I don't drink, but I used to (a lot), so I guess I am used to the judgements. In my line of work, someone who does not partake is a bit of a pariah, but there's solace in one thing I noticed: Not drinking seems a bit more accepted here in California. Or at least I feel less like I have grown a third eye in my forehead.
I'm pretty quick to acquiesce, or, at the very least, go quiet. If both parties feel they are right - hell, just leave it at that. Probably an over-simplification, to be sure.
She came by when I was not home (she told me, of course, and I guess it was better I was not here) and procured her things. It was a LOT of stuff (she pretty much lived here on the weekends). The place seemed empty, even though it was not.
One thing she is still connected to is one of the motorcycles in the garage. I was looking at used bikes at a dealership, and it was she that convinced me that I worked hard, I was in So Cal now, and I deserved it. She was right. It was my first brand new bike in some twenty years. I still make the connection, and I still can't get rid of it. It's a beautiful machine.
Their finances would not be too much of a concern, and I would help someone, that is, within reason.
Actually, my ex girlfriend was a banker and a whiz financially. I was doing okay with bills, but she had the plan and the path I still benefit from today.
Vacation! Damn, I get four weeks, and have taken one day off this year...must do something about this.
The last real vacation (or holiday) I took, was, well, something "we" took. We drove up along the coastline here towards Central Cal, stayed in several places (San Luis Obispo, Morro Bay), and since I had not seen much of this state at that point, it was fantastic. A fond memory, this.
RE: Who would you fight?
Thankfully I don't spend that much time here.Geez, I should shower and shave, it's been like three days...