We send you King Edwards,Jersey Royals,British queen,Duke of York and Mayan Queen potatoes and when Ireland are playing England we send over Alan Shearer,who of course is a common taiter.
I met someone last winter who was about a month out her marriage to her kids father. It was obvious that she was not ready for long term and I told her that from the off.We decided to remain friends and she is now a valued friend who met someone a week after we met and is still with him. Do I think that they will last? No.Was I right to be so honest? I think so. My point is timing. If you are both in a place where a fling suits you then great. It is that singing from the same hymn sheet again I think?
I could imagine that being the most popular would be tiring? Too many to keep pleasing without compromising yourself. People usually become most popular by networking a lot and being available. Maybe online that can be confused as being a "clan" because that networking becomes evident in the forums?
I think that both in real life and way more so online people invest too much time and emotion on what other people think about them. Yes,we all like validation,but why worry too much about what others think about you? Most people spend very little of their time thinking about you so why invest time trying to convince people that your deserving of their respect? Self awareness and awareness of others is a matter of perception.Perceptions change in time so as long as you feel that your being fair to others and true to yourself that is all that matters. IMO
This year I have attended two venues for Salsa class's and both where predominantly attended by women,so if your female it may pay to enquire what the male/female ratio is before joining?
Ok.As a cynic of online dating I will tell you my negative thoughts on it. I have wasted too much time chatting and getting to know only for something to go wrong to bother with it again- real life is much less time consuming and out socially deductions are often instantanious. On the positive side online is great for when your on a break from relationships or are not looking for anything serious,or your life dictates that your social life limits your options too much. I also found it a great release and confidence builder after coming out of a long marriage and I had no idea who or what I could reasonably attract,or who or what I was looking for. I would never judge people who use online dating sites to find a partner because I felt that others judged me in my real life when I told them that I did. I think that it is now an excepted part of todays world and nothing to be ashamed off,as it used to be viewed. Good luck mate.
I am very picky when it comes to a possible long term relationship.However I have been known to lower my standards considerably if I just fancy some fun.
Getting out there in the real world even if it takes you out of your comfort zone. Find some hobbies and activities to enjoy and leave it to fate for things to happen naturally. Restricting yourself too much means that your letting life pass you by.
Very true. Perception. But even your own perception differs from those closest to you. If your closest shake their heads at your choice of partner then do you not consider them too?
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RE: I gott ask you folks from Ireland how you did it?
Deal.Do you lot want some snakes? I know a Welshman who wants to make a name for himself!