mtngypsy828 Forum Posts (283)

RE: Do not look at her look at meeeee!!

Hey, Mindful, Hey, Angel, and Raven, and anyone else I missed!

I don't know why anyone thinks all this is funny, except in an imbecilic, sophmoric kind of way, kinda like fart jokes told by nerdy pre-teenagers. But I guess I'll laugh anyway.

RE: How would you spice up your love life?

Go someplace we've never been. Turn off the phone, tv, and spend a day just with each other.

RE: Chemistry

Chemistry is sometimes the only thing that exists when a relationship begins; that deep seated feeling that "he knows me" happens all the time, not just in man/woman relationships but also when we meet a person who is a really good friend. But it waxes and wanes in a relationship, just like romance does. When we ignore chemistry and try to reshape the other person into what we think they should be, it messes things up, crosses the lines of communication. And, yes, chemistry can become love if we don't screw it up.

RE: marrage

Yep, just a little weird. All of these conversations we've been having about looks and whether women lie about their looks and whether your picture portrays you well enough, and I'm over 40 do you think I'm still attractive....

Obviously what we look like is a big part of our relationships. I definitely would want to see someone before I even suggested anything deeper. It's right up there with job, number of kids, age. Not showing your picture to someone and then asking us if it's okay to marry him....well, it's kind of sick, IMO. I can see falling in love or being infatuated with someone you've written to and talked to but havent met, but if you're in love, why haven't you shown him what you look like? Love is about trust and honesty and, well, he's gonna see your face eventually, why not now?

Yeah, it doesn't make sense. I dont get it.

RE: Do Men Consider Women Over 40 All Washed Up?

Washed up? No way! What's great about being in the mid 50's? Lets see, no silly insecurities, no pregnancy, no hot flashes, no PMS, no limits!
The halfway mark was absolutely awesome for me! I'm not washed up but I sure do clean up good!

RE: Do Men Consider Women Over 40 All Washed Up?

What characteristics should I list on my resume?

BTW, my daughter and grandchildren live in Gulfport.

Hi John!

RE: Ladies......

I'm a romantic, too. And I like to be treated specially by one who is wooing me. I try to treat the men I have wooed (and wowed) specially, too. We all have our ways of doing this for each other: opening doors, putting a new filter in the furnace, making dinner, buying that chocolate he/she likes, suggesting a special date, dancing to that song we both love, etc. etc. ad nauseam.

Those things are equal.

And yes, I have known many men who are feminists. They realized that freeing us from economic, political, and social restraints were good for all of us.

Of course, taken to the extreme, everything is problematic.

RE: You are judged by your photos

Well I upload a pic of my dog for the same reason that some people upload pics of their kids; she's the most important person in my life right now.
And to show I'm a dog lover. Ya can't be all bad if you love a dog. At least I've had practice consistently taking care of and compassionately loving something!

RE: It Can't Be This Hard

And on that note, I'm going to bed.

RE: It Can't Be This Hard

Sure it can be that hard! Haven't you seen those Cialis commercials that warn you to see a doctor if it lasts more than four hours? isnt that hard enough?

RE: Would you date a woman out of your social circle?

Heck yeah. Why artificially limit the potential pool size? I've been upper middle class and homeless in the same lifetime. I'm about to be a college student again. What's a social circle? One of my best friends is 74 and another is 22. I have lots of different people in my life, so I'll date from the same pool I make friends from, thank you.

RE: Do you have any positive news to share or want to vent?

I've been accepted into the college program I wanted and got grant money to go! Start on the 17th!

RE: mustabaters

I mean, look at that picture! Laughin while I'm slappin my skin!

I'm single and celibate right now. What else am I gonna do? And don't even tell me I'm too old for that stuff. I'm an expert fisherman!

RE: mustabaters

Oh, heck yeah. I'm the best I ever had!

RE: Ladies......

Ah, JD. Now, I'm an old school American feminist, and I can email you and explain what I mean by that, but using that kind of language toward feminism on this site really does upset me. It also seems that although you term it as feminism, it's actually the political old-girl system that has been created by women in your specific country that upsets you. Please don't use that system to scapegoat all problems with women with feminism. You are better than that. The women on this site, most of whom are not part of the feminist system in your country, don't deserve to be insulted by you. They are trying their best be good, strong mothers, daughters, sisters, etc within their own sociopolitical systems. Lighten up, please!

RE: IS IT POSSIBLE TO FALL IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE YOU'VE NOT MET YET?

Maybe, I've begun to like a few people in these forums after being here awhile. I've been intrigued and momentarily infatuated. I've certainly been challenged. But, no love yet.

I'll report back if it happens!

RE: Do you do this?

If a guy forgot something and left it at my house, I'd probably throw it away next time I cleaned up unless it was clothing or something important. I never left anything at a guy's house without asking if it was ok. I'm much more direct, "would you like me to come back sometime?"
Haven't been turned down yet.

RE: What makes you think that you are special?

I'm not special, I'm just as unique as everyone else here; no more, no less. I learned a lot about myself, what I do want, what I can be flexible about, and what doesn't matter to me during my past relationships. Somewhere out there is someone who will fit with me forever.

RE: I am single because...

Cause I was so busy for years being married and working in engineering that I've kind of forgotten how to flirt or "catch" a man.

RE: How would you go about ending a bad date?

That's also why you provide your own transportation, so you don't have to get a ride home with him after you tell him he's not interesting to you.

I think it helps when you temper it by saying something like, "I don't want to waste your time either." so you don't sound horribly self centered.

RE: Will Someone help me

Oh, please don't mess with my pics of the pooch! Shes the best part of me! And makes me a better woman, too!

Thanks for the insight. Now I'll have a bit more caution and not feel quite so bad about looking.....uh....average.

RE: Will Someone help me

Man, I wish I'd known that! I mean about Photoshop. I havent taken any full length pictures yet cause I need someone else to take the pic, don't have anything sophisticated like a timer or software for changing photos!

I may sound pretty naive but I didn't even do the makeup stuff for pictures here cause I "yam what I yam," all that's gonna happen is that I'll get older. The pictures were the most recent ones I had, that's all.

So do the guys do that too? Tell it true, Brian!

RE: OK...Do you go for love and romance...or a good fxxk?

Could not have said it better myself. Reality is: none of us are gorgeous or handsome all the time; none of us are perfect every night, some of us who made lots of $$ dont anymore and some of us are startin small and on our way up. Sometimes the tea is sweet and once in awhile we forget the sugar. Thank you John.

RE: What is....

The most important thing to me is that we each have our own life. It's great to be in love and with each other, spending time with each other, but that can get boring if each of us doesn't have their own interests.
He can spend some of his time doing whatever he loves to do alone or with friends and so can I. It brings much more to share in the relationship that way and neither of us becomes stagnant.

RE: Let`s have a party!

some torches for around the canopy

RE: Official Women Appreciation Thread

Aw Stress, thanks. Sometimes, just like when you're out looking for someone, the loudest, most raucous voices dominate the conversation. We all need to look past those negatives to find the good stuff about each other.

RE: Flowers for the ladies

wildflowers or flowers from your garden, field or yard are great.
There is one exception, though. If I'm working in an office (which I was once) there is nothing quite like the look on my co-workers faces when someone brings flowers in for me. And then there they sit, for quite a few days, a constant reminder to me and everyone else that someone out there thinks I'm pretty special. Best if you don't put your name on the card!

RE: Any men on here who actually like women?

Don't worry. They do like us, they just don't know how to tell us. So they cover it up with inappropriate jokes and too much laughter and riffing off each other in some kind of testosterone riven stream of consciousness man thing. IMO, these guys are pretty decent as individuals. It's just in groups that they get a little out of hand, it's that alpha male pack kind of thing. Women do it too, but we put each other down. Kinda reminds you of grade school, really. But that is where we learn it!

RE: Destiny of a Relationship

I really think that if I'm bothered by what people say about a relationship that I'm in, I've gotta look at me and why it's buggin me. Am I afraid, or insecure, or do I know I did something wrong and not correct it: did I gossip with someone behind his back? I've got to change the way I do the love business with my partner and not worry about what someone else does or says about the relationship.

It's kind of strange that in these days, when everyone vicariously sleeps with anyone they want to, that we get so sensitive about each others opinions.

RE: NEW kid on the block

OOOPSIE! I did bad CS etiquette! I gave a very nice gentleman wild man my Yahoo address just today! Didn't know it was a no-no. Sorry about that, sweetie. I'm not trying to scam you at all, just didn't know what was proper. We can stay in the neighborhood and talk till you feel safe to be alone with me.