I don't usually talk about this...I find it to be a treacherous subject...but my hobbit's name is Wilburt, and he prefers living in my exercise room as opposed to out in the hobbit hill I so painstakingly constructed for him...
That's so weird. Must be getting late because I first read that: "I don't have to worry about being laid again." I was thinking this paralegal stuff must offer better perks than I'd imagined...
I guess I must be missing something. How can one be intimate without encountering someone?
I guess some ladies are just afraid of showing their feelings. It's sad to think they might be missing the chance of a lifetime to spill their souls to someone as clearly sympathetic and romantic as the OP.
Hmmm...what's this "waving arms in the air" business? What in the world would it have to do with satisfying some CSers? Applause I can see, but mere hand-waving? Seems sort of empty somehow...
I think that's an excellent point. It's not just men who are afraid of intimacy - some women are, too. A lot of them just claim to want to be friends, and to start slow, and really don't want the deep level of intimacy that true romantics like Big desire.
I really hate it when women view me unnecessarily, too, particularly when I'm awfully busy and have a headache and/or cold. I really just don't have time for it.
I would bet heavily that *anyone* could fall in love with someone they haven't met physically - it would just take the right circumstances and the right person.
A story idea I've had illustrates to me the near-certainty of my claim: imagine being isolated on a "desert island" and having a Ham radio where you can communicate with someone...let's say a lady on the other unreachable side of the island. Over the years you share everything...except physical things. Does anyone here truly believe that an incredibly powerful bond would not develop between these two people, and that if they were quite compatible even love could (and inevitably would) result?
But playing miniature golf with him will? Sorry, I couldn't resist that.
I suspect that the reason I can say I'm in love with someone sans physically meeting them - which I did - is because the communication is so very paramount to me.
Which raises the interesting possibility that one could be in love with someone and still not be - for any number of more "physical" reasons such as "chemistry" - romantically compatible with them.
Not sure you got my point, Snuggs, which is that for some of us conversation is an extremely important activity - and that can be carried on very easily by phone or computer (I include phone conversation as part of "virtual communication," by the way).
I think you hit the gator on the head there, John. It all reduces to judgment in any case, and clearly some people have a lot of difficulty with that in "real life" as well.
I do think it's rather easier to carry on a masquerade virtually, but many people are capable of pulling that off in-person, too.
Right, but I think you'd agree that all those activities were a means to an end - enjoying and getting to know each other. Instead of playing a round of miniature golf, perhaps we could talk all night, or reveal our deepest dreams or fears? All these things are means to an end, no?
I believe if you listen VERY carefully (taking all those "right hints" ), you can learn a gianormous amount about an individual, either in-person or virtually. It may go faster in person, and be more accurate in some ways, but I think it's possible, given time and will, to accomplish something roughly equivalent virtually.
RE: What's your strange habbit?
I don't usually talk about this...I find it to be a treacherous subject...but my hobbit's name is Wilburt, and he prefers living in my exercise room as opposed to out in the hobbit hill I so painstakingly constructed for him...