No-Answer: Back to Reality
Believe it or not, but in reality I am a quite sweet and kind person. I even have problems with saying "No" sometimes since I don't want to disappoint people.But some questions here bring the worst (or the best?) out of me provoking me to answer "No!" Such as:
Does Love exist? - NO, it doesn't!
Will I ever find my Knight in shining armor? - No, you won't!
Is there any Prince left in this big world? - No, there isn't!
Does he (the scammer) love me? - No, he doesn't!
Shall I stay on this awful site? - No, don't!
Is my love somewhere waiting for me? - No, it isn't!
Anyone out there? - No one!
Am I beautiful/handsome/sexy? - No, you aren't!
What annoys me in such questions is that they want one and only answer: "Yes". They want some cheering up, some ego stroking and they are flirting with the public.
In such cases I am not bad only with other people, I am merciless with myself too: when I pretend I don't know the real answer and ask:
Will he email me soon? - No he won't (because he doesn't care of you)!
Do we have a future together? - No, you don't (because you are different like fire and water, also see the reason above)!
Shall I continue waiting for him? - No, you shan't (see the reasons above)!
Back to reality...
Comments (54)
I am quite brave in front of myself cause I can't lie/pretend to myself. At least not for a long time.
Good luck to you too!
> When does optimism turn into foolishness?
> When should we look at our dreams and imaginings and recognize that they will never be reality?
Perhaps I'm on target now... closer to the intent of your blog.
My answer is 'balance'. Optimism and dreams play an important part in reality but will rarely (never?) 'be' reality.
My imagination and my optimism are restrained by reality during the day and less restrained at night. I also enjoy remaining in bed in the morning and allowing my imagination more time to play.
Do we take our dreams seriously and disappoint ourselves by not attempting to achieve them?
As for silly questions people ask publicly... I think the inventors of the Magic 8 Ball and perhaps some of the more serious life-predictors (Tarot Cards) picked up on the pattern of these questions when they developed their systematic way to answer them.
I would call these "attention questions" ... and their primary intent is to trigger a response. Perhaps they can all be read as "Anyone out there?".
btw... Advertising on Google is profitable... that's part of my Saturday routine... to look at cost/benefit of our internet ads for the passed week...
Also, very original thought about the cards... "You ll travel abroad", "A handsome man loves you", "A green-eyed woman is jealous of you", "A love letter coming soon" etc, etc. We need to satisfy our dream needs in a way, and everyone picks their way. Aren't dating sites such Tarot-like way to try our luck? To give shape to our Prince/Princess dreams? To put our "card" (profile) in the game and see what fate will show...
If you watch Ariel's interaction with people on her blogs... how each response is personalized and the way she asks for thoughts to be taken a bit deeper or to be made more complete... I think this is a clear lesson on successful blog hosting.
I know I continue to learn good blogging through lessons like this.
Thank you, Ariel!
Sometimes I get your meaning (in a blog) and sometimes I think I might so just make an attempt... going ahead with my comment even though my understanding doesn't feel complete.
You've probably seen this in me a lot. I believe in speaking what I believe to be the truth in hopes that someone will clarify my understanding without misunderstanding my intent and without hostility. (I think doing this is important for learning and maturity.)
Many have trauma in their past that forces them to remain quiet... so they never ask for clarification as they believe all questions will bring a hostile response.
(a tangent that just started writing itself... it's a key part of who I am and who I seek however, so I'll leave it in.)
> Do dating sites encourage our dreams and allow us to stay away from reality?
Some use them this way. Some distract themselves in other ways. Reality can be harsh and we aren't always strong enough to face it directly. It's like our muscles though... with work, our ability to handle reality becomes stronger (and our skills improve).
How strong are your reality muscles? (perhaps it's own blog topic)
If you believe that people are basically good (and will approach you with honorable intent), allowing them to know what helps them be a friend gives them more confidence in themselves and makes it easier for them to trust you. I believe that understanding leads to confidence and on towards trust.
Blog body to comment relationship... an effort to encourage better blogging... I like the idea. Each will still have their own style and personality... but thinking about how to engage the audience and to return the interest they've shown by writing their comment...
I'm also noting the investment of time... seeing the 10 minute gap between your last comment and mine tells me that I spent more than 10 minutes writing/correcting my comment. I believe you do the same... there is effort involved in good communication and the results need to feel like they were worth the effort.
And before I leave your blog...
A blog of mine about the blog body and the comments wouldn't be an instructive one... I see it more as a study one... with the little help of my friends, the bloggers