A person can pursue but it is up to the person in the relationship to say no and refuse to get involved. If the outsider is not allowed in they cannot get in.
Well there are many men who do this to give themselves an ego boost. They get a kick out of manipulating(I am sorry but there is no other word for it)these two women. No decent man would allow such a thing to go on.
There are many women who in their quest to get a man are willing to have affairs with married men or men who are already in relationships. They see nothing wrong with sharing a man with his wife or girlfriend. I have some argue that there just are not enough good men to go around and they would rather share a man than have no man. They are not prepared to do some of the things a wife would do, but have no problem sleeping with and sharing the financial benefits of such a relationship. A lot of men tell some of them that they will leave their wives one day and continue to string them along for their own benefit and some of these women just live in the hope. Many grumble that the man is not spending enough time with them because the man still has to share his time with his wife and family, and the outside woman can only see the man on certain days. What do you think about man sharing?
NO. No offense but if I didn't feel like I was suffocating when I was around cigarette smoke(the very scent of it on clothes makes me sick) then I guess I wouldn't have a problem.
I think there are pros and cons to both situations. Nothing is guaranteed either way. I've done the living together thing but never did the down the aisle stroll, I am curious as to how I would handle that one - hmmmm it could be interesting. Either way I would have to factor in my child's welfare as well.
If you met someone and had establised a long term relationship with that person would you want to eventually get married or would you simply prefer to just live together. If there were children involved would that in any way influence you decision?
Lets put it this way. As someone with a child if I met someone that said they were interesed in being with me simply because I had a child I would be very wary. I don't think most men necessarily go out of their way to find women with children but when they find one they would have to understand that this is a package deal. The woman can't be expected to abandon her kids simply because she found a man. A man that can accept a woman's kids because they are a part of the woman that he loves is a true gem.
Yes they are a burden(that's a fact). Yes,once they are deported they are no longer your burden(that is also a fact). If they are illegal and they commit crimes they deserve to be sent back(that is only fair)Yes many no longer have ties to their homeland for reasons I already mentioned and this creates another set of problems(that's a fact). I don't expect you to take out the Kleenex over illegal criminals. However I do think that WE are allowed to feel sad and distressed over a situation that affects us the same way that I am sure situations over there with illegals affect you.
If a person had not applied to become legal then they are illegal that is plain enough and subject to the law. I am not too sure exactly how the immigration laws work over there but I would assume that as a parent if I were seeking to become a citizen of the US that I would also apply for my child as well to have citizenship. Once they are 18 then they are adults and can apply for themselves. Why would I expect a non US citizen to be your burden since it was already established that if they are there illegally they are subject to the law. And I don't think your tax dollars are being spent since they are being deported anyway and are no longer your problem.
Well first of all it would have to be the parent/parents who would have to apply as they are the guardians to these babies and teens. There are those people who may wish to become citizens and apply and those who may wish to retain their original citizenship. But lets say that their parents went through the right channels and did indeed apply for citizenship and got it. I can only assume that the child too would also have gotten citizenship.
This is now the home of this child since many of them that have never set foot back in the original country of birth and have lost all touch and ties with that country. What happens when they are sent back is that there is no one here to accept them to what is now for them a foreign country. Many left to their own devices without the systems in place to handle them they fall back to their life of crime.
For many Caribbean countries that may already be suffering from a hight crime rate there is now extra burden on already scarce resources. So now there is not only the local crime to tackle which in itself is a task but now you have virtual strangers being deposited here to also deal with. These are just the sad realities.
Certainly if someone commits a crime and goes on to be a serial offender he gets what is coming to him. As for working illegally in someone else's country I think it would really bother me. I lived in Jamaica for years, first as a student and then worked there. A work permit is required and one of the first things I got sorted out. After a number of years of working you can apply for citizenship which I did since I had no intentions of being illegal in anyone's country and it made things a lot easier for me. I can't think of anything more embarassing than being hauled onto a plane and sent back to your country in shame.
Just a quick question. Was the Columbian man legal? Did he go through the channels and apply for US Citizenship? If he applied to be a citizen then what happens to the spouse? Does she automatically become a citizen or does he have to apply for her. If she is illegal then she should become legal if she wants to remain. If she doesn't then she is subject to the law. There are many in the States that don't have English as a first language that is the least of the problems. The main issue is to be working there legally.
Does this apply across the board? I know what happens here but for example say a person was born in Paraguay, Denmark, Isreal etc... and they come here as younsters are they also sent back for crimes? What happens? Just asking.
I suppose it would have to depend on the severity of the crime. I would hope that if one committed say a traffic offence for example that would not be used as a reason to deport someone. What I find interesting is if someone is merely born here, leaves here at a few months or years and has basically not been nutured by the country they left. Picks up a life of crime in another country where they have lived for the greater part of their lives in now shipped back to a coutry that has had no bearing on them committing said crimes in the first place. This is the dilema I think many here struggle with.
There has been much discussion here about the situation with deportees some from the Caribbean who reside in countries like the US who are shipped back to the Caribbean after they are caught committing crimes there.
The types of crimes that are committed vary but for many it means a trip back to a place that many may no longer have any ties left(there are cases where they were born here but left as very young chidren or teens with their parents and that has been the extent of their experience living in their home countries). Many having picked up their life of crime in the very country where they resided all these years.
These people are then sent back into societies they are unfamiliar with and are ill prepared to handle them and having no family ties many are forced to survive how they can, which probably means that they go straight back to their life of crime. While not condoning their criminality and certainly one should pay for their crimes, the problem is now merely shifted over to societies that have precious little experience,resources or systems put in place to deal with them. It really is a serious problem. Comments please.
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Either way I would have to factor in my child's welfare as well.
MAN SHARING
We need to get more men to pose so we can make patterns for the toys.