Laura25 Forum Posts (8,178)

RE: why are women so distrusting

They are not. Trust/distrust is not gender related. I replied in more details on your other thread of the same sort.

Welcome and good luck.

Get some help.

(((Larry)))


No disrespect intended,

but why did God put you through it? To see you through it afterwords?

Get some help.

No, you can't have it both ways. Hi E.


The key word - CARE ?

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CSers' 2-cents rule, Snuggs!!

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Can't be so sure about "INEFFECTIVE COPING" term, but fully agree with "if they are not assisted life will be very hard for them.Thats why they need help"

It is certainly why they(we) need help.

But it[the need of this kind of help] doesn't change the fact that so-called 'professional help' is not available out there.

Let me ask you - have you ever had a positive experience with professional help? Don't tell me you never had a need for it.

RE: HOT''

RE: its not just women that get hurt!

Hello and welcome to CS

You do sound like a nice guy.

"not just women that get hurt"? Of course not. Who whould argue that statement.

It doesn't change ppl's experience though. Everyone proceeds at their own pace when getting into a new relationship.

Also, lack of responses does not mean distrust. Different ppl have different reasons to reply or not to a specific email. Some check your profile and find themselves simply not interested for many reasons including (possibly) a marital status. It's normal.

Wish you the best of luck to find "the one".

Get some help.

Oh, not at all, Dmire.

Do you know that Fran Fine (not sure if I got her name right - the actress in 'The nanny' TV show) was looking for an 8th opinion when she was finally diagnosed with a breast cancer. Her persistancy saved her life.

Seven MD professionals told her she was imagining things. She could've been labeled "the one who has a trust/paranoia/or-whatever problem".

There are too many examples. I chose just one, the celebrity everybody knows - to avoid hearsay.

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Exactly M.!

And a fact that any mental-health provider can be (or call themselves) a psychotherapist, including social workers, makes it even worse.

Depending on a state law, not all mental-health providers have to be licensed to practice "psychotherapy". How about that?

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Get some help.

Well Larry, the plan sucks.

Thank you for offering - you are the best, very much appreciated.

Folks' mailboxes and their "2 cents" right here in forums work way better than any professional help, IMO.

RE: Happy Birthday Yurima

Happy Birthday Yurima! Best wishes

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Hello Dmire

What you are saying makes a lot of sense.

Theoretically.

But in reallity,

even with GP doctors: we often go to see a doctor having a full faith in them but get misdiagnosed and mistreated.

Nobody goes to see a therapist unless they truly want/need this help (well, besides these free-check ppl).

Positive vs negative
A person at the end of the rope in a positive state of mind??!

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Never thought of it this way!!

That must be it - thee check



Thank you Tater - it's a brilliant observation.

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Oh, John, she should have but...

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Good morning Pat

I've heard that somewhere before...

Seriously, people going to seek that kind of help are

oh-so ready to drink that water, I am afraid they just don't find any water there...

That's what I am trying to find out -
to hear from one person in the crowd who actually found "water" when taking this route.

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Bravo Merky!

Get some help.

'morning Pubwrite

You are this rare exception who found professional help... uhmmm... well, helpful in some ways.

If it's not too private of a matter - how long it took? how often you went to see your therapist? in what way it was helpful to you since you still it seems "ready to do it [beat him down]" every time he speaks to you? Not doubting your words a bit - trying to understand it for myself.

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Thank you Pam

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Is it a question to me WW?

Wedding was OK, I guess, though in my state of mind back than I could not enjoy it. My daughter wanted a big wedding (close to 200 ppl) and I went along with her wishes. You know how it is - she is only child.
But I was a wreck and she knew it, obviously.

It's in the past. Over 5 years.

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So my question to you, Snuggs, would be:
after so many unsuccessful personal experiences with therapists, already knowing that "professional help" is a myth, why whould you still try the same route?

Just trying to understand.

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Thanks for sharing guys, I really appriciate it.

I read through all the replies and just as I thought - psychotherapy does not work. With very rare exceptions.

I am always puzzled when I hear people saying to each other things like: "get professional help".

I just do not see how is it any better than, for instance, forum "talk therapy" aka "our two cents".

RE: Laura!

Hi SA

Sleeping pills? You are a wild one in here?

Thanks for the rose - love it.

Thanks again to everyone!

RE: Laura!

Well-well-well, Cris, ready or not...

It's been a while ya know, got a lil nostalgic I guess. But you know me - I am not about to start stepping on ppl'z toes personality-wise and don't take much space physically.


...just wanted to have a nice introduction thread since I never had one in Inter'l. That's all to it.

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I just read the above /\/\/\ in forums and was thinking 5 years back when my daughter who just graduated from a high school, with a full scholarship to a prestige university and a bright future ahead of her made a decision to give it all up and get married to a very first guy she ever dated. Knew him for only 2 months prior their engagement and for only 7 months before wedding.

It was a blow that totally destroyed me.

I did go to seek professional help - the top in mid-town Manhattan.

Did nothing to help me. At all. I gave up on these therapy sessions after a couple of months.

Does anybody ever had any success getting a this kind of professional help?

...I wonder?

Please share.

RE: Something Went Wrong

It's fine for it to be the last. I can imagine how much it takes to post it.

But, Merky? You have no idea how many people possibly find help and strength in your post.

RE: Happy Birthday To A Lovely Lady! Snugs 09

HAPPY BIRTHDAY SNUGGS

I wish you to find a way to put the problems (the old problems) behind you!

RE: Something Went Wrong

I understand 'the-problem-is-what-is-causing-it' part, Snuggs.

But do you have a plan?

You have to...

You surely understand that you can't go back "there" all the way.

RE: Laura!

I see

What's the locals disposition? do tell...

RE: Something Went Wrong

Good morning, Snuggs!

Wake up, DO NOT go there.

You'll so regret it - all your hard work on the path to become a healthy you.

You mentioned a few CSers myself included with no visible problems.

So you would know, I have the same problem you do. Though I am not overweight, I grew up in a family where a girl was always expected to be paper-thin. I don't have this kind of metabolism naturally, I have to struggle to keep it this way because the way I was conditioned in my childhood - the chubby girl is less of a woman. How is that for a problem?
You also mentioned SweetOwen in the same category - read her "Do you expect a woman to have a perfect body" thread.

What I am trying to say - you are right we all have things to worry about and struggle for.

I'd really hate to see you going back to your old ways.

Being a normal healthy weight did not make you happy, you say?

Think again.

What the life was like when (you've said once) you had trouble walking?