Ayr, Strathclyde, Scotland, UK

Dec 2011

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I had a bf!

I had a bf! Near i year he was with me. We met us. He told me that he love me. He was so kind and loving. And one time he told me "So sorry. I`m married. I have 2 kids and I can`t be with you. But I don`t want loose you. Pls stay with me!" I left him. My heart was broken.

How can I believe to someone after all this?!
Was I right? maybe I have to stay with him? Who knows!

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virgosingle●greymouth, West Coast New Zealand

Dec 9, 2011●409 Blogs●8,106 Comments

how could you stay with someone who tell lies , and could you ever trust him again and how many other women has he got ?

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spdspdOP●Ayr, Strathclyde, Scotland UK

Dec 9, 2011●52 Blogs●751 Comments

Thank you virgosingle!

I definitely needed someone to tell me this, But I still feel myself do confused.

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JimNastics●Kingston, New Jersey USA

Dec 9, 2011●1,965 Blogs●11,843 Comments

Tell him to get a divorce, THEN you can date him, if you like.

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spdspdOP●Ayr, Strathclyde, Scotland UK

Dec 9, 2011●52 Blogs●751 Comments

JimNastics, thank you for your advise but do you think it is fair to force someone to get divorce? If he wanted do it, he will without any force from me! Sorry about my bad English!

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IAMARTISTCAROL●LOS ANGELES, California USA

Dec 9, 2011●1 Blogs●112 Comments

I BELIEVED HE LOVED YOU...AND U HIM...BUT UNLESS YOU ARE WILLING TO LIVE WITH HIM BEING MARRIED..THEN U SHOULD FIND A NICE SINGLE MAN...GOOD LUCK...SO SORRY FOR YOU...HE SHOULD HAVE TOLD U FROM THE BEGINING! BAD MAN! BAD MAN!

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lookylou●carlos, Minnesota USA

Dec 9, 2011●149 Comments

I was lied to but in a lesser degree. It helped removing him from my contacts on Skype, email and CS. Sometimes he has been on my whos viewed page. I delete it right away.
It's ok to burn that bridge.

Best of luck,
Lookylou

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titsy●Medan, North Sumatra Indonesia

Dec 9, 2011●71 Blogs●1,604 Comments

Hi spdspd,

You have made the best decision
to leave him...

Now time to go out,make
new friends and move on with life...

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spdspdOP●Ayr, Strathclyde, Scotland UK

Dec 9, 2011●52 Blogs●751 Comments

Thank you all! You give me power to go forward and to find my real soul mate maybe!

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virgosingle●greymouth, West Coast New Zealand

Dec 9, 2011●409 Blogs●8,106 Comments

its ok to feel a little insecure , but I'm sure you will over come anything , here have a hug or 3

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adamisk●raleigh, Mississippi USA

Dec 9, 2011●1,442 Comments

#10

think of this a minute . do you really want to be with someone that is married ? what kind of future is that ?

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Vetra●Dublin, Ireland

Dec 10, 2011●6 Blogs●62 Comments

#11

Sure you did right . But for me is strange how spending almost year together you didnt understood he is hiding something from you . Must be you were really blind from love .
Anyway , wish you dont lose a power of your decision if he will try to get you back .

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spdspdOP●Ayr, Strathclyde, Scotland UK

Dec 10, 2011●52 Blogs●751 Comments

#12

Hi Vetra!I`m from Sofia and he is from Istnbul. He visited me here very often couse he have work here in my country but I never visited him there. Maybe this was a reason for my blindness, but I loved him with all my heart and soul and trusted him 100%. Now I am even ashamed how could I admit this! I`m near 50!
Thank you for the hug!

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Vetra●Dublin, Ireland

Dec 10, 2011●6 Blogs●62 Comments

#13

Now I understand you . Be honest i had learn Turkish men can not trust at all . For me even them HELLO sounds like fake .
Anyway

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AY7hQ2PcxcE

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angelfaith30●10, Kuwait

Dec 10, 2011●8 Blogs●17 Comments

#14

hi!well been there and done that lol!everybody have almost same experience but dont lost hope coz life is beautiful.also you deserve someone better i guess if you cant find one then just enjoy the life to the fullest smile and be happy always its the best thing you can give to yourself.

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Jana28●Sofia, Sofia Province Bulgaria

Dec 10, 2011●1,803 Comments

#15

Hi spdspd,

Sometimes we need love so much that we really get blind! I haven't had exactly the same experience but similar ones.
You just didn't have choice. You are right that if he wanted to divorce for you he would do it. I personally would never accept to date a married man.

Try to move on, good luck!

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Exotic11●Gold Coast,Australia, Queensland Australia

Dec 10, 2011●122 Comments

#16

spdspd,Don't feel ashamed in this situation,that is being too hard on yourself,this is all a learning process and some of us have made choices in our lives that are not always whats best for us.

You mentioned this man was Turkish,well,you can find mistrust in any country really,it's not always due to cultural differences,my daughters father is Turkish and I never married this man because I wasn't in love with him fully and did not want to make a decision that would ruin or hinder both our lives. I have a very good relationship with my daughters father,and for her sake as well,I can't ever say that I've mistrusted him at all. Each and everyone of us are different and have different opinions no matter what country/culture. Best Wishes.

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suerte67●Ensenada, Baja California Mexico

Dec 11, 2011

#17

Just think about the poor woman that is by his side, lied over and over again! do you picture yourself in that position? You deserve someone much better than that, and you will have! do not lose faith, there is a world of heathy sincere men out there!

hugs

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spdspdOP●Ayr, Strathclyde, Scotland UK

Dec 11, 2011●52 Blogs●751 Comments

#18

Thank you for your nice words Suerte! I made this picture alone with my cat Sarah!
I was so desperate but you all here gave me a lot of good power!

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Woman23●new york, New York USA

Jan 18, 2012●3 Blogs●33 Comments

#19

DOn`t waste your time on someone, who isn`t honest or loyal. He is fooling the three of you, himself, his wife, and you. I`m sure you can find someone who appreciates you like a diamond. Watch Jovan14606 videos on youtube, it will help you to understand :)

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Sakineh●doha, Doha Qatar

Feb 5, 2012●26 Blogs●186 Comments

#20

ooouuch...sorry to hear that. This is the only effective solution to get over him:

FORGIVE - all his lies. Always believe in Karma.
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ACCEPT - that he is not a man for you and you deserve someone who will truly love you

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MOVING ON and you will FORGET him.

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