is 25 miles long distance well seems so ,i made contact with another woman well i surpopse she was and was coming from Timaru to vist a friend here in Waimate , well we contacted each other on another forum and i thought that would be lovely and was expecting her this wensday,
well she was going to ring me and could have as she has my land line no, well she said she would not ring and then to day said she wont come and vist ,hmmm...... well to put it bluntly i figgered as much from the start and had my gut feeling this would happen,
Allso i have contacted others here and on other forums and no replys reasons they are not real people , not honist cant be bothered to say hi and i have some contagous what ever diseases,
yet on an other forum iv had some 100 men send me messages they dont read my profile to find out who im interested in , oh well i,ll give them thier due they are tryer,s .
Oh dear , this is a can of worms in our country we have whats know as a fund for those who are worse off because of not being able to work both men and women ,
through our tax fund we surport those who are on a benifit because of disabilitys or mental disorders or the like ,
i know of many because of the work i do and have done , and out side of this we through our groups get help money and goods = food and help others at different time,s of the year im involved because im incharge of food cooking and getting others to help me so we have different groups departments that offer help .
Now who should pay those of us who can work , so from this we dont seperate any difference between men or women or children we give to those who have a need ,
Now in a relastionship should it be any different ,depends on who is working for the good of the unit = family , ,
For us Jos and i , i worked Jos did not need to she gave birth to our children so she had a full time all on with our children not a 8 hour a day 9 to 5 it was 24 hours a day 7 days a week . yes i helped just not the same as Jos had to ,
So who should pay Jos payed and worked hard ,
So look beyound the all about the myself and money and who spends what on who there never will be an equal how best to work out things is you do it together ,
In our case i did the money because i was in bussness and contracting so knew the income and out going Jos did not wont to do the accounts so i had to ,
So youll gather from this i pay and ill pay again if in a relastionship if and a big IF a man comes into my life ill talk about what we do before the who pays on a night out or what ever,
women depend on men as i said because they are the home keeper and baby care,er ,
Fly out, where to . I do fly over to Austraila and have done by myself and vist my friend in Tasmaia, i doubt any one would date me over there ether and i do have some lovely friends there and those im involved with in our Brass concert bands, members some 70 ,
I doubt I,ll be dating any men so it wont bother me, some of my friends a lot are shorter than I and I have a few tall women friends who are taller than I , lets just say I was to date a guy again would not bother me depends ...on ... the person ,
In fact come to think about it I,v ...never.... been asked out by a guy wow how sad ,.
I would say for many here or on other forums wether you pay or they are free would be quite good ,
I meet and have met many 1000.s of people and known by many 10,s of 1000s of people and yes its true ,wether people belive me or not does not matter , now none of this has any thing to do with my being on dating forums ,
Though as i see it i doubt very much ill find or have some one who would be interested in myself as a person , now i,m not blind to the fact of being different will put people off wonting to have much to do with me as a date and or a long term friendship or be a partner ,
i have made it known about myself as i dont hide behind a false profile or say things that are not true about myself,so no one can come back at me and say i lied to them ,
And those who take the time to get to know me will find i,m up front and have nothing to hide, mind you i doubt any of this will make any difference to any one so meeting/talking here or on other forums or face to face will help me much ,so thats how i see it for myself ,
I live in New Zealand and theres no way ever ill be living in the US ,im 67 im on the super or as I say it keeped by our Govt because I did pay into our fund so can be able to have a reasonable living and im quite happy with that may not be rich or have a lot yet its good .
I can live in Austraila as well and would be able to and I have been invited over if when I decide ,
the other issue I see is lets just say I did go to the US id have no family no friends and the whole life living and detail would be very different , and I,d have nothing no income and no means of ,so yes we are a long way away and not just distance I also see other issues that would arise as well , so look at it from our perspective and what we would need to do and leave behind plus our family of 18 how would I see them , our 11 grandkids im not missing out on seeing them and that's a no way , going to happen .
From the age of 10 knowing who you are knowing that your life was going to change in a dramatic way at a later time .
yet started off very badly to the point of allmost being killed part of some of my issues ,abused lacked selfworth self esteem and no confidence a nobody and not worth nothing ,
yet all the issues problems issues and hardships and more i was becoming strong with in myself to the point of i was going to need all my strength and back up to get through what i had to in life ,
21 years ago was my change was the start of my life that would change every thing and it did ,
depresion suisde life not worth living yes it was all on , at the time our daughter gave birth to a lovely tiny little bundle that become my Focuse for the next 8 years of hell , she Dejarn is 12 and we are so close she keeped me alive she keeped me where i needed to be to get through the hell, she is... my... daughter i could not give birth to . i was not given my womb , so yes Dejarn means every thing to me ,
she was / is my strength if you like , is this all true ....OH YES....
Well maybe after all this time im really not real, so what does it take to be real, Iv been around long enough 67 years to know theres a lot of mistrust around these parts so the ? could be returned to you are you real and how would i know if you are , where is any thing to prove there for myself to know , a photo and that could be of any one or made up .
how long a list would you like , dare i say scammer ,,,,yes well now ...... And if i say im a real woman would you belive that ,
maybe not what you wont to hear yet there you are ,
I think my first date would be me buying the food in getting it ready setting it all out nice making the dinner doing the tea , sitting down and enjoying it and then clean up after , and a cupper later .
ooops did you note I left an ingredient out ...who was the date ...for.
Well that's the way it goes here and more likely im doing it for 100.s so I think youll gather ...NO... dates > take that ether way as well,
From what I see and know is many men have their work and don't wont to move so , A bit different in our case.s Mom and I moved because of having to and after that I worked for the Govt and moved so Mom came with me 5 moves ,
Jos and I also moved a lot and with 3 children around the south isl of NZ all up 17 moves yes we brought and sold then moved if Jos wonted to move we just got on with it and went .
Now I can live in Austraila full time if / when I decide to so no issues there,
A passport yes and you need more than just that in another country
Now your ? why do women have to move because the men wont, some any way well, in our case,s we decided to gether .
As I dought very much wether ill have a partner ( yes I live by my self ). it,ll be up to myself now what or where I go,
Would I move for some one else Hmmmm ??? doubt i.ll have to .
I did sort of it was not a date as such it was a friendship that I thought was okay and my friend and the folks were okay just the distance was the issue and I was /am the white,e , colour what has it to do with any thing any way , apart from old die hard animosity and bigots and long held idears of non acceptance ,
If ever I am fortunate enough to have a close friend who would like to be with me as a partner, colour wont enter in to it not from my side ,
When love becomes part of you and you are surounded by love ,then that love is seen by others,and they feel something of you ,
I know some will take it the wrong way so ill try explaining ,
for many years children would love to be around and be close to me and they would come to me as I hugged them some I noted had a tenseness about them and as I hugged them that tenseness was gone this happened many times,
in one case the Mother was sitting two people away little did I know , the young child I found out later had and was going through a lot of detail = abusiveness in the family,
later as I got older, women would come into my life and the same detail was still there one woman was hurt by a fall and I went up to her and held her and hugged her and later she said to me what is it about you when you warp your arms around and she felt something come from me ,
another time a young woman was standing next to me as she come closer I felt such a tenseness about her and I thought oh wow her whole body was under stress so I pulled her gently to my self and hugged her and she relaxed and that stress tenseness was gone ,
Okay call me weird or what ever, some of us have gifts and some of us give of our selfs and ...LOVE...is part of our being how we give of our selfs will depend on is it a gift we share with others , People can sense when your open to give and understand them,
Some times theres a few of us who are real and like to tell the truth , and maybe some dont wont to hear it because they live in a dream land or fantasy world and make belive,
i know because i know many who do and some have very high expections of them selfs and.... wont.... even say hi or talk to others who are below thier ideals and miss out on a true love based on a real love , and as to getting to know some one else becomes a non event,
Maybe what i see is so much mistrust because of some who are not to be trused so makes it very hard to opne up and share of them selfs to other,s,
Mores the pity because we all have something lovely to share and can we give of our selfs ......i belive so,
The talks are written in my mind some 1500 to 2000 word esays I did 2 for two different meetings and I had to do a 3 rd one was taken from the first two and redone and I had 10 min,s to do it then give my talk while still completing my 3 rd esay if you have a photographic memory its easy ,
Just I cant read from written on paper or a book I lose it mind goes blank...
If you read my posts youd soon know what im like . don't think im very good with words written on paper or on the many forums im on I try my best , and you all so need to know I have major dyslixca so many times my spelling is suss and I don't get grammer and what not quite right I don't use big words or many as I cant spell or understand the meanings of ,
I have stood in front of many 1000.s of people and talked to them just not read from a written more when needed and give my talk, try writing 3 and stand in front of 100.s, photographic memory .
Depression and for 35 years and knowing Jos for 41, she had it since about 12 im 67 and Jos is 3 1 /2 years younger ,
And yes i helped her to have a life , hard as it was at times , we stayed together 3 kids later and 11 grandkids . there were other issues as well , and am i perfect far from it , so Jos put up with me as well ,
you know what the hardest part would have been had she taken her own life yes suiside so i know what its like ,
i have quite a few friends in the UK that i have had contact with for some years and theres many different places and meetings that take place ,
What are your interests do you have hobbys or like music Museums or some others that you can go to , are you a member of any soc ,
Im a member of a few , such as Scottish soc 3 different groups with about 300 members Edwardian 1900 to 1914 . we dress in those times about 25 members and then Victorian maybe not for you though its an idear im into music Brass bands and we do detail out and about .
these are were you meet people of cause some we have xmas dinners and other meals together , any way just a thought,
of cause you may know of others that are worth going to ,
Hi, Health issues have been part of my familys life for some 60 years , and when Jos and i were married there were more ,
i spos for my self im used to it and just be there for others and help them as needed yes i had to be strong to work through what we had to go through ,
And when things got a little bit over the top i would take a little time out and work on some of my work jobs wood work and the like ,
Then back to it , myself id rather know up front and then work towards how to work through it and still have a life that included two of us ,
Cancer ,yes i know and understand what it can do to one and i lived with my Mom who had it and nursed her 1959 .
i dont hide things from others and if when i find a partner will know all about my self up front ,i would rather someone be happy with me from the start than try and hide my issues or what ever and most know what they are any way ,
i have a lot of friends some 1500 i know many quite well, because of the many groups im a member of , how well do i know them well many i work with and a good number work for me with in our groups doing displys and meals for many 100.s of people ,
Then our Brass bands with a membership of some 100 people , and then more again who come to our do,s and concerts , putting it another way im very involved with people ,
Remember yes it was up to the men to court the woman , well remember leap year we can as well just and ill apply this to my self if / when im interested in some one i would make the move and invite the person to say a cupper and take my time in getting to know that person and have a friendship and take it from there .
To me the forums are a good place to talk with others just not getting to know each other and the reason to many hide and are not truthfull and thats the pity , so my thinking is a meetup some where others can have a get together, though i doubt that for myself as im too far away . my nearest is Austrlia, and thats may to july in 2016 in Tasmania no one from there on here .
When you have been through a lose like that then maybe youll understand what its like unless you have,
to make flippant remarks as to not a lose or some other shows the lack of care or even understanding what it is to go through , you just dont ....oh well get over it , type thing ,
Doubt id explain it very well its a great lose it hurts like nothing else , a part of you has died not some thing i wont to go through again ...EVER....this is sometimg only women can go through and yes it effects us unless your so cold blooded nothing would stir one up ,
Im not sure as to why no one gives a post to you ,
i know myself i have a lot of men say hi over 40 , on another forum , and wont to get to know me just most are scammers and im not interested in them any way , one, i would not trust them or what they say as some cant even get there wording right they are not english let alone know the english language so i wont answer them .
my issue is would i wont to trust others on the forums very few in fact , i know a few women and get on well with them and about 5 men does not mean we talk all the time .
Im up front with people and tell about my self and nothing hidden i see no point in not telling the truth , any way im too well known to not tell the truth any way ,
You need us outsiders to come along and have a natter ,seems the talking is not going to well no substance to it , oh well back to my cave , well at least its warm here ,
Australian men ...Oh what about the others over there our Kiwi,s any word on them and what they are like , im not saying anything i know too many , i,d better reword that or it,ll be taken wrong , i have quite a few as friends ...ONLY...and no more than that ,
And would i go out with any as implyed, say a date . no . oh well never mind ,
The underlying ? is who,s really real, seems not many if they cant use their own name and then have to hide behind some ....well i dont know some useless letters that mean nothing , sorry its beyound me and seems one can not trust them any way so they have made them selfs out to be false right from the start coming on forums .
I was on call 24 /7 for our Fire dept so when a call out was sounded i was wide awake and on the move grumpy never , and at 1 am in the morning got home about 1/2 8 in the morning
Did mouse dutys down south the Antartic was there for 5 mounths summer over Scot Bass so was woken many times for duty grumpy again never ,
Yes i am and yes i come over to Austraila for 6 weeks at a time my next trip will be 2016 to Tasmania june july , and in Hobart or just east over the bridge if you know Tas,e youll know where i mean turn left under the bridge and south a bit past the school and 4 more turns and youll be there .
I will be and at this stage not sure will be in Melborune for a few days for my friend who will be having surgerys , a time has not been set as yet and maybe this new year, any way thats the best i can do and say , so if you think im real we may be able to correspond ,
I do have some lovely friends here and we keep contact , and my name is real .
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