context, (don't do that... do this instead) negative comments can be useful.
Someone who always feels defeated (as your blog portrays) may be protecting themselves from disappointment but they likely aren't looking for opportunity anymore. Anyone can feel like this at times... but I think it works against any desire for happiness.
You see, my thought was not about taking/giving love, I have heaps to give. It is about reality and pretending we don't know it. Yes illusions often do great work, but sometimes they are annoying.
Thank you so much, you always know how to please me
And yes you are still balanced!
And one more: the wise doctor cures the cause of the disease rather than symptoms.
To give and recieve love is important to me
Mine you someone did say on here I live in a shelterd world
I am in the same boat, it gives me the right to joke about it, although I know that it is not so funny.
Take care.
Too many negatives? I can make a blog with much more positives but just the topic is the realistic No. Or better said a No to silliness