7billion2_1 Blog Comments (18)

RE: ? or !

Gentlejim:-

In other words you are of the opinion that you can post anything you like and not take responsibility for the viewpoint you hold? The blogs are open for public viewing and comment. Provided any person sticks to the rules they do have full rights to debate the issue or disagree with you. People have the right to challenge content placed within the public domain. Within another blogger's blog you make a comment and then state that the debate is over – and end it with period. On what authority do you have the right to tell other people to effectively shut their mouths just because you are uncomfortable with what they are saying? You most certainly do not need to agree with anyone who posts comments and should you not wish to continue a debate it is your perogative. It is, however, not the issue. People have the right to differ and voice their opinion should they wish to do so, unless they are oppressed without such freedom.

RE: FINALLY, IF RELIGION NEVER COUNTED BUT ONLY RELATI

RainComeShine:-

"Perhaps Religious blogs should carry a public health warning."

I shall remember not to sip some coffee before reading your comments in future. I am now reading a coffee coloured blog.

RE: FINALLY, IF RELIGION NEVER COUNTED BUT ONLY RELATI

Connecting Singles is an international virtual place set up to promote interaction between people who are predominately single. Some individuals having joiined the blogs remain on them because of friendship with other bloggers – people have various reasons for remaining on the blogs.

Now although I am a supporter of freedom of speech coupled with responsibility, there is a time and place for everything. My contention is that when you want to blog about some religion, cult, political party then go somewhere else to do it. What would CS be like if every single religion or belief started blogging here – from the radical to the totally insane? What about blogs about every type of political system arguing their merits? Quite frankly people, CS is a place for people who are single to connect. So whatever your belief system – keep it to the place where it belongs – your profile and your private messages.

RE: I’ll Never Fall In Love Again.

usha123 - well they do say the devil is in the detail which in this case is the apple pie recipe. You are quite right - she was the Apple of, I mean, in my Eye.

RE: I’ll Never Fall In Love Again.

QueenUtopia,

Some of us live at the Cape of Good Hope!

RE: I’ll Never Fall In Love Again.

Hi Usha123,

Best apple pie under the shadow of the apple tree at the base of Table Mountain.



Go on take a bite, I mean peep.

RE: I’ll Never Fall In Love Again.

Catfoot,

your comment...

"I think falling in love is a primitive breeding instinct to ensure the survival of the human species. And it is built into our genes to fall in love with strangers to diversify our genetic material."

Well, if the current rate of success on CS is anything to go on by then I do believe the human species is on it's way towards extinction!

Maybe the genetic material found on this site has mutated!

Any volunteers here wanting to go primitive by any chance?

RE: I’ll Never Fall In Love Again.

Catfoot,

I'd say that some of us reach a stage in life when logical decisions are made first which then could grow into love or even allows one to fall in love as it were. A more cautious approach because of past lessons learnt.

Good blog though!

RE: I’ll Never Fall In Love Again.

Hi Catfoot

Thanks for the beer, mate. It will be the only falling around I'll be doing today, it seems.

Usha123! - only one apple? How about a box of apples or some apple pie from me?

RE: Disgusting, To Say The Least!

You mean the "Charlie" type impersonator perhaps?

RE: Faith

FAITH? It is what one needs in truckloads on CS just to get a response.

The Myth of finding "THE ONE”

PrettyPrescious:-

“I didn't think the OP was trying to attack anyone, he is just trying to make a point. So many women AND MEN are looking for perfection, and they are never going to find it. So many people have too narrow of a range of criteria and that rules out some good people....so what ends up happening is they end up never finding anyone; it is better to be more open-minded.”

The Myth of finding "THE ONE”

Catfoot -

Unfortunately this method has its own difficulties!

The Myth of finding "THE ONE”

Mollybaby -

Your post is very encouraging as being the exception to the rule by having taken the time and trouble to discover who the person is and what made him “tick” as you were fortunate enough to slowly discover the personality and thoughts of your current partner.

It is the flexibility in attitude that is so different to the romantic notion that a love of one's life (“The One”) is out there somewhere. Not only would it be exceptionally difficult to find such a person by searching, but trying to maintain a relationship on the basis of a checklist will usually lead to disaster. Sooner or later the partner which was thought to be the perfect “The One,” will not be able to maintain the standards (including additions to the original list) which have been set and this will ultimately lead to disappointment. Often it leads to conduct to try to change the other person's behaviour to suit their idea of perfection.

Having preferences within the realm of dating is natural. Preferences are, however, different to setting out on the endless and frustrating search to find the elusive perfect “The One,” which in reality does not exist. There is also a world of difference between trying to find a "number 1" as opposed to the non-existent "The One."

The Myth of finding "THE ONE”

Interestingly enough comments have been made that men are probably more judgemental in comparison to women when it comes to a selection process using photographs alone. Yet, within the original blog post neither women, nor men are singled out as using physical appearance alone for the purpose of selection.

The reason why engaging in the misguided search of “The One,” is that the criteria attached to finding is often so rigid that it does not allow some flexibility. The extensive checklist is a perfect example of the situation that is being highlighted – should one solitary component of that checklist not be ticked-off then the person is regarded as unsuitable – the person does not fullfill the rigid expectations of “The One.” This situation is totally different to when a general guideline of preferences is kept in mind to determine how much compatibility exists at the start.

It is a pipe dream to think that two people are 100% perfect for each other – no two people want exactly the same things. Some compromise of necessity must occur in any successful relationship for the union to work. People change over time.

Based on the clinical work made by psychologists, too many people continue to mistakingly look for their one and only perfect match.

Of interest is another observation that a number of women over 40 start intensively looking for “The One.” Some men on the other hand are put off entirely by such rigid criteria and therefor prefer dating younger women who have a more flexible outlook.

The Myth of finding "THE ONE”

This blog has absolutely nothing to do with playing, nor people who waste the time of others by being players.

Through general observation and also knowing that a number of friends and acquaintances go for decades being single because of the myth of finding "The One," because of totally unreasonable expectations.

RE: The Poison In Our Food

Hi Catfoot

A highly interesting blog. As regards organic produce, I design modular domestic hydroponic systems that can grow vegetables and herbs either organically or inorganically. No matter regarding aforementioned preference, the most important factor is to eliminate pesticides. Also as water is a scarce resource, this method uses only about 10% of the water as opposed to soil cultivation. At present I have the most wonderful butter lettuce growing hydroponically in my back-yard. I would think that moderation is the key - too much of anything can cause problems or affect diseases such as arthritis. On the other hand certain herbs such as tumeric can be as effective as some of the anti-inflammatory drugs. Also a cream containing cayenne pepper, or if pain is severe - habanero pepper is extremely effective in blocking arthritis pain.

RE: The Telltales Of A Liar.

Catfoot,

After my electric hob was stolen, I installed a gas hob. Brilliant - much more economical and faster too! Also with the load shedding it means that I can cook by candlelight.