dating goals
Ok I've been thinking...Dang it hurts too.
So with the talk about business and people talking about finding someone I've had these thoughts.
Instead our goals being to find someone to love should we really be focusing on how to keep someone once we find them. Then when we do find them we can keep them happy as well as ourselves.
Ok, like having a goal to start a business, shouldn't the real goal be have a business until we retire or if we just want to start one sell should the goal be to make a sellable business not just to start one.
Does this make sense?
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Yes, the focus is wrong. But, we live in a world of instant gratification. There are so many women on this site, the buffet is too large for most men. They start talking to a woman and then send them an email that go like this: I am sorry I did not write earlier, but my mail box is so full that I must be selective to whom I write. I got that email and it made me feel like whale waste at the bottom of the ocean.
Like fecal matter...body waste, excrement, excreta, excretory product, excretion. I just can not bring myself to use the other word. And yes, whales eat so it has to go someplace.
Thinking about my comment, I guess I let it off too short. His email told a big story about CS and how much in demand you men are.
I wrote back..
WoW !!
Your a bit young for me HoneyPot,but keep up the good work...It was probably you that made the ground shake in Washington..Bye
See you dont have to be rude ALL the time !!!
I really am happy for you. I hope there is a good one in the lot for you.
I have never thought about reverseing things other than tracking down a computer problem. Thanks for the tip.
Have you ever watched a dog chase a car ? ?
He is all excited and enthusiastic and running aroung chasing his tail, and salivating all over the show . . .
the moment the car stops, he might bark for a little while longer, sometimes he stops quite abruptly . . .
Why ? ? ??
He has no IDEA what to do with it once he has caught
Relevance ??
Pretty much the same thing happens in the dating game . . .it seems that mostly the men (but not excluding women) . . . have NO IDEA what to do next, after they have captured the lady's attention.
Maybe you are right maybe there should be a set of guidelines set up to offer all the poor sods a clue on how to progress with a relationship AFTER the initial meet (ladies and gents).
This sounds like a nice deal, Steve. Be happy together
Good luck!
Summer
The counselors at school never discuss these issues. They only help them get through school, which is good but they need more planning than that. So many kids get degrees they never use. They never learn how to use the degree.
Maybe its the parents job but our parents didn't teach us. Think how much more successful we all could be in all aspects of our lives if we know where we are going.
Look at the space program in the 60s. We had an end goal of landing on the moon. We solved all the problems in record time. But once we got there then what? The goal was achieved but then everything sputtered.
Just stuff I think about. Thanks for all the replies.
To the one who said, "Men don't know what to do with it (women) after they catch them", I think you are largely right. But that's where communication comes into play. If the couple discusses where to go from here, maybe the relationship will be succesful.
Acrually this is why i'm not with amybody from here yet.
They say: 'Act as if a relationship is an enjoyable business, not fun and it will flourish'. :)