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May 20, 2009 7:59 AM CST Something Went Wrong
Snuggs09
Snuggs09Snuggs09Somewhere, New Jersey USA128 Threads 1 Polls 2,615 Posts

I have mentioned that I lost a lot of weight and wanted to lose more for my 50 year class reunion in April 2010.

On the way home from work yesterday, I stopped at the grocery store for milk and wound up buying more junk then you can imagine. I don’t know why. I just did it. As I put each item in the basket I knew what I was doing, but didn’t care. My kitchen cabinets and freezer are full of things I shouldn’t eat if I want to lose weight. I prided myself on the weight loss because I did it for myself, not for a man, not to be able to wear size 2. I did it to get healthy. I thought it would make me happy.

When I put the bags of food in the car I said to myself, you know you shouldn’t have done this. Why did you do it? And then I said…I don’t care anymore.

I have done this before and after eating only a little bit I threw the rest out or brought it to work for them to enjoy. That isn’t going to happen this time. This is more then falling off the wagon. I feel myself spiraling out of control back to obesity. It’s easier to let myself get fat again then to worry about what not to eat. A very weak minded person.

I’ve lost my discipline and willpower. My diet worked in 2004 when I lost 126 lbs. I gained a few pounds back and started it again but the willpower isn’t the same. In 2004 my last boyfriend hadn’t come into my life yet. I still had money in the bank and my self-esteem. But he took everything and has ruined my life. There’s no other way to say it. We’re supposed to get over boyfriends and girlfriends hurting us. I am letting the memory of this man destroy me again.

I blame everything on my past and the life I’m forced into now. Food has always been my drug of comfort. It’s no different than alcohol or heroin. Can you imagine food driving a person to the depths of despair? Wishing you were dead. Wishing you didn’t have to deal with it anymore.

I’m ashamed that I’m writing this thread. Embarrassed. Probably will disappear. I feel worthless. Only way I’m useful is in my job and I hate that. I truly feel like a failure. I gave birth to a daughter who is very successful in society. She doesn’t have any patience with me for being weak and believe me, it hurts. And truth be told, I don't have patience with myself.

Today is my 67th birthday. It’s shocking isn’t it that a woman my age, who has so much to say in the threads, can’t get a grip on her own life?

I have so many excuses why this happened to me. I’m the queen of excuses. Yesterday it was a confrontation with my boss. The day before it was bad news that my car is almost dead. Three weeks ago I had bronchitis which I’m still not over. Tomorrow it will be something else. How do you people here in the threads handle it all.

I envy SensualVixen for her crazy sense of humor; Robbie for his knowledge; Morgan for her confidence, Dru for her courage to put her past behind her. I appreciate Ambrose for his understanding and fairness and of course Vinny for his support many times. Laura, SweetOwen, Rodolpho, LadyFingers, Mercedes always friendly and with a good attitude. You'd never know if they are also dealing with problems. They just do. There are many others who have befriended me and I hope they don’t feel left out if I didn’t mention their name.

I just wish I was somebody else.
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May 20, 2009 8:03 AM CST Something Went Wrong
pebblesbamban
pebblesbambanpebblesbambanPennsylvania, USA3 Threads 4,038 Posts
Good post...thumbs up thumbs up
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May 20, 2009 8:06 AM CST Something Went Wrong
jeepers
jeepersjeepersCowpet Bay, Saint Thomas Virgin Islands (USA)57 Threads 10,968 Posts
Happy birthday !! bouquet
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May 20, 2009 8:06 AM CST Something Went Wrong
slim1977
slim1977slim1977my heart will always be in, Tennessee USA16 Threads 943 Posts
hug hug comfort


cant think of anything to say that dosent sound redicules. so here is this, and I hope things get better for you sad flower
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May 20, 2009 8:09 AM CST Something Went Wrong
sxc666
sxc666sxc666unknown, Queensland Australia51 Threads 16,853 Posts
Snuggs09: Well, that was interesting.
Not you Snuggs. I was just reading back over that an hoping you didn't take that as directed at you. As it wasn't.
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May 20, 2009 8:11 AM CST Something Went Wrong
pubwrite08
pubwrite08pubwrite08Columbus, Georgia USA14 Threads 2,451 Posts
Do not be upset, losing weight is like trying to stop smoking and trying to stop drinking or doing drugs. you relapse. I have done it, and I still do it here and there. But you have to realize when you cheat, tomorrow is a day to make it better.
Turn right around and go to the store, and buy the stuff you need to eat. I have diabetes, and cheating for me could be like horrible, but just keep telling yourself that you will do better the next time. It works. Do not beat yourself up, it will only give you a bigger I do not care attitude.
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May 20, 2009 8:11 AM CST Something Went Wrong
Snuggs09
Snuggs09Snuggs09Somewhere, New Jersey USA128 Threads 1 Polls 2,615 Posts
sxc666: Not you Snuggs. I was just reading back over that an hoping you didn't take that as directed at you. As it wasn't.


Didn't you write "you are a total friggin basket case"? How can I not take it that you meant I am. Of course I'm a basket case but I didn't expect anyone to say it. If it wasn't directed to me, what did you mean?
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May 20, 2009 8:13 AM CST Something Went Wrong
hopefloats
hopefloatshopefloatsSlim's Lady, Tennessee USA51 Threads 6,660 Posts
Corinne, I can honestly say that you are much like me sis. You ARE your worst enemy! Everyone hits rock bottom from time to time. The important thing is NOT to stay there. If I lived within reach I'd be there to coach you on. You are MUCH stronger than you give yourself credit for. You're in my thoughts Corinne! Don't give up. Don't give in. Keep pushin' on with that strength that you think you don't have.

teddybear teddybear teddybear
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May 20, 2009 8:13 AM CST Something Went Wrong
sxc666
sxc666sxc666unknown, Queensland Australia51 Threads 16,853 Posts
Snuggs09: Didn't you write "you are a total friggin basket case"? How can I not take it that you meant I am. Of course I'm a basket case but I didn't expect anyone to say it. If it wasn't directed to me, what did you mean?
No I just said it was not directed at you. It was directed at peblesbamban.

Meaning how anyone can say 'good post' with the feelings you are experiencing is in poor taste. The second part of the post was directed at you.

My mistake I should have been clearer.
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May 20, 2009 8:14 AM CST Something Went Wrong
Snuggs09
Snuggs09Snuggs09Somewhere, New Jersey USA128 Threads 1 Polls 2,615 Posts
jeepers: Happy birthday !!


Thank you Jeepers. Another day to remind myself that the past 67 years were a bummer. Maybe the next 67 I'll get skinny rolling on the floor laughing I don't want to be fat when they lay me out in that casket.
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May 20, 2009 8:14 AM CST Something Went Wrong
sxc666
sxc666sxc666unknown, Queensland Australia51 Threads 16,853 Posts
hopefloats: Corinne, I can honestly say that you are much like me sis. You ARE your worst enemy! Everyone hits rock bottom from time to time. The important thing is NOT to stay there. If I lived within reach I'd be there to coach you on. You are MUCH stronger than you give yourself credit for. You're in my thoughts Corinne! Don't give up. Don't give in. Keep pushin' on with that strength that you think you don't have.
Good advice Melty as usual hug
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May 20, 2009 8:14 AM CST Something Went Wrong
hopefloats
hopefloatshopefloatsSlim's Lady, Tennessee USA51 Threads 6,660 Posts
Snuggs09: Didn't you write "you are a total friggin basket case"? How can I not take it that you meant I am. Of course I'm a basket case but I didn't expect anyone to say it. If it wasn't directed to me, what did you mean?



Corinne, she was NOT directing that at you sis.comfort
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May 20, 2009 8:15 AM CST Something Went Wrong
Snuggs09
Snuggs09Snuggs09Somewhere, New Jersey USA128 Threads 1 Polls 2,615 Posts
sxc666: No I just said it was not directed at you. It was directed at peblesbamban.

Meaning how anyone can say 'good post' with the feelings you are experiencing is in poor taste. The second part of the post was directed at you.

My mistake I should have been clearer.


Oh, I understand. Yeah, I wondered why she said it was a good post. Thank you for explaining. I know the second part of the post was your words of comfort. Thank you.
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May 20, 2009 8:15 AM CST Something Went Wrong
hopefloats
hopefloatshopefloatsSlim's Lady, Tennessee USA51 Threads 6,660 Posts
sxc666: Good advice Melty as usual



hug
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May 20, 2009 8:17 AM CST Something Went Wrong
Snuggs09
Snuggs09Snuggs09Somewhere, New Jersey USA128 Threads 1 Polls 2,615 Posts
hopefloats: Corinne, I can honestly say that you are much like me sis. You ARE your worst enemy! Everyone hits rock bottom from time to time. The important thing is NOT to stay there. If I lived within reach I'd be there to coach you on. You are MUCH stronger than you give yourself credit for. You're in my thoughts Corinne! Don't give up. Don't give in. Keep pushin' on with that strength that you think you don't have.


I've always been my worst enemy. Always question if I'm doing the right thing because my parents and husband always found fault with me. And to this day, my boss continues to find fault. Just happened yesterday and that's probably what triggered this, although it was a subliminal thought cause I hadn't planned on going to the store.
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May 20, 2009 8:21 AM CST Something Went Wrong
sxc666
sxc666sxc666unknown, Queensland Australia51 Threads 16,853 Posts
Melty?????? are you melting Merky rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing


Jesus Im not doing too well with the posting tonight am I.laugh laugh
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May 20, 2009 8:22 AM CST Something Went Wrong
pubwrite08
pubwrite08pubwrite08Columbus, Georgia USA14 Threads 2,451 Posts
Take a deep breath and tell yourself It is okay. I know how it is. I swear I do. Everybody falls like Hope says. I bet you are a lot stronger than you think.teddybear
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May 20, 2009 8:23 AM CST Something Went Wrong
sxc666
sxc666sxc666unknown, Queensland Australia51 Threads 16,853 Posts
Snuggs09: I've always been my worst enemy. Always question if I'm doing the right thing because my parents and husband always found fault with me. And to this day, my boss continues to find fault. Just happened yesterday and that's probably what triggered this, although it was a subliminal thought cause I hadn't planned on going to the store.
Are you able to change jobs?


You need to build yourself an environment that is positive Snuggs.

Learn to like and believe in yourself.
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May 20, 2009 8:24 AM CST Something Went Wrong
slim1977
slim1977slim1977my heart will always be in, Tennessee USA16 Threads 943 Posts
Snuggs09: I've always been my worst enemy. Always question if I'm doing the right thing because my parents and husband always found fault with me. And to this day, my boss continues to find fault. Just happened yesterday and that's probably what triggered this, although it was a subliminal thought cause I hadn't planned on going to the store.





somthing I have found that works for me is this. concentrate on what you have done that is positive. one day at a time then build from there. I spent a great deal of time in my life, never being good enough. then I just decided that I am me, the good bad and ugly, I have things to offer, people to touch, and a life to live. I deserve to be happy and content. you have to have the grace to accept what you cant change. just take one day at a time.
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May 20, 2009 8:26 AM CST Something Went Wrong
pubwrite08
pubwrite08pubwrite08Columbus, Georgia USA14 Threads 2,451 Posts
So Well said
slim1977: somthing I have found that works for me is this. concentrate on what you have done that is positive. one day at a time then build from there. I spent a great deal of time in my life, never being good enough. then I just decided that I am me, the good bad and ugly, I have things to offer, people to touch, and a life to live. I deserve to be happy and content. you have to have the grace to accept what you cant change. just take one day at a time.
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