Hi lela hope you are doing well wanted to say hello. How have things been going with you. Well write me back if you get time glad to have talked to you.
Hi lela hope you are doing well wanted to say hello. How have things been going with you. Well write me back if you get time glad to have talked to you.
Very good advice, Snuggs, thanks! She over-analyzes everything to death.
But my view on why he won't talk to her is this: I think men have this underlying fear that we women will FREAK on them if given the opportunity. I can't speak for her, but I know I wouldn't. As I stated earlier, my usual response is to cut them off mid-sentence... usually while they're saying, "It's not you, it's me"... & just walk away, not even paying attention to the babble.
Yep, I'm Thelma. Unfortunately, I'm afraid she'll only be over it when she finds another man to lean on. That's how she met this one. And from personal experience, that seems to be what she does...
I use my past to remind me of what a strong person I am, not to dwell. Then I can tell myself, "Look what you've already accomplished. You can surely do this!" It motivates me.
It is Tam. My mom had said to me years ago, "I worry about what you kids will do after I'm gone... Well, I don't worry about you, but I do about the other two." That had to be the BIGGEST compliment she ever gave me!
I do, as a matter of fact. When I was married to my ex-husband, we had nothing to speak of. Nothing to our names. The car I drove, when I could drive it, was an old black primered Murcury Capri. The driver's seat was held up by a cut-off 2x4, the rear-view mirror had been graciously punched off of the windshield by my ever-loving husband. The defroster/heater didn't work, & you had to double-clutch it to shift the gears. What a mess! We were in debt up to our ears, because he had so many fines & didn't want to work.
When I separated from him the first time, I got my own apartment with my daughter on subsidized housing. I was very proud of it because it was brand new. My mom co-signed for a used car for me & I was set. I got a good job, with which organization I'm still working today. We were separated for about a year.
Then my ex & I got back together. We bought an even newer car, & moved into a house. We (I) tried to make it work for about a year. When it didn't, I went back into subsidized housing, in a neighboring county. Again, it was a nice place. This time I filed for divorce. I lived in housing only as long as I needed it... about 2 years. From there, my daughter & I moved into an apartment that we had for 8 years. In that time, I worked hard & climbed up the clerical ladder, getting raises.
In my daughter's freshman year, we moved into a townhouse with a garage. I was RICH!! It felt sooo good to think that I'd done all this on my own, & with little to no child support from my ex.
I now own a townhouse & think I've come a very long way. And I only have my mom & step-dad, daughter, friends, & myself to thank for it!
I love my best friend to bits. She's a wonderful person, really!! I don't know what I'd do without her. We're 'Thelma & Louise', always together.
She recently had a short-lived relationship with a guy, who told her not to get too serious from the get-go. Now, he won't return her calls or texts. But she just keeps talking about him & how much she misses him. She wonders why he won't talk to her. She says he'll be back. She goes on & on... & on about him.
I don't know what to say to console her. I mean, I'm not going to tell her he'll be back, when I don't really think he will be. I try to just sit there & listen, to be a sounding board. But then, I feel guilty for not giving her answers. She says she just wants to talk to him so she can have closure. I try to tell her that by his not responding, he's trying to give her closure. We have very different views on that subject.
What can I do? I'd like to just say, 'GET OVER IT!' But I do know she's hurting & it really bothers her. With us being so different in how we handle this type of thing (I tend to just shrug my shoulders & walk away, she needs to talk to them & say her piece), I don't know what to do for her or what to tell her.
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It felt sooo good to think that I'd done all this on my own, & with little to no child support from my ex.
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So do I...