Lavender Marriage
Recently, reading about some famous writers and actors, I met the English term "lavender marriage" which I hadn t known before."A lavender marriage is a type of male-female marriage of convenience in which the couple are not both heterosexual and conceal the homosexual or bisexual orientation of one or both spouses. In gay slang, the spouse whose presence conceals the other's s*xual orientation is referred to as a "beard".
Reading more on it, I got (slightly) surprised that in the era of acceptance of homosexuality (at least in the Western world), this type of arranged marriage is still quite spread and even there is a dating site for gays and lesbians called like this!
It seems that it s often practiced by famous people, for example in Hollywood, in purpose not to "ruin their name and popularity".
What do you think of such a solution of a gay situation? Have you got such a proposal and how would you react?
For me, everything that works well for people and makes them happy, without hurting others, is fine. Although lies always reward with stress and other bad reactions...
Comments (23)
Even in the so called " enlightened " countries they still cling to a outmodeled stereotype exsistance . This in it's self would not be so bad except that they expect everyone else to follow suit . Therein lies most of the problem .
PS : Once again a good blog . You have the best ones on here with the most insite, no wonder you are #1 .
I agree with you and that s why I got interested in this topic: these kind of marriages are caused by the prejudices and stereotypes. They are some decision but they are still a lie. And lies cause a lot of stress and unhappiness.
PS ; Yes I did have a great Thanksgiving . I do hope that your weekend is well also .. .
Oh, thank you, but I drink tea in the morning so now a hot chocolate if possible, please
These "ordinary" people I guess in most of the cases accept what s imposed on them by the society or live their lives like weirdos, losers, marginals...
I cannot say I like that because it was deception. But I'm not the Judge so I will refrain. It is was done during the time of the bible, and there too, I will not Judge!
Like you, I didn t know either, that there was a special term for such marriages. I read it in an article about intellectuals who lived at the edge of the 19th and the 20th century. When I googled the term, I saw the site called with this name and it struck me that this type of marriage seems to be a well-spread practice nowadays...