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Years ago, I had a talk with myself regarding my troubles about love and relationship. My inner self told me: "I think your problem is that you are very serious about getting into and being in a relationship that you are missing out on opportunities that are yet to present themselves. When you meet a guy, you already categorize him to MIGHT or MIGHT NOT have a future with. You have judged them as to what they have initially shown you. When you yourself are holding back in the beginning. At the start, both people are expected to hold back a little, so by putting a tag on a person early on, when he hasn't shown himself fully on all his potential is what's making you sad. What if he was actually good, but you didn't give him a chance to begin with?"
With that, I gave one guy a chance. The problem is, when I start to have a bond with someone, I trully give them all the chances and accept everything and overlook everything, even all the red flags. That it took me 4 years to realize that the relationship I was in was not the right one for me.

Was I right with the way I dealt with my issue before that landed me the 4 years relationship? It was. Because even when it was not the right relationship, I learned so much from it. So now, Im thinking of another change inside me. But I guess this time, I will focus on something else.

As a long time member of this site, I want to acknowledge my gratefulness for the owners, moderators and anyone who is responsible in providing us this wonderful place.

Not only do they give us members the chance to meet our significant others (two great loves in my case) but that they allow us to have a very respectful and interesting discussions about almost anything else.

I would like to invite everyone and share me in thanking the owners, moderators and anyone involved in providing us this free site.

Thank you again moderators for having a good control and your fast response to cut incessant insults from some posters when needed. I have been involved many a times and I have learned that in order for all of us to learn we must remain decent and positive on all of our posts to foster a good relationship.

Of course, we will have a lot of disagreements on almost everything and why not, we are all different, but agreeing to disagree is the mood that the owners promote.

I have learned and I am trying to be good to everyone, including those that disagree with me and don't like me.

Thank you all.

Recently, I had a conflict with a co worker who has become a friend. And someone gave me an advice that united my heart and my mind.. He said: Never pick a fight and make an enemy out of anyone. No matter how you dislike a person, deal with them with diplomacy and kindness. For you never know what they might bring to you.

That moment, I gave it deep thought. I have 3 options:
1. I will confront the issue with anger. With it I keep my pride and express to everyone that I am right. And that noone can step on me because I know how to fight back.

2. I will face the issue with apathy. Some people might think I'm wrong on the matter, some people might tale my side. But who cares? I will just act as if I don't care and it doesn't matter.

3. I will talk to the person involved sincerely using diplomacy. Even when she wronged me, I'll give kindness. This will kill my pride but it will keep the peace and won't create unnecessary drama and awkwardness at work. And if by it she still rejects my attempt to peace keeping, at least I will be at peace.

So, I chose option 3, anyway, the only thing I lost was my pride, temporarily. In the end, I kept my friendship and peace. That guy was right. A little diplomacy and kindness go a long way. And letting go of pride once in a while, gives me peace that I need way more than whatever prize pride will ever bring me.

Good day CS. I haven't wriiten in a while. but now, i have something I want to talk about, so here I am..

All my life, I've always been so careful and really cautious about my steps. Making sure that i don't make any wrong major decision. People around admired how my life is in the right direction. Giving praises to my parents on how they raised me well and and how lucky they are to have a chilf like me..

The thing is, I had people's admiration, but I was living under too much pressure. I thought I was happy with it, but it didn't feel like living my life the way that I can achieve the kind of happiness that goes through your soul. The kind of happiness that inspires you to be bolder and take risks.

I thought it was because of lack of a certain person in my life. A love interest to be exact. So I entered a relationship thinking that it would give me the push I needed. But instead of being pushed, I became more comfortable. Instead of bettering myself, I focused on bettering the other person that I put myself less in priority. After a long while, I realized the relationship is getting nowhere, and some triggering situations, I ended the relationship.

Then I opened myself up to dating again. I dated a few guys of different background, races, and personalities. Until I found one guy who suited all the criteria. He was one of the triggers of big changes in me. He is a great guy. Values, personality, availability. However, he made it clear that he cannot commit, so I stopped seeing him. It was difficult, but I cannot continue with something without guarantee..

I guess what I'm trying to say is, even when Ive tried to change my outlook and the way i see things, some values and beliefs never change. Ive changed so much, but I'm still the little miss cautious me..

I plan to do a poll (this weekend) by the same name to see the response of which hand people favor. I'm guessing of the general public, left-handed are probably less than 10%

For the most part, I'm left-handed. Writing, playing guitar, brushing my teeth, cutting steak too all left-handed. Tennis and baseball... left-handed. Bow and arrow... I could only buy the cheap ambidextrous ones as the expensive models were only stocked right-handed.

Some musical instruments, woodwinds for example are only available right-handed. Many six hole Irish flutes and tin whistles can be played either way, but I learned right-handed.

My mother owned a shop for alterations (repairing garments) and dry cleaning. After school and when I didn't have music practice, I would work in her shop. All the sewing machines where industrial style. The knee control that raised the sewing foot and the drive wheel that went to the motor was on the right side.

She had a oversized ironing board with a large iron that got steam from a 'pressure cooker' with a long hose. It was impossible to use this setup any other way than right-handed. All of her scissors had perfect fit metal handles, so I had no choice but to use them right-handed. It's easy ironing now with a conventional iron... ambidextrous.
Razor knife... left-handed. House painting... left-handed, I have to force myself to paint with my right hand.

Telephone and cellphone, right-handed because rotary phones worked better right-handed.

Calculator and computer mouse... right hand and I consider this an advantage as I can write and 'mouse' at the same time and not have to put the pencil down.

Soda and sandwich... ambidextrous.


Blog Category: Self-Improvement, because the more things I can do with either hand, the less restrictions I have, especially with power tools.

Hey people,
Fuel went up by 4% and BOV went down by 10% and not paying any dividends this year so far. Makes me feel like Zuckerberg must have felt with his Facebook shortfall 5 days ago (ha bl**dy haha)!
Not a good start to this hot month of August. But I can still go to the beaches, albeit somewhat overcrowded. And snorkel!
Ah..... I also wrote a new poem, and that helps life remain somewhat bearable.
Peace

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Some of my blogs are inspired about current events and other popular blogs at the time. One such blog I did years ago was inspired by another blog. It was posted by a woman saying that men who played with themselves excessively would lose sensation. Okay, I did some research and found a few links to support her topic. I also read normal sensation would return when the men discontinued such activity.

I knew this woman's style of blogging and I was certain the work wasn't hers. I believe the correct term is plagiarized.

Her blog was funny to me, but I knew the inverse was true for women.

Typing away... and not doing cut & paste I wrote a blog that inverted what she said. If she said something a man did, I found a way to describe the same activity using a woman as the example.

Blogs on that site allowed for (up to) 5 tags (topics or categories) and I correctly tagged my blog with: satire, parody, humor, joke

Unfortunately, 'she' didn't see the joke and neither did her two friends.
It's not uncommon for me to blog then go out for a while. I'll check back after a few hours to see if I had any comments.

Yeah, I did.
I was getting lots of kudos and comments from people 'who got it' along with threats that I plagiarized HER work. They told me I stole her blog and I was being reported to the moderator. They were serious about this...


What's strange is we had commented on each others blogs in the past. I guess that abruptly ended!

Okay, so I dismantled my blog and rewrote another blog titled "I stole your blog..." where I explained my side of the story. If you only heard their side it appears that I was the devil. Actually that was one of the comments from her. If it really was bad, I'm sure the moderator would have deleted it. The blog stayed up.

The response/support to my new blog was overwhelming as though people were actually waiting for something like this. One of the private messages I received had two links. One to a story on a commercial site and one to a blog posted by one of my accusers, someone I knew and had shared comments with.

I was told there were more she had plagiarized.

Huh? The blog was copied? The woman accusing me of taking someone's work had been doing this (stealing) all along...
I wanted to puke over these findings, and I was asked to be silent by the person sending me the links

Thanks for reading my blog!

"WARNINGS SIGNS"

ITs All Depend, At What Stage You Are At The Moment!
If you Already are seen Visions, If you Are Feeling Violent!, Toward Other People, If You Are Letting Your Self Go,You are not feeling Hungry To eat Your " Favourite Foods", If you are Staying in doors, Not wanted to See or Talk to Anyone,If You Feel Unworthy, If you Feeling Not Wanted to live Anymore.
"You Need To Seek Medical Help Immediate"
Get Your Self To A Near Hospital!
"Please Do it For Your Self And your Loves One"
"Medications Should Be The Last Result"
" And Just For Short Time" By Reducing the Doses Slowly! " This Is To Avoid Addiction!

What Help You To Overcome Depression!

To Overcome Depression: You Need To Express What You Are Feeling( Talk, Talk) If You Can Not Talk To A Love One ," Contact Head Space" Or Similar Helping Place ! As soon Is Possible!
They Will Counselling You, And you Will Feel Better And Better!
"Do Not Miss Any Appointmments"
...................................................Continued....................................................................................................By falicia
What Is Your Opinion?

I woke up around midnight and couldn't fall back asleep. Got up a couple times, played a computer game, didn't get sleepy, tried to watch a documentary on China history, didn't get sleepy so I let my mind wander.

Bear in mind for those that don't know me, I semi-retired two months ago and moved from one city to another. I now live ten minutes (probably less) from my aging parents. After working my whole life, going to school, raising kids I now find a lot of extra time on my hands. What to do?

I know I'm getting back into volunteering as I did that in the city I just moved from, the main focus was feeding the hungry but donating my time is on hold for now until I know what I want to do or am needed.

When I was younger I was gung ho to garden and loved what I grew, somehow I faded away from that but the juices to start gardening again have been flowing recently. My first attempt at tomatoe & eggplant in a "grow pot" was a failure. I'm joining a community garden which I think my last blog was about. I saw their compost piles and got even more inspired. The month of July and August are brutally hot here, to hot for most things except onions and okra but it dawned on me while I couldn't sleep and went into busy brain thinking mode that I could start seedlings in the house. I jumped up to go watch you tube on how to do things.

So far I built an egg carton greenhouse to start some bok choy seeds given to me and some cherry tomatoes. Then after several more videos I'm all into making some bean sprouts all of which I dearly love. Now I'm just waiting for it to get light enough outside so I can go get my soil to prepare, hence why I get to write a blog while I wait for the light.

If I were working, not being able to sleep would be very negative, but now that time doesn't matter I can turn it into a positive!

Of course I will probably fall asleep before I get to eat breakfast, so what, who cares!

Look into the mirror. Not just at the face. Look into your own eyes. You are looking at the only person you have to put up with the rest of you life. Be honest with yourself. You can't lie to you. You will catch you every time. You can't steal from yourself. Be honest. Except who you are. Become your own best friend. You are the one who has to Deeside to love you or hate you. If you hate you. You will always hold you back. If you love you you will take better care of you. If you don't like who you are change. You alone can change you. If there are things you don't like get rid of them. Things you like improve soon them. Your happiness is up to you. You alone can help you. You can only depend on you. Like yourself. Forgive yourself. Ask God to forgive you and repent. Stop hurting yourself and start helping yourself. Look yourself in the eyes. Do nothing that you can't forgive yourself for. Take care of you nobody else will your whole life. Smile tomorrow is a new day and a new adventure. Your world will be better that way. The whole world would be a better place if everyone would do this.