Ambrose2007 Forum Posts (8,881)

RE: Opposites Attract ....

That was a seductive analogy that Sultry used (and she was obviously seduced! ), but I agree with you for once, """"L"""".

RE: Opposites Attract ....

That's actually a rather profound point. You surprised me with that one, Rodolpho...

RE: Opposites Attract ....

Well, I don't we have much disagreement, then, Sultry. I'm seeing a similar consensus among the posts which follow - that relationships work best (or work well at all) when there's a "core" similarity in values, tastes, basic personality, etc.

In response to Jan - I don't contest that opposites do attract for, as she wrote, a variety of reasons. But I think the common belief that there's something especially powerful about such an attraction - more powerful than the attraction between similar personalities - is probably false (though it would be interesting to perform a semi-scientific study on that, and I would be open to results which contradict my supposition).

Part of the problem is that "opposite" can often encompass illusion: that is, it may only appear that one's attitudes or behaviors are opposite, when in fact they may be another side of the basic personality coin, if you will. Also, one might have *some* opposite (or opposed) traits while having many others in sync. So while observing these opposing qualities, which may be more obvious, we might miss the underlying dominant commonalities...?

RE: Opposites Attract ....

I'm not sure exactly what to make of the first part of your sentence, Sultry. First, I'm not sure that opposites do in fact attract more intensely or more often than "likes" attract. I would suspect that more often likes attract. In any case, I don't mean to discourage anyone from adjusting to differences in a partner - that's unavoidable - but I would caution that one minimize those differences as much as possible, because they will tend to pry apart a relationship, imo.

RE: Opposites Attract ....

(Same for Sweet's post, which echoes yours, Diva (or is it the other way around? )

RE: Opposites Attract ....

I think that having someone whose strengths correspond to your weaknesses can be a good thing - to a very limited extent. Same goes for different tastes, behaviors, etc. To a limited extent they can work.

But I would agree with Sweet that the vast majority of personality traits ought to be held in common between two lovers. That's the core the differences are built around. I certainly don't believe that introverts attract - or are compatible with - extroverts, in general, Sultry. In my experience, they're a VERY poor match, depending, of course, on what one takes those qualities to mean.

RE: No reason to pretend

Ch-ch-ch-chaanges...!!

I like your flexibility of mind, Tony...but hand-holding!? Next thing you'll want to spend every night in bed with her cuddling the dark hours away!

When you're ready, SHE will come...I think.

RE: Celebrities you resemble

I see it in the basic shape of your face and your hair, Athens...?

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RE: Celebrities you resemble

Thank God you'll never hear me sing... Anyway, now I'm REALLY back to looking like Bono. Thanks, S, for playing along. I've always wondered if I'm seeing things, and apparently I am (being mostly blind to the Bono resemblance )

RE: Celebrities you resemble

I think I'd better give up while I'm...ahead?

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You have a thing for singers, don't you? Okay, how about this one?

RE: Celebrities you resemble

Thanks (I think), Sultry.

Jeff Bridges?

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I wish I were, too!

RE: Celebrities you resemble

Hmmm...well, here's the one that reminds me of Bono...?

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Yeah, well, I don't even think Matt Damon's particularly good-looking (usually my "celebrity" photos don't strike me as flattering of me), so I don't see that as something I'd want to be. Now Halle Berry...that's a whole 'nother situation. In your current main photo, I can see that...in others, more Beyonce...?

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I think you've got Bono on your mind, Sultry!

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That's what I'm trying to figure out. Is it all an illusion regarding how we see ourselves sometimes?

For example - I see Matt Damon here..?

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Here's Bill Hurt (am I right)??

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Thanks, Sultry! But I suspect you may be projecting a bit (I'm presently like one of those clouds people can see whatever they wish to see in, I think)...?

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It's weird, JW...after watching that movie it was as though I began to metamorphose into a more Bill Hurtish form... Maybe I could get work as a double for him (particularly if they make a sequel to that movie!)

RE: Celebrities you resemble

Are you talking to me, Zee? You talkin' to me?

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I have to say, you do sort of have his nose, Ken...

RE: Celebrities you resemble

It's funny about resembling celebrities. I rarely hear that in real-life, but my photos of myself...sometimes they seem to be of someone else. People my photos have reminded me of are: Bono, Bill Hurt, Bill Murray, Paul Neuman, Peter Fonda, Sting (a little), Slash, and Jim Morrison. I think because I have basically bland features that can assume many different molds...? Either that, or I'm experiencing hallucinogenic flash-backs from my more hedonistic days?

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Don't ever let her get a new glasses prescription, Lag!

RE: Well I am officially ...

I see on your profile that you've met "Mr. Wonderful." Are you planning to share a home together?

RE: No reason to pretend

You mean, Ken...you're NOT perfect??!!

RE: No reason to pretend

And speaking of pretending...I seem to be pretending to be the Elephant Man or something. I need to do something about this god-awful photo...

RE: What happened before the big bang?

Before the Bang there was no Time ,so nothing happened.
Or there was a period of contraction lasting billions of years opposite an earlier(??) Bang...

Or there was Dinner and a Movie.[/quote

RE: No reason to pretend

Have you felt the desire to pretend, T, at one point or another? Have you experienced negative consequences from someone pretending something with you?

Are you sure there never is a reason - a valid reason - for being less than forthcoming? Is honesty absolute, or should it be modified by other, possibly higher, values?