The right time to be in a relationship
The weekend before last I met a woman who has the qualities that I love in a woman - she is honest, she is real.A week on though and the reality of her life has bitten hard. Her need to try to finalise a separation agreement twelve months on after separating from ex, who is a vindictive man. A relationship that if it goes ahead will involve keeping it secret from him for quite a while, that therefore cannot include seeing or even phoning her at her home in case her children spill the beans to him.
I understand her reality. I dated a woman when I was three months separated and another when I was ten months separated. My ex didn't take it well and it was rough going. Me, I'm two and a half years on, I am ready I feel for a new relationship. I have learnt the lessons I needed to learn from my previous relationships. I know now what commitment means, what real love is really about.
She has been honest about herself and how emotionally raw she is at this stage. She has been so honest about the reality of the situation, which I really admire in her. The question I am asking myself tonight is should I be in a relationship with her ?. I know that cooking and love should be pursued with wild abandonment. But I just dont know about starting a relationship on the terms she needs. Maybe a good night sleep will help.
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