Very true. In the past we have all been in relationships where we thought chemistry was there from the start, sometimes we get it wrong. What we imagined was chemistry was maybe an illusion....otherwise why are we all single. Maybe this chemistry thing isn't as straight forward as we sometimes think. JMO
Interesting to see the responses. To be honest i used to be convinced that chemistry was instantaneous. However over the years and through various failed relationships i came to have a different view. Its kinda me trying to figure out why i am single and why relationships i have had haven't worked.
Some things aren't apparent immediately, there is only so much you can tell on a first meeting. i have often found that a second date often reveals more about a person than a first, the awkwardness and the shyness (maybe thats just me ) that exists on a first date isn't there on a second date and you can see a whole new side to a person. Don't get me wrong, i'm not saying that its always good what you see on a second date. But in my view if i am interested to go out on a date with a woman once then i nearly always ensure i never refuse if there is a possibility of a second date. That is of course unless there is zero connection between us. No point i a second date then.
Ok now even i am confused Sylvester, how exactly could you have always worked.....yet been out of work for a while...two completely contradictory statements there.
seriously thought this would be a topic that most people on a dating site would have a view on.......15 views no replys. Anyone have any words of wisdom at all???
Think it works both ways, sometimes both partners start taking the relationship for granted. Relationships are a continuous work and progress, the minute you stop working at a relationship is the moment it falls apart. And taking a relationship for granted is not just a man thing, women do it too.
Is chemistry between two people an instantaneous thing that is either there or isn't there, something you immediately know on meeting someone for the first time? Or can chemistry develop over time through getting to know someone?
I never made an assumption about all, many many people want to work and would rather work than being on benefits. However there are also many others who have no intention of working and are delighted to get it all handed to them on a plate. There is a difference. Benefits for those who deserve them, not for those who don't.
Great post Sally, really delighted for you that you met this guy, he sounds great. And whats even better is you know you have found someone who is really worth holding on to. And i am sure he feels the same about you. Just one question though, if ye had met with the hope or expecation that he might be 'the one' do you think there would have immediately been 'chemistry' there or did the chemistry develop over time?
See now your simple math is letting you down, because he was on disability he wasn't among the 4% unemployed. He will never be on the unemployment figures because technically he is not able for work......he was able to drink and play loud music at 2am and piss me off though.
You are making the massive assumption that everyone who isn't working now was working during the boom.
During the boom i shared a house with a guy who was on dissability because of a dodgy knee. He told me himself that his knee could easily be fixed with surgery. He wasn't having any of it and it was hard to blame him really. I was getting up and going to work, busting my gut to earn my wage, he on the other hand was lying in bed till midday and then getting up and watching Tv while drinking a few cans or swanning off to the pub. he had a great life. And because he would get up so late he would stay up till all hours and keep the rest of us awake. he was useless, he didn't work, didn't want to work and will never work.....he will always be useless. Why??? Because the state entitles him to remain useless.
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RE: ACCENTS
Trally hate the Cavan accent, just can't stand it. Sorry to any Cavan women out there, just doesn't do it for me i'm afraid.