Jealousy In Men

How many men do you know that truly admit that they are jealous? I meant that they really showing their vulnerability and tells you in all honestly that they are jealous. If I speak about jealousy, then there are two kind of jealousy. The one that wants to control you and wants you to do everything what he wanted, all hell break lose if you changed your mind, and it come to a point that leads to abuse.

And there are jealousy which I find it very charming, IF they admitted. In this case (not just in case) if you talk with someone, and he felt something burning in his heart, but that's all, it didn't lead him to do anything that might harm you.

So I'm talking about this one, the good heart jealousy. Strangely enough, I've never met someone, believe me I have quite a few male friends, and they are just friends. Some of them are married, or engaged, or even single. I asked them if they feel this feeling of jealousy. To my surprise, they all denied for being jealous. Even that good small burning feelings in their heart, nope they don't feel that. And it's amaze me that they denied to feel such feelings. One of them says it is ok for him whatever she's doing and he wont be jealous. But I found that quite unbelievable. You don't feel a thing if you at a party and see this guy is hitting on your wife and she like it, and you just okay with that? Hmmm, either you love her or you don't care, and if you don't care what she's doing it means you don't love her.

Women do have that jealousy, and they shown it whether you like it or not, and they have the tendency to see their own folks as their competition.

But why men don't or denied having such feelings? Is it something beneath them to admit to have that burning sensation when they see their wife, or girlfriend talking with someone (other male gender) else?



But today I've spoke with someone, and he admit to feel that jealousy in his heart. When I heard that, I need to make sure that what I'm hearing it's true, so I need some confirmation, and for the second time he said, yes I do feel that feelings. He wasn't even reluctant to say it, and then I told him that I've found that quite charming and very disarmingly sweet and charming. So my question now is, how many out there who are really showing what they feels, and how many who try to show it but then for no other reason just hold off? Well to them I would like to say, share it, tell your wife, girlfriend or your new lover about what you feel, as long as this is the good heart jealousy, not the out of control jealousy.


With that one revelation today, I feel quite good to know that somehow there are still some hope for men. Don't get me wrong, I didn't mean that they are hopeless. Some women thinks that way because they had one or two bad experiences with men, and they started thinking that they are all bad. I have two bad experiences with men, but I never close my heart for them. Being careful doesn't mean that I close my heart for ever.

If they open up, I think what we can do women, is to accept them and love them. They are amazing fun people to be with. If you find the right one. But then there's the clue again, don't go search for them, let them find you, because to go on a hunting expedition it's a guy thing, not women. Ok..I put my MacBook to rest and I too need some rest, it was a long and interesting day for me. I love you, you know who you are.