Difficult Merri- and upsetting. I'd like to think that even if I were smitten, that feeling would evaporate when I realised they were not the person I had been led to believe - and tell them to go (but I understand this probably wasn't possible in the situation you had).
Yes, I agree, our past will shape us. That's why it's so important not to take 'our baggage' into the next relationship. But that is often easier said than done. And, as you say, if someone has 'learned to charm', they will get the first dates.
Some I think, just don't realise how they are acting - the same as many manipulative or abusive folk - they simply don't accept they have a problem.
Beats me too Merri. I don't know, if he changed after you met him, maybe it was his way of getting out of having to say he didn't want to pursue the friendship?
Again, I have to disagree. This could equally be said of women. Except for, 'there will be tears in her eyes and she will not stay in control of her emotions.
Thanks for agreeing, and seeing that there are a lot of issues on the table. Does that mean you are ready to change your opening opinion, in favour of a 50/50 split, or are you still convinced men take it harder?
t quote=ClearlyStated]Who do you think takes it the hardest? Or how different do we take a break up from males to females.
Personally - I feel that men take break up the hardest, not that women do not, just that men are wired so different when it comes to emotions. When a man gives his all - he is giving of what is his heart and mind to that person, when that is broken - he is terrified to open again.
What ya think???
I'm still disagreeing. I'm going to say it's probably 50/50. It all depends on what happened to you. I gave my heart and mind and had it broken - I am terrified to open again.
If when a man gives his all, he is also terrified of having that broken, wouldn't that make him try every avenue before choosing the 'leaving' route?
Still disagree. Just because I am a woman, and naturally 'wired to nuture' hasn't in my book helped me in any way to get over my break ups.
I think I have read elsewhere, that you and your partner 'grew apart'? If so, you have a different angle on this, compared to couples where one drops a 'leaving' bombshell on the other.
I had to brave the new terminal at Alicante last night - that was emotional enough 'Soul less' would be the description I would give to the new terminal, kinda appropriate for this thread...
I disagree. I'm not a 'Mum'. I've found both of my break ups extremely emotionally hard. I don't think either of my partners have found it as hard as I have.
I think it has more to do with who made the decision to break up.
No idea what is going on, but if folks don't kiss and make up soon, there will be more jail visits. (And I don't excuse any bad behaviour - that's up to those who are guilty to reflect on).
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