rainbowdream2017 Forum Posts (2,486)
... and also be aware of another person state of mind because apparantly, when you treat people the same way they treat you, they get offended.
True.
Let us is very emotionally expressive and I see the same thing as you - while the same for many others it's translated as impolite yelling. It's amasing what people see or don't consider to see in giving preferences of importance according to the language rules and society rules of understanding.
Mea Culpa.
There's provocative intelligence in you that gives me mix emotions,of hugging you and pulling my sword out. Lol
althought I can't remember if we ever spoken.
and it depends of topic and context that one relates to in expressing self ...
I think, sharing some suffering thought in a challenging situation with other people is prime time for bonding adversaries. It's a survival with in our brains that makes us realise we're all in it together and it may explain why we tend to bond with the people we wait in annoying long lines inside petrol station or in a que inside shopping centre where exhaustion create a stronger attachment ... There is a natural joy of getting another person and being 'gotten' - by another person in turn. 
I use that as an trivial example, maybe not discribed as well as I intended to be .... to ignite thoughtful reflection of imagination in other's who are interested to participate. Thank you. You are much spiritual and knowladgable person that is pleasure in getting to know.
Nothing to be sorry about. and boys are often given privladges of getting away with things that girls tend to be more criticised for...as some people say 'boys will always be boy's ' 
what makes man to 'kill this' emotions, compere to women who often relay so much on that !? I've read somewhere that man from early age seperate emotional 'trust ' 
while girls continue....?
However, emotional intelligence is the capacity to feel not just own emotions but to feel all those emotions of other person / people, compassion that glue us together, which is the ability to connect with another person on a deeper intimate meaningful level, to sense, feel and have a good clue 'in seing / blindly' what is going on in another person... It's a gift of empathy and compassion.
I am not sure what I am looking for eather. It could be many things in relation of attraction as intelligence itself is not enough to make us fall for someone, or it could be relation with some forum members, what makes that magic to feel connected with one and not so much with another person that we may 'admire in one way or another' for having wide knowladge of many things but we miss to feel connected....and there's some we can easily misunderstand as they don't know how to bond with anyone much in particular to show empathy and compassion or they can not get meaning when emotional intelligence is involved etc.
Another thread that speaks about attraction to Sheldon's nerdy brain characters is missing this acknowledgment of importance about emotional inteligence that makes a whole lot of differences to relate with one another...
I don't know what is being 'emotionally mature' because sad or happy feeling spontaneously arise, depend upon environmental circumstances that ignites it ...and there's lot's of other colorful emotions in between 'sad and happy', that could make a colorful bouquet of flowers, which makes us who we are, emotional human beings,that are hopefuly able to manage our feelings in appropriate mannerisms.
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What is our experience of Emotional intelligence ?
Yes, all this bullies /serial provocators are hurting, they are experts at seeking easy going target and when target essentially put them in their place, they continue to play games on another thread to discuss about me being 'sensitive snowlake' or what ever ...in shifting blame, in the enhancement of their pathetic ego.Possible to boost their own missing confidence ?
I think this type missing acknowladgent of their own importance, to seek reaction from me - while they dont realise, how much is obvious that they give me (unwanted) importance, that they care to take notice of what I post, which suppose to be irrelevant for someone who doesn't care ! There's something definitely wrong with this people who wants to intentionally insoult with rudeness, who are determent to try picking what's wrong about me and can't handle whats right about me or my views ... Someone may not like what I say but one can always know where he/she stands with me, I don't do fakness, my nature is naked.
I enjoy if someone respectfully provocks my mind to invoked in me seeing things from a different angle of perspectiveness, which so far I find that in you....and in different way with some other people.
It was not so long ago that bilingual people where treated as mentaly impered, specially when someone like me make mistakes in spelling or some times feeling limited in expressions...(depending how state of mind at the time effects me ) and while some people shows much thoughtful understanding, overlooking small mistakes and rather focusing on what's at hand with topic, which is part of INCLUSION, some bullies prefer to pick everything wrong in how I express myself and multiply it, with intention to make me feel badly about myself, to sink to that person level and it's tempting ...
The difference between me and disrespectful provocators is, I can feel remorse but this weak emotionally immature bullys, does not show any remorse and sympathy, even worse,they secretly hope that they will brake my spirit - which is type of crup that cowards do, that shouldn't be taken to heart as it's everything to do with them and nothing to do with me. I don't tolerate crup.
From what I've learn, emotional intelligence is not agreablness, it's not optimism, it's not happiness, is not calmness, and as important as all this qualities are, have little to do with emotions, and almost nothing to do with emotional intelligence.