ThadSmith Blog Comments (62)

RE: there is this man, who is not married, I have visi

Oh yes "Drea," you know I dont candycoat anything.....I'm glad I could got yet another laugh outta you

RE: kids and dating

You've implied that a man is not a true man because he doesn't accept a woman & her kids, & that women (with no kids) are not ready for life because she may not wanna deal with interruptions of possible shady calls from your X saying your kids are sick (which may be true, or a ploy to get you over there to her), your date is being dropped off & left to wonder all night if you're checking on your sick kids, which may later lead to you pulling an overnight slumber party with your X & kids' mother. Then you state men that don't open up to those situations need to grow up, get a life, or we'll regret it. Well, i've regretted EVERY experience I've had with a single mom trying to put obligations & responsibilities on me, that should be put on her deadbeat kid(s) dad, or she needs to make up for whats missing. I won't state that that is every single parents' motive to place on outsiders, but some of us have tried & no longer have energy nor time to reattempt the inevitable in a lot of these situations. Some men & women with no kids, want primary attention & affection, wanna be 1st in a relationship, & don't wanna deal with extra drama which is an ok decision. You forgot one other option for us men, (a) grow up, (b)get a life, & i'm adding (c)move on. I choose (b)& (c). It's a lot less stressful & easier to gain trust.

RE: kids and dating

Obviously some men haven't dated a single mom whose asked "If I were to have your kid later, would you treat the kid I had with you better than the kid(s) I already have?" Well, thats an arguement from hell I dont ever wanna have again!

RE: ?The beauty of a woman?

If beauty of a woman is present, yes she must see it, for it affects her confidence & self esteem & worth. But just her solely seeing it isn't the only thing that matters unless she's going to just be with herself. A man must see it as well. How she takes care of herself regarding hygiene, make-up enhancement, her hair, how she wears her clothes, her figure & health do contribute to her overall beauty (including her inner qualities & spirituality, if present).

RE: Never married but have kids

Marriage is secure if its decided by a man & woman at the right time, with total understanding of vows, commitment, & of course God has to be involved. The divorce rate is high because the above is missing, couples lose focus, become impatient, quit, go astray, or didn't know what marriage was truly about when they walked the isle. If there isn't marriage, there should be no kids. Sometimes divorce is a must, but that should be after every curable remedy has been tried & exhausted.

RE: Sick of the intolerance

"TOL," the car wreck example about whose really responsible for the damages is a perfect example. A lot of them say we're not responsible for their kids, or having to do anything but wait till birthdays come around or babysitting is needed & you're the only one standing around, or when you come over to see her & the crazy kids' father is hiding in a pair of bushes watching you with binos & you notice a red laser dot on your chest, or when he confronts you & tells you how much you won't filling his spot as a father.....its just too much!

RE: Have question for the ladies

ThadSmith & his dog have just fainted on the living room floor. They will be out cold for estimated 10 mins.

RE: A puzzle that is near impossible to solve???

....& then during the course of the "i'm gonna save & change him" phase & while everything that "Jac" & I mentioned earlier that the morons exhibit to her, reproduction occurs, then ULTIMATE CHALLENGE comes, which is taking care of a lil moron just like the moron father is. Simply amaaaaaaaazing! Now if the good/decent guy wants in.....he's gotta pick up all the fallin' pieces & deal with the lil moron while daddy moron is long gone doing the same things with another woman.

RE: Have question for the ladies

The 1st comment is a good recommendation.

RE: So many whys...

Oh I will "Kalypso," as soon as you change "whatch" into watch.

RE: AND U THOUGHT WOMEN ARE EMOTIONAL AND SENSITIVE

Well "Venus," I felt your energy approaching. For me, I raised my bar a long time ago. The issues i've had & noticed commonly, is that every caliber of woman is susceptable to being the cause of many issues like inability to communicate, not knowing themselves, drug habits, & bipolar behavior aforementioned in previous blogs (that aren't about silly poetry, whose left the site & returned, whose bored sitting on labtops looking for nice people, & anything else unsubstantial that wont solve any issues between male/female relations) of substance. My surprises from some women have come after they take off what "Smittens" mentioned, masks.

RE: Searching a nice man ;)

There are characteristics "nicer than nice," & she didnt mention them. So far, her search shouldn't be hard at all.

RE: Searching a nice man ;)

Groosgot! You just hit the jackpot Every guy is "nice." Are there any qualities in a man you're looking for?

RE: Sick of the intolerance

Additionally, men who don't seek or date single moms is because some men DON'T wanna be 2nd in at all. Some of us wanna come 1st. I've had a few single moms tell me "well, my kids come first." But when I tell'em "well, my dogs come first," they get an attitude. I've had some tell me "oh well you dont ever have to do anything for my kids & I raise them myself," yet when they're birthdays came around, (to her) I was wrong for not getting them anything. These are the reasons why some men are so INTOLERANT.

RE: Top 5 Habits Women Love

It would be effective for a lot of women because everything would be their way & their expectations would be met to the T. Men would be robots & none of us would have our own way of expression to women.

RE: Top 5 Habits Women Love

Miss Venus, I want you to create a bionic computer chip with the above mentioned program, that men can have injected into their brain-housing-group so we can see what will happen. I wont express my prediction.

RE: Top 5 Habits Women Love

Ohh I love this.....all of the above is wonderful, the sky is the limit, but wait...what if a man has done all those things such as what you mentioned, calling to show interest & concern=but no answer from her or she says i'll callu when I get outta the shower & it turns into a 4 day shower she took? Or when a man invites her out to do something SHE likes, she agrees, but later turns into a stand-up or she changes her mind with short notice to go out with her girls to go PAU-TAY? Or what about when a man has done EVERYTHING you mentioned but to her, it still isn't enough because she's ungrateful? AMAZING.

RE: We all wear many masks..........

I wear body armor. Thats to prevent mistreatment whether it be verbal/emotional attacks & even rejection. But who I am underneath, I have identified with. Other people may leave masks on too long, to the point that when they take it off to reveal themselves to the other person, its like meeting their twin, now questions & flags gotta go up.... she may be a bipolar disaster.

RE: Standing people up and stuff (Rant!!)

Well, if anything, he may have stood you up for when another female stood him up before, kind of as a get-back, & if thats the case, thats unfortunate & will probably make you nervous the next time a meet is arranged with another man. But what he pulled on you, is what makes us good & responsible men look bad. I think your last paragraph (why waste time) sums up what kind of mullet you dealt with.

RE: Why does women keep disapearing

Some of the above mentioned could be possibilities...OR....a common excuse of game-players that wanna be chased to kingdom-come by having multiple msgs pop up for them so they feel popular. If they do respond a few times with short insignificant msgs of nothing & no substance, they just want a guy's attention until other flattering compliments come from others & their game repeats itself with another round with different people while you're left behind. Plus they probably get a laugh out of it. But what amazes me is....when they do find who they THINK is right, & her (& possibly kids from him) get left & abandoned (from all her games earlier in her life of dropping possibly good men) now she's crying wondering why it happened. AMAZING.

RE: What if you keep finding the True Love

Instead of walking & typing, do it sitting down to avoid that stub. Yea, "CT's" workin on that. lol!

RE: What if you keep finding the True Love

Thanx "CT!" Its all good! Even my dog is confused about whats been goin on out here! By the way "Venus," you have brought up some good points previously & up till now. Theres just been somethings I had to address from a man's standpoint.

RE: What if you keep finding the True Love

The longevity, thriving, & successful relationship is based on cause-&-effect. A relationship is not based on horoscope, the coordinance of the stars each night, how many goatmen are in a crystal ball, or any tarot cards. A relationship is what a man & woman make it, equal respect, consideration for the other, weighing the worth of any risks, & love. Now if two peoples' personalities are not compatable, even still theres actions of 1 or both people that lead to the demise of the relationship. "Venus" I didnt prior state in any comment that put down all women, just the selfish ones that aren't considerate & cant live rightiously. Thanks for the credit "CT."

RE: What if you keep finding the True Love

Oh "Venus," we are the creators of our own experience totally only if its just us vs. life itself. The moment we involve another human being (regarding a relationship or marriage) who has their own mind & actions/decisions they make that can us, they too have a crucial involvement in our experience. I'm not one to runaway or jump-ship like a lot of people at the first sign of conflict or friction with a significant other. I believe in resolution & allowing a woman im with to adjust, correct, or improve in a personal area of flaw that exists. Now, any further acts of provocation, disregard, no effort to improve or COMPROMISE that leads to us being mentally anguished or hurt for an longer duration of time from the time conflicts were addressed, then yes it can become our fault if we choose stay in the relationship.

RE: What if you keep finding the True Love

I've found plenty of blame & fault on a woman in a few past relationships from some of them being bipolar, in denial of flaws & glitches, inconsideration, disrespectful, ungratefulness, & of course the biggie: COMMUNICATION FAILURE. All of these factors lead to those reasons to discontinue the relationship. But one would think people who truly love eachother wouldnt disregard or violate the other, or put effort into correcting improving flaws & major glitches.

RE: Hard to find?!

I dont think so "Kalypso." If I thought it was "too anything" I wouldnt have posted at. Ask the people who rated it nines & tens.

RE: A female divorce lawyer!

Its a shame, but advice taken.

RE: i have pics

Anotha trickster in true form.

RE: What is the good way to do if you find out that yo

What are you referring to when you say "nothing." Anyway, its stupid to pretend anything in life. Halloween is only 1 day outta the year.

RE: Hard to find?!

Excellent point from the first comment!