I have to disagree with laying your vulerabilities out there right away.......there are so many players who look for the weaknesses in others and then play upon them to gain their confidences. I'd say give that more time before divulging those. A truly insiteful person can sometimes see past the 'shell' we use to protect ourselves and understand why we feel the need to not open up so freely.
As far as the kisses and hugs go...........I think if it is made very clear from the beginning that you are in a 'getting to know one another' stage (building a friendship first), they can be given and received in just that manner. But if you are still hesitant, perhaps you could try these............
4. My near and dear friends (and that includes CSers)
5. My fish, Ed
6. Lagoona......oh wait....scratch him....(he didn't put me on his list)
7. God, my country, and apple pie!!!!
(DISCLAIMER: Depending upon my mood, the behavior of some individuals, estrogen and testoserone levels, the current price of regular unleaded at the pumps, barometric pressure, my savings with my 'Fresh Values' card at the grocer, the GOP, and whether or not my checkbook balances.....numbers 1 through 7 above are subject to reordering at any given moment!)
If you play the word commitment going down and connected to one of the 'm' words (monogamy, monotony, or monopoly) and play it across a triple word score.........plus it's a 10 letter word........lemme see......that's worth about.........236 points!!!! Holy Cow!!!!!
Wait a minute........... how'd you get 9 letters when yer only supposed to have 7???
Don't go changing, to try and please me You never let me down before Don't imagine you're too familiar And I don't see you anymore I wouldn't leave you in times of trouble We never could have come this far I took the good times, I'll take the bad times I'll take you just the way you are
Don't go trying some new fashion Don't change the color of your hair You always have my unspoken passion Although I might not seem to care
I don't want clover conversation I never want to work that hard I just want someone that I can talk to I want you just the way you are.
I need to know that you will always be The same old someone that I knew What will it take till you believe in me The way that I believe in you.
I said I love you and that's forever And this I promise fromhe heart I could not love you any better I love you just the way you are.
That's right Claayer.......as with everything else in life........we can only TRY to do our very BEST. And as we all know, children are each very different from each other......no 2 can be raised exactly the same way......and NONE OF THEM COME WITH INSTRUCTION MANUALS!!!!!
I agree with you to a certain point bebe, but like everything else, everyone's circumstances differ. My 2 brothers and I were abandoned by our mother when we were very young.....my older brother was 28 months old, I was 18 months old, and my younger brother was just 6 weeks old. When I grew up I was determined to be the best mother I could possibly be. Unfortunately, my choice in husbands wasn't great and I found myself with 3 small children and married to an abusive alcoholic. Between working full time, taking care of the household, the children and all their needs and functions (Girl Scouts, Boy Scouts, Softball, Soccer, Band, etc.), there was no time for me to have any kind of an outside social life. On top of all that, I became very ill and was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis in '92 when our oldest child was just 9. I divorced their father 2 years later. And I was still determined to be the best parent I could be. I had been the only parent they had that they could depend on to that point anyway.
As they grew up, I had hard lessons to learn right along with them. It was difficult 'letting go' of them and allowing them to grow into their own individual selves. But I managed. And yes, there are still times, now that they are all grown that I have that empty feeling. But it es me great pleasure and satisfaction to sit back and watch......to see the kind of young adults and young parents they have turned out to be. They're far from perfect, but they have kind hearts and compassion for others. Something you don't see a whole lot of in this world today.
Less than 100 mile drive from here.........think I may be able to make it up there for at least a day trip. I don't drink......so I'm not the big party animal. But dinner and maybe a show or just a get together for lunch and to get to know a few would be nice.
Count me in! Anyone else interested in seeing 'The Phantom of the Opera' at the Venetian??? Or Cher at Caesars??? (I wonder if that tatt on her butt has sagged to the backs of her knees yet??? )
Dearest Cris......I'm so happy to see you are back on your feet.......at least somewhat. The 'old fart' has kept me posted about your progress. Just don't go overdoin it now.
I so admire you.....Patrick.....Cyndy......and all the 'others' like you for your strength and courage. Courage to know when it's time to let go......and strength to hang on and get through it. I'm still working on that.
Take yer time g/f......you know as well as I that making changes takes time.....(longer for some of us ). You've had a ton of people praying for your recovery......and a ton more willing to be there for you when you need us......and that one special friend who is always there......you know, that guy upstairs. (Bet Patrick's head was blowin up this big thinkin I was talkin about him! )
Always remember.....that I , like you, are here for you even when I'm not there.
RE: Riddle me this....
I have to disagree with laying your vulerabilities out there right away.......there are so many players who look for the weaknesses in others and then play upon them to gain their confidences. I'd say give that more time before divulging those. A truly insiteful person can sometimes see past the 'shell' we use to protect ourselves and understand why we feel the need to not open up so freely.As far as the kisses and hugs go...........I think if it is made very clear from the beginning that you are in a 'getting to know one another' stage (building a friendship first), they can be given and received in just that manner. But if you are still hesitant, perhaps you could try these............
on the cheek for my dear friend
or in a non-commital way
Just a thought..............