This one reminds me a bit of those Jesus profile paintings you see in so many houses (what better model for Jesus than some Odin-worshiping Scandinavian? ).
I love it when people write "Just me" under their photos. Aside from the amazing informativeness of that comment, it almost sounds apologetic somehow...
Yeah, L, you're one of the ones here who does it right when it comes to profile photos, imo. I really enjoy a lot of variety in profile photos - get to see the person in different light, angles, expressions, and settings...
It's funny, Snuggie. I actually do make a very good Jesus (white anglo-saxon, buff version) when I let my hair grow long and wear a beard. I should put up a photo like that at some point. Not sure why the grass on my head makes you think of him, though...
I update them more or less continuously, but that's no doubt a bit extreme. I find it reassuring when people change their photos periodically, because it makes feel they're more real, and also that I'm involved in a small way in their lives.
I imagine some people don't revise their profile because: 1) they're satisfied with their photos; 2) they just aren't terribly interested in portraying their immediate selves; 3) a current photo would portray them in an unflattering light; 4) they'd prefer to maintain some anonymity with older photos; 5) they don't have a camera handy; 6) they aren't particularly taken with their physical appearance and don't see themselves being worth the effort to updates pics...and the list no doubt goes on and on.
I'll take a little different tack from the other posters, as usual. I think it's very possible that you're still suffering from the loss of your fiance, and are wary about experiencing the risk of such pain again - the risk that comes from any deep romantic relationship. So, you found someone you can never be with - and thus can avoid this risk - in a love that is safe and hopeless.
I suspect if you're honest with yourself, you would never want to be with a man who cheats on his wife.
Exercise is really the key. Also, as another poster pointed out, strengthening the stomach muscles through various forms of situps (which I'm doing a lot of as we speak) will help with your back.
Sounds to me like you may need to do some stretching exercises. You can simply bend over and hang for awhile, letting your hands touch the floor (or come as close as possible), then straighten up slowly. Deep knee bends are a good strengthener of lower back and thigh muscles (using your legs diligently during lifts helps avoid back issues).
There are tons of more advanced exercises, some involving weights, which you can locate online easily enough.
My solution? I used to have lower back problems as a young man. They went away when - and this might seem counter-intuitive - I began doing squats. Squats involves placing a weight on your back and essentially performing a deep knee bend. Something called "dead lifts" also helped. I no longer have any back problems...quite the contrary, my back is extremely strong.
Right. He couldn't very well go after his friend if his friend knows the scoop, could he? Also, that would explain why his older friend's so unafraid in his advances.
Yeah, I think you should have a long talk with her, Sultry.
Almost sounds to me like the younger husband has something going on with this older couple...? There's no sane reason for him to discount his wife's information like that - unless he already knew about or suspected what was happening and either approved or didn't care. Something's "rotten in Denmark" here, as the saying goes...
I just looked at my comment again, and I have no idea what I was thinking. I must've thought I was responding to something with my usual sardonic/facetious wit, but for the life of me, I don't know what it was, Mind. Please accept my heartfelt apologies.
Now...seriously...here's the thing: this guy is very likely not an innocent idiot, as some have hypothesized here. He seems bright enough, and has had PLENTY of opportunity to express a serious romantic interest in you, and hasn't. Four years is more more than sufficient time. Therefore, I deduce that he's not interested in you romantically (from your description, I sort of wonder if he might be gay). Don't know what he's thinking exactly, of course, but as the movie said: "He's just not that into you."
His response over dinner completely confirms my thesis, as far as I'm concerned. You'll need to look elsewhere for your love, I'm afraid.
Nothing necessarily cowardly about it at all, J - often it's just a matter of good sense. Love CAN work despite distances - particularly distances involving different countries - but realistically, it is MUCH harder to make work.
Yeah, it's funny about Hedo... Years ago when he debuted on the Kings in Sacramento, I thought: Wow - this guy's gonna be a star! But then years of not living up to that potential followed...and now, finally, he seems to have found his inner basketball talent. It's really good to see - I always thought he could have great game.
What I'm getting at is that we unconsciously - and doubtless consciously, to a degree - adjust our esthetic standards downward to reflect our new estimations about what kind of woman we can attract.
I don't believe any man or woman would indulge in such a downward adjustment if they didn't feel they had to. All the wonderful words about "inner beauty" are generally just rationalizations, of the type a very poor intellectual might make about the great joys of inner peace found in poverty.
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RE: How often do you Update your Photos?
At least I look worshipful to me...