Right, I was talking about jealousy, not envy. I could've addressed envy too, but I am afraid it's going to be too time-consuming -- I don't have time to sidetrack...
But jealousy is not just bf/gf stuff, ya know? It's basically rivalry for love - romantic interest, friendship, family, any...
That's how we all wired.
It's only when jealousy becomes excessive, it becomes destructive.
Hence it's not about this feeling per se, but about other personality traits, it's all about how a person handles this perfectly natural emotion.
P.S. Besides you as a believer shouldn't be ashamed of this feelings since god created man in his own image and...
" I, The Lord your God, Am A Jealous God.
Exodus 20:5 "You shall not bow down to them or worship them; for I, the LORD your God, am a jealous God, punishing the children for the sin of the fathers to the third and fourth generation of those who hate me..."
Exodus 34:14 "Do not worship any other god, for the LORD , whose name is Jealous, is a jealous God."
Deuteronomy 4:24 "For the LORD your God is a consuming fire, a jealous God."
Joshua 24:19 "Joshua said to the people, 'You are not able to serve the LORD . He is a holy God; he is a jealous God. He will not forgive your rebellion and your sins.'"
Nahum 1:2 "The LORD is a jealous and avenging God;..." "
What about the other way around? You are the one trying to communicate it to 'her'... It's a very touchy subject and there is a probability that it can come across as accusation, mistrust, or even resentment. No matter how you word it.
Especially if attraction to other people is not an imaginary thing.
Jealousy
Hahaha...