Doubts
Sometimes in life must make hard decisions. Can we fully rely on our own judgment in such cases? Are we sufficiently sober at that moment?! Or should we listen to the advice of others?
At least only we alone endure the consequences of those decisions!
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If you are truly alone then the decisions and consequences are yours to take and endure.
If you have family or friends there is no shame in asking for their advice/opinion. You don't need to take it - but it may provide alternatives.
If you have family they might also have to endure the consequences of your decisions. Does this give the the right to help in the decision-making?
Whatever you do. Whatever decisions you make.
Real friends will always be there for you.
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As such, I feel I am completely unqualified to contribute to this rather interesting topic.
In theory it is easy, but in reality not quite. The results depend on the fact how mature a person is. Future will show if I was mature enough or not!
Don`t underestimate yourself! Very often we all are terribly indecisive!
What to do when I am an extremely stubborn person!
I understand you i very stebbern to and someitmes i do listen what other have to say but i always end up have my own decision.
But yah is good to listen some others opinions also.
I count on my family and real friends when I am face with major decisions. They may contribute on some ideas that will be able for me to weigh things more. Sometimes it gets confusing to have other ideas than my own. But I do appreciate it more than having just my own. In the end I will be the one to make the decision. It is just comforting to know that there are people that care for whatever step I may take.
I hope you agree with me that not always quick decisions are wrong.
Sometimes as Willem said, what your intuition whispers first is the right solution!
And there are no one, who don`t took wrong decisions in his life. Some of us like me took a lot of wrong solutions!
always looking back we wish we were wiser in some situations, assuming our current knowledge. But only think how boring and predictable would be our lives then!
And about your dog....I use my cat the same way like you your dog!
I'm world champion in "Making bad decisions"
Hope stubborn ppl will survive too!
I have no family. I have only my doughter but she is only 21 and I am afraid to burden her with my problems!
Some Abba is now called for ..
Patience is a great gift that would facilitate our lives too much if we have mastered it!
Thanks for ABBA! Love them!
I envy you! What a wonderful feeling never to regret about "important" decisions in your life!
good advise but don`t you think that this way is escape from responsibility?
Of course i regret going to the cinema and seeing a bad movie or working with a bad company (not what i was expected ) but this is not an important decision.
I hope i will never get a bad experience(relationship) with a woman because i am really like a white page.
I may listen other opinions and especially my father's ones but it's me who take the final decision. But in all the cases I like/need to leave it ripen for some time. It's very important not to hurry but to give all the info, pros, and cons to your mind and like some computer, it consciously or unconsciously works on them. Then in one nice moment you realize you have the answer! And it's so clear that you wonder you haven't seen it before!
And the best sign that it's the right decision is if you feel peace deep in you...
So my advice, leave it to ripen!
I always decide my own decision.But nothing wrong to ask a friend or family and listen them sometimes.But I am the one who make the final decision for myself.
the stomach is the best compass. If it feels abit wrong, i think there is a better solution. Q is only, how much effort and energy (time too) will it take to abandon a yes to a situation.
Must be considered also.
I believe abit in the "if in dubt, don't" i must say but that can be a lonely or boring still life. lol
So..... u do the calcyle now hun!
And don't forget... its in his kiss... so meet to kiss
-if its a guy involved here, i dunno.
But decisions (and consequences) are personal. What is right for you?
Think selfishly.
Once you have this in mind, look around at others and how it would affect them. You may need to alter your plan a little in order to be considerate and supportive of others.
Generally, the decisions we regret are the ones we made with false (or incomplete) information... when we try to figure out what everyone else wants and decide based on this. To think selfishly (which is difficult for someone with children) you know your information can be trusted.
Something to consider...
I think i am smiling in my profile picture
If you consider my factual opinions as a negative,then you are not that honest with the important issues in this world,i fight for human rights,every where and i do not accept lies and false accusations against ANY one.You can watch me and see next time how balanced and (factual) my opinions is.
And i do not respect any one,no matter where he,she come from or which status he,she got,when they accuse others with false accusations.
Indeed i am not happy about important issues in this world,but about my life,its other matter,i enjoy it when i can,of course my (Joy)is not the same as others.
I am sharp like a knife and straight like an arrow.