SOFTIE…
People who are easily emotional and feel the pain of others deeply are considered to be ‘softies’. Some see such persons as being kind and empathetic, whilst others see them as being ’weak and stupid’. For example, the Cambridge Dictionary states that a softie is “a kind, gentle person who is not forceful, looks for the pleasant things in life, and can be easily persuaded to do what you want them to”, whilst the Merriam-Webster’s definition is “1: a weak or foolish person and 2 : a soft-hearted or sentimental person."In Psychology the term is “Soft Personality”, and identifies different types and traits.
If a man is seen as being soft (by women and other men), then that’s not a good thing, because that’s the equivalent of being weak and un-masculine. But some men can be big and strong, and still be a softie. Men usually have to present and maintain the image of toughness and stoicism (even if they aren’t naturally so), in order to be regarded in a positive light. However, women being soft is more acceptable, and is even desired as a character trait by interested males.
I can’t recall, exactly, when I first realized that I was a ‘softie’, but I can say that I don’t think I may have always been so. Seems to me, that when I was much younger I was less so, but who’s to say that I wasn’t ‘born this way’. Make no mistake, I’ve also been known to be tough and abrasive, not easily persuaded, and (very) foolish, so there’s no perfect formula to describe my brand of softie.
I’m mentally strong but physically weak, optimistic but pragmatic, appreciative of the simple things in life. I love to laugh but cry easily (at/for anything that’s sad), prefer to see the good in others but I’m too trusting, forthright but forgiving. Sounds like a resume or personal ad, right (
). Seriously though, I’m glad that I’m a softie, but it does have its downside…What about you? Are you a softie, too?
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I'm soft when it comes to caring about others especially those in more need than myself. I help in my community wherever and whenever I can and my door is always open to anyone who wants a listening ear.
However I can and will stand up and be counted against anyone who dares to cross my path in a disrespectful manner.
Must be the Capricorn in me.
I'm soft when it comes to caring about others especially those in more need than myself. I help in my community wherever and whenever I can and my door is always open to anyone who wants a listening ear.
However I can and will stand up and be counted against anyone who dares to cross my path in a disrespectful manner.
Must be the Capricorn in me.
Having said that, I'm not a push over either and I have to agree, if and when I see men being door mats, I do loose a certain amount of respect for them, women on the other hand, I lean towards protecting, as in watching out for them instead.
It's not too obvious.
I don't like dragging out a womans chair at the first date, cos I feel that is false romance.
I want her to know that what I wanna do for her is at a higher level, so fukk the chair! lol
I love holding hands.
Is that soft?
Anyways, thanks for a good blog.
Having said that, I'm not a push over either and I have to agree, if and when I see men being door mats, I do loose a certain amount of respect for them, women on the other hand, I lean towards protecting, as in watching out for them instead.
Didi
It's not too obvious.
I don't like dragging out a womans chair at the first date, cos I feel that is false romance.
I want her to know that what I wanna do for her is at a higher level, so fukk the chair! lol
I love holding hands.
Is that soft?
Anyways, thanks for a good blog.
"“Compassion and tolerance are not a sign of weakness, but a sign of strength.” – Dalai Lama
"If someone mistakes your kindness for weakness, that’s their fault – not yours."
"Being rude is easy. It doesn’t take any effort and is a sign of weakness and insecurity. Kindness shows great self-discipline and strong self-esteem.”
Not only men, but women as well, have to be strong and ready to lead as well. I know many women who are such.
even in this day and age.
"“Compassion and tolerance are not a sign of weakness, but a sign of strength.” – Dalai Lama
"If someone mistakes your kindness for weakness, that’s their fault – not yours."
"Being rude is easy. It doesn’t take any effort and is a sign of weakness and insecurity. Kindness shows great self-discipline and strong self-esteem.”
Not only men, but women as well, have to be strong and ready to lead as well. I know many women who are such.
I'm a bit of a soft touch with animals, they're generally less complicated, nearer my IQ
I have a vague memory of you posting something and think they might be more your colour scheme, maybe?
I'm a bit of a soft touch with animals, they're generally less complicated, nearer my IQ
I have a vague memory of you posting something and think they might be more your colour scheme, maybe?
Anyways if we had all the same attributes we would be a world of robots
Anyways if we had all the same attributes we would be a world of robots