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Well..just want to tell someone

I just cut off a friend from my online buddy after we being friend from more than one year. LOng story but he just didn;t make me comfortable like before.

I don't understand how people say that he respects a woman but when a woman talked to him, she should repeat the same question for twice and even third times to him due to he didn't listen? Then when the woman stopped asking, he said that she was always upset to him now. How can a woman being so sweet while she talked for some times over and over for so many times in a year and her friend was not listen so far and never remember anything she said? Not make sense but that's happened.

I think, friendship or even a person we just meet, it's always polite if you listen to them properly and give attention. When you feel that this disrespect things happened over and over and then he makes you feel that you have something wrong, it's time for cut off the friendship before he makes you miserable.

I have given the goodbye waving and now I feel better.

Summer

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Simmo1●Melbourne, Victoria Australia

Aug 24, 2012●110 Blogs●3,699 Comments

sorry what were u saying, i was distracted just for a moment....

Sorry Summer....
This problem is often a 2 way problem as well.

am sorry to hear u cut it off after 1 year.

summertanOP●Medan, Jakarta, Jakarta Indonesia

Aug 24, 2012●51 Blogs●926 Comments

I feel good now, so no sorry. He can relax now and me even feel better

Maritarosi●Lima, Peru

Aug 24, 2012●15 Blogs●89 Comments

I understand how you feel Summer and I agree, you have done the best for you.

summertanOP●Medan, Jakarta, Jakarta Indonesia

Aug 24, 2012●51 Blogs●926 Comments

Btw, please explain what do you mean by 2 way problem?

summertanOP●Medan, Jakarta, Jakarta Indonesia

Aug 24, 2012●51 Blogs●926 Comments

@ Mari : I always try to be a good friend. Support each other and give space for friends to develop. Sometimes when we meet each other, talking and sharing, one side just don't listen. Sometimes he said he did listen, but after some times when we talked about it anymore, he said he never heard the thing..should you tell about it anymore when it's happened over and over again? I think he just didn't care. the funny thing is he said he cares and think that I was always upset to me. I think that's real funny.

Simmo1●Melbourne, Victoria Australia

Aug 24, 2012●110 Blogs●3,699 Comments

Summer
i mean that a guy could be talking to a girl and developing a friendship, and maybe sometimes the girl is not listening or does not care.
I knew a friend whose g/f had to keep asking him his b/day or whats his family like, how many sibblings, seemed she could never remember.......

I am glad that u r ok now....

summertanOP●Medan, Jakarta, Jakarta Indonesia

Aug 24, 2012●51 Blogs●926 Comments

@ Simmo : I treat people with respect, because that's what my culture teach me. I listened properly to what people said so that I remember when they talked about it. I don't like when I talked to someone, especially a friend that I have know for years, but actually know nothing about me after all. It's disappointed.

Simmo1●Melbourne, Victoria Australia

Aug 24, 2012●110 Blogs●3,699 Comments

Summer
I do understand what u r saying.
My point is that some women r like ur man friend, they too do not listen.
It is a shame, but what we can do?....
u r a smart girl, u will be ok.

Maritarosi●Lima, Peru

Aug 24, 2012●15 Blogs●89 Comments

Sure Summer I think thats what real friends do. Listening each other and giving support and confidence is very important. How can you get that kind of friendship if someone doesnt listen or cares about what you say. Its also true that some men are always distracted or pretending they care to get your trust but at the end they are just dishonest people and you deserve more than that.

Simmo1●Melbourne, Victoria Australia

Aug 24, 2012●110 Blogs●3,699 Comments

Mari.....
why r u turning this against men.

There women u do the same thing as well.....
it is nice who ever does it.

please do not say it is only men.....

Simmo1●Melbourne, Victoria Australia

Aug 24, 2012●110 Blogs●3,699 Comments

opps
meant
it is not nice who ever does it....
opps....

summertanOP●Medan, Jakarta, Jakarta Indonesia

Aug 24, 2012●51 Blogs●926 Comments

@ Mari : I don't know why I still keep the friendship this far. Maybe because I think man is like that and he might just don't at the focus moment. But when this happened over and over and then he is the one who think that I might have something wrong and try to make me feel bad..oh ow..this is truly not good. I won't let him or anyone do that to me.

Maritarosi●Lima, Peru

Aug 24, 2012●15 Blogs●89 Comments

Oh Simmo I didnt realize that. Of course everyone can do that. As I read Summer is talking about a man, and she deserves nice PEOPLE in her life, thats all.

summertanOP●Medan, Jakarta, Jakarta Indonesia

Aug 24, 2012●51 Blogs●926 Comments

@ Simmo : Not every man do the same thing like my friend did but I heard man might couldn't focus on too much thing. At the time I talked the latest time with my friend, he was not watching the TV so I think he might listened to me but nothing. Maybe I just talking to myself.

Maritarosi●Lima, Peru

Aug 24, 2012●15 Blogs●89 Comments

I understand Summer. Lets think in this way: You waisted a little of your time but he has lost a nice person who cared about him.

Its good to know you are better now.

narnia93●Jakarta, Indonesia

Aug 24, 2012●147 Blogs●516 Comments

same here... I just cut off 'a mind-feeling player' from my chat friend list a few days ago. I don't hate him,but I don't want to waste my time and feeling again to communicate with him.

Roxana21●Adelaide, South Australia Australia

Aug 24, 2012●240 Comments

Summer dear, give him a break, maybe he's up to something very serious, maybe he's got sum problems to resolve, ones of a kind he cant tell you.

evth of that cud make him like that but it doesnt mean it his true nature, if you been known him for a year you just shud know him betta and ask urself a question, hs he always been like that or just now?

summertanOP●Medan, Jakarta, Jakarta Indonesia

Aug 24, 2012●51 Blogs●926 Comments

@ Roxana : I did give him a long long break. He is not into problem. I think it begin when he met a girl on the street. Since that time he changed. Not that I ask for his attention..no..but I noticed that he began to take our friendship like granted. Firstly is tolerable but lately it really upset me. I don't understand why he has to do that but okay, I give him the space. A long long break and a goodbye smile.

Roxana21●Adelaide, South Australia Australia

Aug 24, 2012●240 Comments

Summer, tell him that gals in da steet aint the best option

usually they charge heaps

seriously, doesnt a friend deserve to be forgiven at least once in his life?

summertanOP●Medan, Jakarta, Jakarta Indonesia

Aug 24, 2012●51 Blogs●926 Comments

@ Roxanne : It's enough. No second chance. I have given our friendship enough chance but I think it might not deserve it that much.

Boy67●Cyprus, Limassol Cyprus

Aug 24, 2012●285 Comments

Ok summertan, i will tell you two things and then you cut me off. First what you are saying is that you cut him off because he didn't remember what you were telling him, well most men are like that; they let you talk because you feel happy but indeed they don't listen to your stories or any girls stories because they are not interested in that part.
Second, this is the reason men lie to women because if they talk strait women run away but by lying at least they succeed a few times in bed and then they go to the next one.
Who ever is going to tell you otherwise is lying big time.

Boy67●Cyprus, Limassol Cyprus

Aug 24, 2012●285 Comments

Narnia, good job. Cut him off your skype and block him from CS, he must been very bad and did something that he upset you bad.
Good girl, you are like a soldier.

summertanOP●Medan, Jakarta, Jakarta Indonesia

Aug 25, 2012●51 Blogs●926 Comments

@ Boy : Thanks for sharing the men secret. At least man still try to pretend listening and give a comment than really don't listen then don't know what to say. Do you get the difference? Good.

Boy67●Cyprus, Limassol Cyprus

Aug 25, 2012●285 Comments

If the woman is not an interest person no man will listen to her but in case that the woman is an interesting party then you pay attention to her.
I got your point but you should be able to pick up on that guy a long time ago.

summertanOP●Medan, Jakarta, Jakarta Indonesia

Aug 25, 2012●51 Blogs●926 Comments

@ Boy : I know I should. After I said goodbye to him and cut him off from all the devices he can contacted me, he was angry and said that don't want to see me again. I think that's good. Uh, I have keep a note for that and I have said thank you to him. I think I'm polite.

narnia93●Jakarta, Indonesia

Aug 25, 2012●147 Blogs●516 Comments

@summer : Biasaaalah, cowok emang gitu, kaliii..

@boy67 : How could you tell that he was on my skype friend list & from CS ? I did not mention anything.

Boy67●Cyprus, Limassol Cyprus

Aug 25, 2012●285 Comments

narnia93, Man instings.

HuggerMan4U●Kent, Washington USA

Aug 26, 2012●85 Blogs●1,279 Comments

Summer, I have a terrible memory, due to some birth-related stuff, so I forget much of what I hear, no matter how hard I try to remember things. I try me best to remember what women say, but my short-term memory, in particular, is less than spectacular. It isn't done deliberately, though, just that I literally can't remember things. So I need repeats several times. A good example is when my ex would tell me how to make certain dishes, I would have to have her tell me again each time because I just couldn't get it. Or another example was how many times people had to explain how to upload pictures to CS, and I only just now taught myself how to do it.

summertanOP●Medan, Jakarta, Jakarta Indonesia

Aug 26, 2012●51 Blogs●926 Comments

@ Huggerman : That's a special condition that everyone would understand, Huggerman. However, when I was talking to my male friend about something on phone and he, I didn't know what was he doing but I have to ask him"are you still there?" and then after a while he answered "uh, yes I'm here". "Are you watching TV?", "No I don't. Please speak". Then when I spoke and finish speaking, he said nothing. Then I asked him, "are you listening to what I say?", he said yes and comment nothing, sounds like confusing what to say, then I repeated and it was just the same. Didn't he understand why woman get mad at a man? Gosh! I'm so upset! over and over it's like playing game and I don't like it. So it's over. Later don't ask why I didn't share anything anymore. He said I'm weird and always upset to him. That's funny.

JeanKimberley●Miami, Florida USA

Aug 27, 2012●78 Comments

trust your instincts if he doesn't make you comfortable and there is no respect - cut him off. glad you feel better.

summertanOP●Medan, Jakarta, Jakarta Indonesia

Aug 27, 2012●51 Blogs●926 Comments

@ Jean : Hi, dear! Nice to see you here and thanks for your support. I appreciate it

HuggerMan4U●Kent, Washington USA

Aug 27, 2012●85 Blogs●1,279 Comments

Okay, I understand, Summer. Yes, best to find someone who will listen and respond to you. I never would have treated you like that. You deserve better.

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