I see some ppl - Tater, Tino, and others - already explained how your OP comes across and why, so no need to repeat it.
I can only add: when one searches for his/her love, they concentrate on their potential partner. Not on what comes or doesn't come along with them (like house, kids, cars, whatever,...).
Again, it's possible that you misrepresented yourself unintentionally, by mistake...
Some of my friends here and I discussed this subject in private cs emails more that once. And that's exactly what I was saying - I don't like talking to 'blank' faces... I also don't like to be 'faceless' in forums,
but
I can name at least half a dozen reasons that prevent ppl from posting their photos here on CS; and as long as going 'faceless' is not against the rules, I see all this whining in OP as being very unethical.
We are all adults here (at least by age) and are capable making this kind of decisions for ourselves.
I wish more CSers would get involved in forums, but I can't make them...
I wish we could have more details in guys' profiles - with all the precise measurements and all, but yet to post a thread complaining about absence of above-mentioned measurements...
...I could go on and on but afraid my wishes are not going to be granted, hence I'll just get me coat...
Mark, it can be the best part that you don't see a problem.
And yes - it sounds that it is very real to her, hence your understanding and support (without rubbing it in and making it a big deal) will be very much appreciated by her, I think.
All kinds of physical activities together, making sure there is no junk food in the house, etc., anything that will give her an additional sense of being on the right track... And complimenting her often (regular male talk will do), without mentioning that you have no idea what she is talking about...
...even though you have NFI...
doesn't matter - 'coz it's real to her. Confession I would never make in public, but if it can help at least one person out there - why not? Growing up in my family where I was expected to be perfect at all times, as an adult I still have this same problem and these fears... Sometimes catching a glimpse of my own reflection somewhere, I get this split second thought/wish to be "like her"... before I realize it's me. Sad. I raised my child differently and she is much happier with her body.
For some it is detrimental to their self esteem, for some others - it's not.
Even though societal norms put this enormous pressure on us, the acceptance and support in one's family while growing-up is capable to override it (societal norms) to a very big degree.
So when one partner has a weight issue, this problem often has a very deep roots going all the way into their childhood, it can become very complicated for another partner. Sometimes all they can do - accept their partner the way they are.
And it effects women much more than men.
Men's a 'few-extra-pounds' body type is happily accepted, while women in the same boat get a very harsh criticism.
if you've gone as far as planning a meeting and that meeting involves plane trip, didn't you ask a couple of questions?
I mean at least the same ones you ask in your OP?
I have emails from a guy living in NYC (this is stated in his profile) who says he doesn't care that we live on different sides of the planet he is interested so much - he'd also fly to meet me and be with me
...oh, and he won't even die before I reply to his email - that's how strong his emotional attachment is!!
poll: I have met several of my best dates at rock concerts. Who is one of your favorites? Part 3.
thanks Ken!!!!!You are the best!
It's 1:10am now. If I don't have any other votes by tomorrow morning - he-what's-his-name wins!