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The one!

I have been sending messages back and forth with this really nice guy. The closest I have gotten to really liking a man on here. I spoke to him for the first time just ten minutes ago and there was absolutely no spark, no connection, nothing but he is a great guy. AM I JUST A SHALLOW COW! or maybe I was just in lust with a photo. I am not looking for a bad boy or a model looking guy, just a loving guy and he seems to be all that, what the hell is wrong with me! confused
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sweetkitten4
sweetkitten4●Brighton, East Sussex, England UK
Oct 19, 2011●92 Blogs●471 Comments
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I don't think there is anything wrong with you. Anyway if it was a phone conversation how would you know if there was a spark or not? Surely it would be easier to tell with a meeting in person and if no spark then well at least you would have made a new friend.
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doeicjr218
doeicjr218●gilbert, Minnesota USA
Oct 19, 2011●36 Blogs●93 Comments
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I figure what ever the case you'll be jogging alot peace
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walkinginsleep
walkinginsleep●new york, New York USA
Oct 19, 2011●51 Comments
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Sweetkittens, is perfectly right, how would you know from a phone call, nerves alone, can stifle any spark,,,,,,, meet in person, and give things a chance to flow, and if it works out, take it off-air,,,,,, many relationships are destroyed, by advertising everything you do, on-line, wish you the best, in any event.
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marina1000
marina1000●Queensland, Australia
Oct 19, 2011●2 Blogs●327 Comments
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Hi Julsangel......this is a perfectly normal reaction. You reacted that way because you couldn't find a connection to the person you are talking to. The way he talked may have turned you off.

Emails and messages doesn't reveal the full personality as much as a phone call. And if you met him in person, in my experience, it only confirms what you feel on the phone. But, this doesn't mean you shouldn't meet him regardless, just in case it was a simple case of nerves.

You are not alone in this....some women, including myself, have experienced this. Don't despair....it only means he wasn't the right person to spark your inner fire wink
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morgenulv
morgenulv●oslo, Oslo Norway
Oct 19, 2011●43 Blogs●3,230 Comments
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Maybe (just a shot in the dark) you as so many others around here are only intrested in yourself? dunno
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marina1000
marina1000●Queensland, Australia
Oct 19, 2011●2 Blogs●327 Comments
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LOL @ Morgen......we women must be self-centered trully because we don't fall in love with every single person who comes our way rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing
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julsangel
julsangelOP●Shadoxhurst, Kent, England UK
Oct 19, 2011●3 Blogs●8 Comments
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Oh dear morgenulv you are so far from the truth but I totally understand where you are coming from. I am just a girl next door and I am not up myself and I really hoped I did not put that across as I did not mean to. He is going through a not so nice time at the moment and he came across as so distant and I am scared of forcing something I do not feel. moping I am feeling quiet wretched at the moment.
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10kOhms
10kOhms●sliema, Majjistral Malta
Oct 19, 2011●1,826 Comments
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If u had to meet me, you'd spontaneously combust not only spark! roll eyes roll eyes

uh oh uh oh
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10kOhms
10kOhms●sliema, Majjistral Malta
Oct 19, 2011●1,826 Comments
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kay, kay ... apparently u don't agree ... moping moping
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morgenulv
morgenulv●oslo, Oslo Norway
Oct 19, 2011●43 Blogs●3,230 Comments
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Dont worry marina. Our love is mutual.
U and me 4 eva. Ok?
OK...? grrrr very mad

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julsangel
julsangelOP●Shadoxhurst, Kent, England UK
Oct 19, 2011●3 Blogs●8 Comments
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So 10kOhms I would spontaneously combust would I. I suppose I would need a fire extinguisher to put out my knickers! tongue
and you would have to call me fire drawers or hot crutch! rolling on the floor laughing
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merc4x4
merc4x4●Scituate, Rhode Island USA
Oct 19, 2011
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I've had the same thing happen. Sometimes we begin to create a certain idea in our mind from just printed words and a few pictures. Until we actually speak to a person and hear their voice, we've created a personality for the person in the way we expect it to be.

However, when we actually hear the voice or meet the person, what we pictured and envisioned in our mind is usually nowhere close to how the person personality really is. You can not get a tone of someone's voice, or hear the excitement of their personality in printed form.


If you have mixed feelings about your situation, I would at least meet him in person for lunch (or coffee or something). And see what happens. Face to face, you'll have the opportunity to see the entire package (and I don't mean physically). I mean the body language when he talks.

Don't give up just give yet... If you do give up before meeting him, you'll never know and always question yourself if you made the correct choice.

Best of luck to you!!

Mike
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adamisk
adamisk●raleigh, Mississippi USA
Oct 19, 2011●1,442 Comments
#13
nothing your just not ready yet .
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