That was my point exactly, if a child is living with dad 50% of the time and mom 50% of the time then they should be splitting childcare costs, food costs, clothing costs etc equally too. So in a 50/50 custody scenario it wouldn't make sense for one to be paying the other maintenance.
Thumblina: This is one thing I dont' think we'll ever agree on hun, I would not like to have been forced to put my little ones fathers name on her birth cert, he choose not to and that was his decision so why should i have to be subjugated to falling in line with something in the system that would make things extremely difficult for not only myself but the civil servants that have to do the deed so to speak.
The entire point of fathers rights groups the nation over is to stop them from subjugated to the laws of the land that make them feel like less than a parent and possilby in some cases less than a person, why would you want to inflict that on the mother of the children involved.
Without getting into personal cases here i think you are right fathers do walk away from their responsibilities, you can't force someone to be a parent.
But whether they become an active parent or not i don't think any parent, whether it is a father or mother should be allowed to walk away from being financially responsible for their child.
As a father i am financially responsible for my son, i am happy to do so and wouldn't have it any other way. However i really resent having to pay for the children of other fathers (or mothers) through my taxes just because they chose to walk away.
Its great to hear about a guy who knows how to treat a woman well and its even better to hear from a woman who appreciates being treated well by the man in her life and i would expect reciprocates the effort that he makes in the relationship.
I don't see a lot of positivity towards men here to be honest, what else is that but pointing out the bad sides of a specific target group. Not many tales of women who met wonderful guys here is there?
As for my thread, as i explained before the language in the title was for effect, was to start a conversation.
Leaving aside the fact that you expressed the view that i was a self proclaimed nice guy, when you don't know me or the slightest thing about me....... .......there is no animosity whatsoever.Just contributing on the thread here, just like everyone else. I totally disagree with your views but hey thats what these threads are about, mature healthy debate among adults.
Reckon you should spend less time interacting with and talking to yourself, maybe you might have a more rounded view of human nature which is based in reality.
Those guys do exist, no doubt about it. But there are also guys who are not fake, who are not putting on a show and who are not pretending and who do not go about fooling themselves and who have no intention of messing anyone about. And some of us Are honest with ourselves about who we are and are secure and happy in ourselves.
Maybe the guy you describe is you.......but I know its not me.
I have met Pat Shortt, Georgina Ahern, Jeremy Irons, Liam Neeson, Shayne Ward, Enda Kenny, Brian Cowen, Eamonn Gilmore, Pat Falvey (Everst Climber) and Gerry Adams. Also got to withing 10 feet of the Queen.
Hope you pardon the pun but different strokes for different folks i guess
Anyway hope you get sleep soon.....its a vicious circle, no sleep means you can't think straight about whats on your mind and deal with it and with stuff on your mind you can't sleep....I know the feeling well.
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RE: sending email to no reply!
Fair play to you that you put yourself out there and send the mail.