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I don't wanna be a sandwich

Can anybody tell me what you may do when you're in such a situation:

There are currently 3 people including you in the same room, 2 of your roomates are arguing and bringing out a series of previous problems you didn't hear of before. The atmosphere is just getting worse and worse and one of them starts to cry very hard. But this argument seems like endless, and you are standing aside listening to them, being 'sanwiched' like you're no more an outsider... At this time, would you step in to mediate or choose to keep quiet? Which is better? And if you mediate, what would you say? The point is you know very little about both of them.

Please help me out. help
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BillyFatwas
BillyFatwas●South Coast, New South Wales Australia
May 5, 2010●4 Blogs●413 Comments
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If you know little about them stay out of it. Believe me; they will end up turning on you otherwise.

Go for a good long walk and let them sort it out (hopefully).
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Yanne
YanneOP●Haikou, Hainan China
May 5, 2010●2 Blogs●13 Comments
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Thanks for your advice, I also think it's better to step out of it. But if you want to go take a walk, wouldn't they think you are being cold to them? Or what you might say to them as an excuse of going out? This is really embarrassing because you have to live with them for some time.
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Drea111
Drea111●Tampa, Florida USA
May 5, 2010●21 Blogs●596 Comments
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Maybe Im just unconventional, but I would definetely speak up and help them get to the root of the issue, after all, you have to live with them. Eventually you probably become close, and I think since there is still some distance on your part, it would be the best time to be an objective mediator. Try to just listen to each side and not judge, or take sides. Remain neutral and offer solutions. cheers
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adamisk
adamisk●raleigh, Mississippi USA
May 5, 2010●1,442 Comments
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be the ref sometimes people need an outsiders point of view to solve a problem .
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isityou
isityou●Bengbu, Fujian China
May 5, 2010
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Since they know each other longer than you do - perhaps it is best to walk away and leave the atmosphere to clear and let them sort things out. They should actually apologise to you for losing it the way they did.
I hope the atmosphere has cleared by now and that you took notes during the argument (you don't want a similar situation cropping up again).

comfort
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Yanne
YanneOP●Haikou, Hainan China
May 5, 2010●2 Blogs●13 Comments
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Thank you too Drea. Your advice is also very reasonable, I will take it into account next time. handshake
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Yanne
YanneOP●Haikou, Hainan China
May 6, 2010●2 Blogs●13 Comments
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Hehehe..actually the argument happened yesterday, and I'm just curious to know how people will react if they're in my experience. The matter has cleared up after I told one of them to console the crying one and clear out all the unspoken misunderstanding, then they had a long frank chat with each other. It turned out, they solved their problems themselves. But during the argument I was embarrassed. And I don't think every case can be sorted out the same way, it's just lucky that both of the roomates are understanding types.

If they were very crude...hell! There's no doubt I would run away as soon as possible. Otherwise I'd have been a real burnt sandwich. mumbling
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Yanne
YanneOP●Haikou, Hainan China
May 8, 2010●2 Blogs●13 Comments
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Hello, Stoveking. Thanks for your betterment. I was actually saying A sandwich that was OVERcooked...
Anyway, are you an English teacherrrrr working in China? You remind me of our teachers. writing
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