i have intimacy issues....
I'm afraid that getting too close to someone will mean losing myself..im romantic ..i want to love and want to be loved...but im damn scared...:(
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And some time later, one of the other students came up to me, saying 'Ya eejit! She doesn't HAVE a boyfriend! She never HAD a boyfriend! Ya eejit...!'
She had a similar problem: Every time someone got closer to her, she blocked him out.
I never found out why, but I suspect it was based on fear.
The only advice I can give is to regain your own life; whatever the cause of your fear may be is in the past. Try to overcome it- and I would suggest you do that by changing your picture: Your face is YOUR face- and you don't have to hide it because something or someone has instilled fear in you...
It doesn't appears to me you have intimacy issues but rather trust issues with yourself!
Self respect and self love are two pillars that you have to work on...
By the way, fear is only False Evidence Appearing Real...
Stop holding to your past... Stop thinking about it...
The only way to re-live your past is when you think about it, move on ... visualize your future
To quote someone I forgot the name:
We experience relationships to experience ourselves. But, when we rely on the other person to "fulfill" something in us, then of course we're bound to feel disappointed or even betrayed. If we love ourselves completely then we will also love the other person unconditionally. All our relationships in life, wheather it be with a parent, friend, spouse, child, animal, workmate, are there to teach us about ourselves. If we didn't have other people then we wouldn't learn about ourselves.
Move on and enjoy your life!!
Another answer I gave to a lady I met here on CS
It is difficult to be truly free of spirit and be totally open to all experiences while in a relationship. Even a relationship based around that will still feel the pressures of conforming to some ideal apart from that one. I guess it comes down to what you want most. Sometimes you can't have both. Sometimes in life a choice is made...it is a sacrifice...but if there's a net gain then it's worth it...but that's always the question...is there at the end of it all truly a net gain. For me I say yes...but I still reassess that from time to time. The answer is still yes...if that ever changed to no I'd like to think that I would walk away...
I suggest you ponder on it...
Kindest regards
Sometimes, if we are lucky, we can find it.
Even if it is only for a brief time, it is still worth it. It is the best thing.
The right man will subdue all your fears.
It can happen and I hope it does for you.