Stargazer111 Blog Comments (287)

RE: A Visit To The Nut House

Excuse me for the typos, as long as the meaning is clear and all that was written can be understood, won't correct the mistakes or mind about the mistakes

RE: A Visit To The Nut House

Catfoot,

I've just finished reading the life story now. It's truly very difficult someone to make it without any help or emotional support when faced with difficult life events that are actually unpredictable , unforeseen & unfair.

It's not hard for any person to take the downfall due to powerlessness & helplessness in front of life events.

Reading what took place after the involvement with the law, it's remarkable that this man is still alive really.

We are all human & it is possible for everyone to both take a downfall or even get involved with the law when faced with difficult life events that as in this case, led to the distress of this man as, it would have led any normal, sensible, logical person to distress when found themselves in the situation.

Being aware of the above (human nature & possibility for any person to find themselves in that position) does come with the responsibility of another to make sure, they do not reach in a much worse situation than before, to rise up-the sooner, the better.

RE: A Visit To The Nut House

Catfoot,

I will read it now along with my morning coffee and get back to you after this

RE: mesmerised

Poor cattle!

RE: Are you who you say you are?

Everyone is able to present themselves on the blogs & their blogs in whatever way they want.

How real that is, whether real or fake is indeed a very important matter for any person who is real and in need of what's real in their lives.

I don't bother with what's or who is fake both on the internet or this site(blogs, forums, private messaging service)or in real life (face to face interactions & relationships).

As long as I recognise who or what is fake & become aware of this & that what's presented as fake as, it's not always that easily detected or obvious.

RE: SOUL OF LOVE

Unlike any other sites I've tried out , this is a site for all ages.

It is definitely a great bonus to receive great advice or inpiration from people with great wealth of life experience & connect with people from different ages & backgrounds in addition to having plenty of choice in the age range I'm looking for (28-50) in regards to dating.



Not all is about dating & meeting someone

RE: A Visit To The Nut House

Catfoot,

I have not visited a mental institution but, did speak to people who have already been there & have come out. Then, professionals who have worked with them for many years.The majority of people spoken with have gone both to prison & a mental institution.

The worst part of this was that, them locked up (prison or mental institution or both) was absolutely unfair & uneccesary. Therefore, wrongful.

This was later confirmed by a friend social worker who later went to do psychiatric nursing and work in a ward with patients with serious mental disorders.

I think the hardest or most painful thing of all to hear from people who were wrongfully, unfairly & unnecessarily ended up in prison or mental institution or both was how their lives have been completely destroyed first & foremost , by the unnecessary , wrong medication that were forced(and did not want)to take during their incarceration.

In all cases of these cases , all that was required for the "destruction of their whole lives" as all these people spoken to without exception verbalised & made reference to and their experience was the wrong lawyer or doctor or both.

It was really very hard & painful to hear them expressing this. Then, describing the context of unfair, wrongful & unnecessary conviction or hospitalisation , how all took place, unfolded in the process & consequences it had upon their minds, mindsets, thinking processes, lives & relationships.

It sounds that it was suggested to you by your acquaintance you mentioned on your blog to visit the mental institution they worked at or them at this institution.

You mentioned in your comment that "you were reluctant" of going there. If you don't mind me asking, what was the motivator factor that finally led to the decision to visit this mental institution?.

Thanks.

RE: What do you think about people on this C.S site

@ Lukeon ,

I want to meet these "dead serious members" who are "here just once a week".

RE: What do you think about people on this C.S site

Hello Mr. Rich ,

Great observation about many people being "unserious" on this site, I must say . You used the word "more" so not sure whether you are comparing this site to other sites you've been to or in real life, saying that "there are more unserious people here than on other dating sites" or "more than in real life".

In the few months I have been on this site, with the exception of the men currently talking with as I do not yet how they are or will behave, absolutely none of the men I've spoken to, were serious/honest about what they wanted the least, just absolutely unserious or not serious, just passing their time, wasting my time for, they obviously didn't have anything better to do with their time.

Take care.

RE: Happy Easter

Happy Easter!

RE: Would you rather never watch tv again or never use social media sites?

Hi Garland ,

Giving up TV was one of the best things I've ever done! The only social site currently used is this one & I have no problem in giving it up anytime I want to do this. Would I rather never used this?. No.

RE: IT'S A DOGS WORLD

Hi Wen yes, thank you; hope the same for you. If I lost my faith & trust in another then, there's no point in walking on eggshells waiting for the next inevitable bite.

I can understand all these to be happening in a work environment but, not on a personal level & sphere. Awareness should serve a purpose & if there are no children or a work contract then, there's no point of someone walking on eggshells or waiting for the next inevitable bite.

Again, a vast subject.

RE: IT'S A DOGS WORLD

@ Wen ,

Good morning from this side of the world

It's an "unexpected bite" only when we turn a blind eye, ignore & excuse & taken in a very light way a, b, c, d, e, f, g and so on....I think & when we shouldn't.

Of course, as in every matter in this area, it is easier said than done

RE: IT'S A DOGS WORLD

Wen, I have faith & trust in people before I get to know them for, I want to believe in the best of and for people, that's the part of which I was talking about....

Once my faith & trust is gone, it's forever gone but, when I see a dog biting another, don't need to place any faith & trust in that I won't get bitten at some point by that dog as well so in that case, I'm shifting to the second category of people who do expect to get bitten.

A dog doesn't have to bite you personally to see the biting of you in the future coming.

As far as what you said,

Better not have hopeless hopes & it all depends what kind of hurt it was...

RE: IT'S A DOGS WORLD

*or can't experience any feelings of guilt.

RE: IT'S A DOGS WORLD

Hello again Wen ,

I have faith & trust in others until the first bite. After this, I don't need any further bites, especially from old dogs who know of lots of tricks.

So I guess, this places me in the first category of "walking into life not expecting and listen to others".

Yes, I know it's stupid but, for me, it's better to have faith & trust than to misjudge someone as, I can't live with my conscience or myself as the worst critic of me because of my conscience.

In other words, lucky them who have no conscience or can experience any feelings of guilt!

And, unlucky those who have to suffer from the above!.

BEWARE OF THE DOG!

RE: Have You Ever

@ Mercedes ,

My post above is for across the board relationships/mates/ and mates who pretend to be your mate but are in actual fact players.

Yes mates can be players!~

Well said, that definitely comes under the "lemon" description perfectly!

RE: Have You Ever

Good morning Track ,

Yes, definitely!, is the answer to your question.

RE: THE PROBLEM OR THE SOLUTION.

Wen ,

I'm going to log off this site for now...

"Deal with it on its own"= take responsibility for all of his action and what comes under his responsibility, you aren't there to clear up the mess he created but, to support him emotionally to clear up his own mess, him to take the necessary actions a,b,c,d and not you for him.

The best and safest option is the first one,

Maybe you can discuss from the beginning and have another conversation but, about the initial conversation, I don't know anyone who would have wanted to say much more after being told "I don't see where the problem is" so, maybe there was something more there that he was trying to tell you and may have taken it as you wouldn't understand so he said nothing.

I still hold the initial view or feeling that,

Maybe there was something more there that he wanted to tell you but he could not.

If you are to have a conversation from the beginning you will have to leave all negative prejudice that I believe is there due to past behaviour on the side and come up with a new course of action if the one up to now applied is not working(different way of dealing with matters).

I kind of understood but, not completely and the best I have based on what "I kind of understood" is this.

Hope you find the solution to these problems.

Good night

RE: THE PROBLEM OR THE SOLUTION.

@ Wen ,

32 years old that's a man not a boy. I kind of understood I think...based on what I kind of understood, I would not have taken his side at all if i believe he wasn't right in what he said and told him that "he is old enough to deal with it on its own".

RE: THE PROBLEM OR THE SOLUTION.

@ Wen,

Star, You know as good as I do that there is negative people in this world, there is something wrong in there life and they don't like seeing anyone else happy. Iti is sad but you need and me and everyone else need to stay focused on the positive side, do you agree. 

True, true, true, if they can't be happy nobody else should be or feel happy. If they feel and are miserable then all should feel and be miserable.

Yes, I agree with focusing on the positive side, no matter what!

Sometimes we think we have problems when really is none, but we are bothered about something, I had my son tell me some things the other day that he thought was a problem, after listening to him all I could think and say was I don't see a problem, but it was bothering him.

I don't know how old is your son and what the specific problem is but, what I would have asked is, What's the reason you see this as or is/constitutes a problem for you?

There's always certain reasons why.

If someone sees or feels something as a problem then, there's a problem and this problem is valid for them (whoever feels as such).

If "it was bothering him" that's another problem itself in addition to "it" and what that was.

That's the beginning point for me and how I deal with this.

Maybe you can discuss from the beginning and have another conversation but, about the initial conversation, I don't know anyone who would have wanted to say much more after being told "I don't see where the problem is" so, maybe there was something more there that he was trying to tell you and may have taken it as you wouldn't understand so he said nothing.

Sorry, you may not like what I say above but, that's how I see it.

RE: THE PROBLEM OR THE SOLUTION.

@ Wen ,

and I do hate to say but there are people who like to add to problems rather than discuss or solve problems. Star it is just life and even though sad but part of it. 

I agree with both of what you said above. But, there's always a solution and no solution is found through negativity and that's exactly why negativity is deliberately created by those who want to create problems or further problems.

The key to the second comment,

Now Whenever, deal with the problem of my "long answer" to your long blog.

Unlocked(what's meant).

It's all in the eyes of the beholder and it happens often others to see problems where there are no problems and therefore, create problems out of nowhere and when there was absolutely none in the first place and to begin with.

It's up to each individual to figure out what's really the problem.

RE: THE PROBLEM OR THE SOLUTION.

Now Whenever, deal with the problem of my "long answer" to your long blog

RE: THE PROBLEM OR THE SOLUTION.

@ Wen ,

That's indeed a very true statement "be the problem or the solution".

It is all a matter of choice and the choice of few to be the solution whereas of the choice of the many to be a problem and create nothing but further problems to others, just a reflection of what's going on in the head of each individual.

Healthy or unhealthy.

How you deal with problems and someone who creates or loves creating problems problems or further problems, indeed , it does show integrity in addition to how healthy a mind and person is.

Take care.

Expectations. Part 1

Hello Kal ,

Don't worry about it, if and when you do, if you want to, you can come back & share.

Take care.

RE: To Love Or Not To Love

Hello again Catfoot ,

We are in the age of Copy & Paste

Unfortunately or fortunately, I haven't reached the age of "copy paste" yet.

RE: To Love Or Not To Love

Hello Catfoot ,
Don’t miss your dreamboat when it arrives. And if you discover that it is not the dreamboat that you thought it was, there is nothing to prevent you from jumping ship at the next harbor.? 

There's so much good advice on your blog and the above is the second advice from it that I particularly like.

For me , this is one of your best blogs read up to now since I signed on this site (or most of the last ones as they popped up while and when I'm online).

Star,
That is why I never tell a would be lover what I want. If the know what to do it becomes artificial. 

"It becomes artificial" only in the case of another is fake or artificial and wants to play games with the wants even feelings of others.

Everyone (normal) wants to be loved and accepted for who they are. All, including emotional fraudsters do know of this, that's the starting point of all frauds.

I think I will write down on a piece of paper all good advice given in your blog to remember this.

Thank you for the good advice in it, take care

RE: WE NEED A COMMITTEE

You are welcome Wen.

I am absolutely certain that even the moderators and the whole site itself is being moderated.

Nevertheless, as far as I know, this is an American site.

It is just up to the individual I think to take action. As long as they can, able to and have the means-this in reference to the previous comment for those who cannot or able to.

Yes, sure , these will or may always be taking place but, it should lessen.

RE: To Love Or Not To Love

Gold or a gem is just rare to find especially when another knows exactly what kind of gem they are looking for.

RE: To Love Or Not To Love

Good morning Catfoot

You have to love with your eyes open. When you see the signs, don’t believe that it will go away for it will only grow worse. Break it off sooner than later and make it a clean break. Rather take a small hurt now than a much bigger hurt later.

What a great advice!. That is very true. What I often say is "good becomes better, bad becomes worse".

Have a good day!