I for one am not a believer of fate. But I can't stop to subscribe to the notion, most of the time, that if a relationship is over, despite efforts to make it work, it was probably not meant to be in the first place.
Having said that, I am a romantic at heart myself and every time I put time, effort, commitment and love in to a relationship, it hurts awfully bad after the break-up, as it is the case right now.
We sure can sit back and reflect on the mistakes, ours and theirs, and try to make a sense of it and learn lessons. But then again, every relationship and every situation is different. Having learned from the past may enhance the chances of a stronger relationship in the future but does not necessarily guarantee success.
Although I believe there can be such thing as "better partner" at the end of the day, if I fall, it is because my feelings dictate it, not my logic. Love does not have a rationale it doesn't guarantee that two loving people will get along perpetually. Regardless of how I feel and how committed I am, it takes two to have the same intensity and sense of urgency to make the relationship and the "spark" last.
The more I observe your postings the more depth I notice, Trace. Good one.
RE: Where have all the good ones gone?
Sweetie, which brings you back to the question somebody else posted earlier: Define goodI am decent