Living a boring life because of fear. Huh?
A recent quote by an American author caught my attention whilst visiting one of my favourite websites, and it really has me thinking. He said, “Fear is a manipulative emotion that can trick us into living a boring life”. Was he speaking from personal revelation, or paraphrasing the thoughts of a friend during conversation? I don’t know, but whilst thinking about those words, I realized that people’s life being boring is common, and it could also be us becoming bored with life (in general) that is sometimes the problem.When one is very young, energetic, optimistic and is experiencing life in all its newness and splendour, there usually isn’t any sign of boredom (except maybe at school or in church, lol). Perhaps this constant feeling of excitement and adventure was further amplified by one’s ignorance of fear? Do you remember how ‘fearless’ you were as a child (most of the time)? I do. It is only as I aged, that I became ‘fearful’ – usually of getting hurt physically, and later on … emotionally.
Not all fear is purely physical - there’s psychological, emotional and even spiritual fear - but I don’t think that it’s the ONLY reason for living a boring life or becoming bored with life… but then I could be wrong. Thrill-seekers, extreme athletes and other risk taking individuals lead exciting lives that sometimes are fuelled by fear (and other drugs
), yet they could become bored too. Isn’t theirs a case of living adventurous lives with or regardless of fear?Perhaps it’s when one’s fear becomes stronger that one‘s willingness to pursue new/challenging experiences – for example, dating outside of one’s race or relocating to another part of the globe for love – that that causes life to be boring. But what about becoming bored with Life altogether? I’m not talking about suicide (I've blogged about that already), just about feeling as though there’s nothing new under the sun that you could get excited about, or your ill-health/poor finances has dashed your hopes of being able to. Could fear be an influence for you in that case too?
In either scenario, I think that I may be guilty of letting some degree of fear affect my interactions with Life, and that may need some real scrutiny……
Comments (9)
Roosevelt.
I have little of it. That is seldom my issue.
What limits me (/has historically limited me) are these 3:
a) responability of other persons (you may recognize that part) or animals (pets)
b) fear of stepping into another non-shining relationship that I'd be better off single & hopeful
(fear of getting stuck wasting time, not fear of jumping in)
c) lack of inspiration prolly cos I don't believe this something will make me happy
So basically no fear here, but I'm a bit more slow to jump in ....
cos I wanna make sure it's not a waste of time. And that is a biproduct of getting older.
Almost ironically thou... that one waste years then making the right decision..
"while the grass grows- the cow dies" (norwegian proverb)
cos I wanna make sure it's not a waste of time. And that is a biproduct of getting older.
Almost ironically thou... that one waste years then making the right decision.."
I feel the same as well. but not always...and that is sometimes the scary part.lol!
of all sufferings.... it is
always one way or another.
teena.
but there is lot of truth in
these quotes i read
somewhere...
The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one...
And then you meet one person and your life changes forever.
may be for good... or...
As we get older our lives may seem boring but its because more time on our hands i believe . When working we had little time left to be adventuress after retiring we have loads of time free.
Learning how to deal with that time at a slower pace, make plans of things we would like to do when we did not have time to do, may just open the door to a different path to go.
I myself write a bucket list every new year, cross off what ive done and also things that my age or physical cannot do now but still add more.
Yep i am bored at times but hey that is just life.
of all sufferings.... it is
always one way or another.
teena.
but there is lot of truth in
these quotes i read
somewhere...
The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one...
And then you meet one person and your life changes forever.
may be for good... or...
As we get older our lives may seem boring but its because more time on our hands i believe . When working we had little time left to be adventuress after retiring we have loads of time free.
Learning how to deal with that time at a slower pace, make plans of things we would like to do when we did not have time to do, may just open the door to a different path to go.
I myself write a bucket list every new year, cross off what ive done and also things that my age or physical cannot do now but still add more.
Yep i am bored at times but hey that is just life.
A bucket list seems a good idea, even at this stage in my life...