In my opinion it makes no matter what the definition of love is, the truth still remains that love isn't something you can buy nor beg. It is real and existing. You can't touch it but you can feel it in your heart. You can't find it, but it will knock before you when you least expect it to come.
To me a sucessful relationship is....if you spent a considerable amount of time with someone who touched your life for the better in some way, even if it did not end up in marriage, then you should consider it a positive experience. I believe that people come into our lives at different times for various reasons. For example, you may meet someone right before the death of a loved one, and that person may be the one who will help you through it. You may develop a relationship with someone who has an odd set of beliefs and opinions, and that person’s presence may be necessary in order for you to expand your mind and maximize your potential. You could also establish a relationship with someone who treats you better than anyone else ever has, and I believe that person was meant to raise your standards for the kind of life you make for yourself. Conversely, if you have a relationship with someone who turns out to be unfaithful, consider that you made contact with and had affection for another human being who ended up teaching you a valuable lesson about trust, awareness, and forgiveness. In my mind, the key to determining if a relationship was successful lies in how it impacted your life. And as long as you enjoyed yourself for a time and were able to avoid long periods of unhappiness or suffering, then I’d say you can check one off in the win column! I believe the goal in relationships should be to spend the moments of your life wisely and to savor every emotion. If you have established a relationship with someone who, as it turns out, is not right for you, so what? You made a connection and, hopefully, a friend. You participated in the flow of your life, made the most of the experience, and continued to move forward. Because isn’t that what our lives really are? A journey over an unknown period of time where our experiences help us to understand and grow and change ourselves and our communities as we search for meaning and happiness and answers to our questions about God and ourselves? Those are the reasons why we have relationships, why we feel love and laughter and wonder and sadness, and why we have to let go and be happy anyway.
Here's what I posted on another thread of yours similiar to this one.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Pat you wanted to know 'Why do people choose to be unhappy?'
I don't know if this is the answer you're looking for but .....Here's my honest answer Pat the best I know how to say this.
Some people are just inherently unhappy people. And nothing will ever satisfy them, and there is nothing anyone can do to help them. My heart honestly aches for them because I know that feeling all too well.
I’d like to think I’ve climbed up from and am still climbing away from being in that place. But being there for so long, I can finally recognize it from the outside. (I was married to one of those “perpetual victims” for a long time. You know the type; the entire world exists simply to screw them over.) Either way, seeing it more clearly…. It’s so weird and it’s just painful to see.
If you’ve never been there it’s terribly hard to understand, and so easy to just say “get over it already.” But some people just enjoy being unhappy, and until they find it on their own, there’s really not much you can do.
I knew all along I was one of those people for a long, long time. I didn’t i>want /i> to be unhappy, but I sure didn’t do much to change it. I stayed in that ever comfortable rut. It was what I knew, it was all I knew. But now that I’ve climbed out, I want to keep shouting at the people still down there, “Get up!!! Holy **** it’s nice up here!! Seriously, you gotta check this out!” My soul aches for these people.
I’ve finally realized I am as happy as I want to be. Nobody is responsible for my happiness but me. Yes, life will throw us some curve balls but we can control how we react to them. I think one of my biggest problems was simply not seeing the forest for the trees. I had everything I needed to be happy right in front of me and I CHOSE not to be. All I had to do was change the way I looked at it and there it was. You can be happy if you CHOOSE to be!
It would be very rude of me to talk on my cell phone during a date. I would answer it and tell the person at the other end that I'm on a date and that I would call them back later.
Now if it's an emergency yes I would most certainly take the call.
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RE: yes / No
None of the above.