Please don't place all women in the same category as one who treated you poorly. We all have our histories, both good and bad where relationships are concerned......and we all have our tragic stories of broken hearts. Look at it more as an experience rather than a mistake and try to learn from it. Trust your own judgement.....perhaps there were little warning signs from the beginning that you chose to ignore for the sake of a possible true connection with her? As far as the money goes.....can you really put a dollar amount or limit on what you would invest in a relationship? Time is something you can never regain, and I am assuming this was a very recent turn of events judging from your obvious anger? Perhaps with a little time to cool down and rethink your current standing.....you will realize that she is only one bad apple in the barrel.
A baby? Not quite Alex, but thank you for the compliment. And you are right...we definitely had the best music!!!!
Ummmmmmm...........think I'll pass .........Been there.....done that......and still have the paisly hip hugger bell bottoms, patchouli oil and love beads to prove it.
Besides......I get weird enough without that. But thank you for the offer.
No worries Cris.....they were not tears of sadness.....more so tears of relief and happiness that I feel that I have truly gained a newfound friend. Many, many 's to you........Pati
Cris.......I am in tears after just having read your response and truly at a loss for words. Thank you so much again and God bless you as well. ..........Pati
If he offers to take you shopping at Wally World for a first date.....but then tells you the only credit card he has is for Victor's Secret with a $50. limit and it is maxed out!!!!!
Another good remedy for back pain I learned in a Yoga class..... Roll an old blanket, pillow or whatever you can combine and either tie it with string or use duct tape to form a roll about 6" in diameter and the length of your back from the base of your neck to slightly below your hips. Lie flat with the roll centered on your spine, close your eyes and slowly begin relaxing your body starting at the top of your head and moving down. Sounds silly, but it works for me and several others I know.
Dear Cris.......Thank you so much for the email this morning and directing me to this thread. Somehow I had missed it when I was not online there for a few days. Amazes me how parallel our lives are.....the loss of a child.....the violence we have endurred from ones who were supposed to have loved us.....the hell we have lived through because of addictions.....the MS.....and the demons that at times still creep in trying to undermine all of the hard work that has already been done and placing doubt on the success of work yet to be done. It is almost as if the same book was written about both of us. I'm not sure the final chapter in my book is complete yet, but I am forever working on it.
Although you are much younger than I, I feel there is so much I can learn from you. You are a remarkable young woman and though I don't know you well, it would be a pleasure and an honor to call you my friend.
And thank you also to Rob. After reading this entire thread, once again I have taken pause to think about some of the things I have said in threads that weren't really neccessary. I think it was Dixrog? that quoted Emerson in a thread she posted not long ago that sums up the way we all should treat each other. It read “To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children...to leave the world a better place...to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded.”
God bless you both in the love you have found for each other. I wish you good health and much happiness. ......Pati
I agree Lion about not having expectations. But I also believe that when you are dealing with lost loved ones, the hurt of being rejected after finding one must be absolutely devastating. So, I don't wuite understand your comment about 'now know how to feel'???
OK.....enough wasted time on it.......my apologies iRon for having hijcked your thread for a few there.....but you gotta admit.....it's pretty funny reading.
Anyway......more reasons not to go on that first date:
If he shows up with cotton protruding out of his ear.....I'm bettin it's not an ear infection, but leftovers from the Q-tip he used diggin out the built up ear wax.
If he tells you his last date got up and left because he put a whoopie cushion on her chair in the McDonald's he took her to dinner at.
If he says he thinks a fun first date would be frog giggin.
If he tells you a fun second date is a Bar-b-q.....and it doesn't look like any chicken you ever saw.
If he tells you his car is in the shop and would you mind picking him up.....but then tells you to be careful meeting dad, he likes to slip ya the tongue.
I thought this was a great topic and had hoped to have more responses. So here I am reviving it for those of you who may have missed it the first time around.
RE: The Human condition. This does not apply to all.
Happy Toys for everyone!!!!!!!!