I gave up over a year ago. I'm fine with it. I have loved and loved truly. Once you give up (55 & over) you'll find a great weight lifted and a true sense of freedom. I'm not saying that I wouldn't mind cuddling up with a nice woman now and then, it's just no longer a priority.
Ben there done that. It's so worth it. Not necessarily while it's happening but it means so much to your children and they will remember it all of their lives.
RE: turn on spots
You lucky man.