It's kind of funny to remember Christmas as a child, nothing was important about it,no traditions.
But my mom would buy me my gifts, and get exactly what I wanted, but she never gift wrapp my gifts, and I be disappointed that there were no beautiful bows or anything.
One year she had a very nice boyfriend, and he gift wrapped every single one of my gifts, on Chritmas morning it felt like a miracle had happen especially for me.
Can you imagine? Gift wrapping paper, I wanted that more than the gift!
I would like to take a look at life in the 1800'hundreds...but not live there...just have a look.
I would not go to the future, I would miss out on the feelings and experiences of how everything in my life added up, that lead me to the future....hahaha...it can be complicated...
It seems you have the right answer already considering your "friends".
Now about your ex, if you feel uncomfortable with him bringing the new girl over, let him know.
He should respect your home. But have you thought why it bothers you that he brings her over, do you still have feelings and need closure?
I believe when sometihing is over that is it, there is no turning back, move forward and live your life.
Personally, once my ex and I got divorced, I did not care, nor had any type of feelings for him. He could bring his new girlfriend to my jouse and I was ok with that.
She was very nice, and we got along well.
When he remarried, he also brought the new wife over, and that was fine with me, let somebody else have him, I sure did not want him.
I get along with his wife, have been invited over to visit, and she has been very nice to me. We have also done family outings together, with my son, my ex, his wife, her son, and all the extra relative that like to come along. In my family, everybodys ex, is welcome to our homes.
I have been divorced for 15 yrs, and chose not to re-married.
I am now emotionally prepared to have a connection of the mind, spirit and body.
Divorce will not be an option, so who ever decides they want to be my life partner must have the same strength and determination.
I like to have someone to love with every fiber of my being, admire, and share sweet nothings with... but I have patience, I waited 15 yrs to make that choice again.
I do not have a time limit, it will happen when it is meant to be.
I am content with my life, I have great kids, and live in a great city. But I would not call that complete, that is like having no future goals, it's like if I had reach my maximum potential....so for me that would be a no.
I still have much potential in different aspects of my life to accomplish, and a few dreams to complete.
Life is continuos, the day I stop breathing, then my life will be complete.
I am sure I'll be able to look back when I am old, and say, wow, it turned out better than I expected!
For now, life is what I make it, or what God has put in my path, I am content, with no regrets.
I had to read your profile to see if I could figure it out on my own by what you wrote, I am able to tell you are very caring, but not what your gift is....
Thank you for your inspiring words, that is a great message.
I have been blessed to be in the mental health field, I have always been underpaid, but every day is wonderful.
Not too many can say they enjoy a job that does not pay them enough, My new pursuit, is just an extension, of what already had roots, now it will have wings.
RE: oops, I did it again
Nice to see you....