Well if you need a friend to talk to, I don't mind listening, and I will help you in anyway I can.. you know, it really isn't that hard for someone to give a kind gesture to someone that really needs to know that someone is out there that really cares..
All I can say, is I know what I have been through, I have suffered pain past what I thought was more than any human could endure, but I made it through, and there have been times that I just thought, man what's the point? But then this warrior spirit wells up inside of me, and says, if at first you don't succeed, pick yourself up ant try again, Don't get me wrong, there has to be a healing process, but never let what someone else did to you ever stand in your way of being happy..
btw, just to let you know, I have always respected your opinions, and wisdom.....
What you have just said is the main reason why people don't hook up, it's the fear of getting hurt, hey life is a chance, you can either choose to let what happened to you in your past hold you back, and let the person that hurt you win, or you can move forward and live your life, and just to let you know, hard as it may be to believe, we men have suffered as much as women...
There are no special classes, being mean, imo, is a learned behavior, sometimes circumstances of life can make even the kindest person mean, it can also be how a person was raised, what his/her mother or father, or both were or are like.. A lot of things can make a person mean..
I am not, or don't consider myself a mean person, I have been through a lot in my life, and maybe for a time I may have lashed out at others, and have felt bad about doing it because I knew I shouldn't have.. but for the most part, I really do try to be nice and courteous to others...
I'll know i'm in love when all I do is think about you, rush home from work to be with you, go out of my way to to bring a smile to your face, when the sun is shinning on a cloudy day, when I have the feeling of butterflies in my stomach when ever you're around... and...and... to be continued....
I am happy to hear about your triumph over the pain that your ex caused you.. I really do understand how it feels, I went through one of the worst times in my life about a year and a half ago.. I posted something about it not to long ago in one of Riya's threads.. I would not wish the pain and suffering I went through on my worst enemy.. But like you I had to pull myself up, and get back on my feet and continue living my life, and like you would like to meet a quality lady.. I may have to go through a few before I meet the one that's right for me, and may even get hurt again in the process, but that is a chance I am willing to take to hopefully find what I have been looking for..
Keep on keepin on girl.. here's to finding what we have been looking for..
Btw, i'm sure a lovely lady like yourself won't have to much trouble finding a man that's right for you..
Thank you for the compliment, I should have remembered that you did mention that though.. I'm glad I didn't upset you.. btw, you seem to be a pretty sweet person yourself..
I'm glad for you Steph, that you have found contentment, but at the same time, sad too, because you had to endure the loneliness before reaching that point..
You see, there is where one of the problem lays, don't get me wrong, not trying to be any certian way, everyone needs time to heal after a relationship is over, depending on which one of the you got tore up..
but one can't go through life holding over another for what someone else did to them, all of us have been hurt, all of us have suffered at the hands of another, life is a chance, relationships are a chance, waking up in the morning and going to the store is taking a chance that you may never come back...
When a person holds themself back because of what another did to them, means you let that person take away a chance at finding the real one that is ment for you..
Then you have reached a point where you have become complacent with living life without anyone to share it with, that is a learned behavior, and imo, and an accepted way of life because there hasen't been anyone for a long time, and i'm sure that before so much time had past, you thought differently.. however I guess anyone can reach a point where they just become satisfied with their life the way it is, as in being alone.. as for me, I haven't reached that point yet..
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RE: Who To Trust
Well if you need a friend to talk to, I don't mind listening, and I will help you in anyway I can.. you know, it really isn't that hard for someone to give a kind gesture to someone that really needs to know that someone is out there that really cares..