greneidlady

MONMOUTH, Maine, USA

Jan 2013

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What to do????

I would like your thoughts on my situation. I've been going out with this guy for almost a year. I love him dearly but, theres a few things that I'm having a difficult time with. First thing is I only see him on Saturday and Sunday he works thirds shift during the week. Secondly, I have told him I love him many times and he cannot say the words. Now I have an old friend that is interested in dating not sure what I should do. Im confused and not sure what to make of this. What do you think?

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Ccincy●Cincinnati, Ohio USA

Jan 31, 2013●1 Blogs●3,385 Comments

Maybe he's married is maybe why you may only see him on Sat and Sun.Don't know.

If you're telling him you love him and he doesn't say it back to you maybe he doesn't feel the same way you do.

As far as dating an old friend goes it all depends on why you're old friends.

particolor●Inverell, New South Wales Australia

Jan 31, 2013●9,376 Comments

I would rather not Comment on that Situation except for the fact that The Family doesn't take up all His Time and some get to enjoy the Weekend!!! Option 2 on the other hand sounds Very Tempting!!

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KNenagh●Aachen, Kilkenny Ireland

Jan 31, 2013●3 Blogs●3,678 Comments

If you even consider meeting someone else even though you're seeing someone, does that not tell you something?

Love should be a 2-way-street, can you live with the fact that you're with someone who mightn't love you back?

greneidladyOP●MONMOUTH, Maine USA

Jan 31, 2013●4 Comments

Well he is single and lives alone.

fishinandshootin●elko, Nevada USA

Jan 31, 2013●11 Comments

here is my take on it. first thing is your words "going out with." if youre going out with this man i would say dating someone else is not an option friend or not. to me going out with someone is a relationship, especially if you been doing it for a year. you may love this man with all your heart but if after a year with you and he can not say it back my bet is something is missing and most likely wont ever be found. lets be truthful here. you been going out with this guy for a year and are on a dating site so my money says you are probably not all the way in it with him either. as i read it id say the way to go is forward. tell him the truth about exactly how you feel for him and if he feels the same then close the CS account, tell the old friend the facts and make a life with this guy. if he cant seem to want to commit tell him where the road is, date your old friend and see what CS can do for you...be honest with yourself and be honest with him.. just my two cents. and honestly your definition of "going out" and mine may not be the same.

greneidladyOP●MONMOUTH, Maine USA

Jan 31, 2013●4 Comments

Thank you for your comments and I have thought of each of the comments. He has told me the reason he cant say he loves me because he has a phobia. I just dont know

greneidladyOP●MONMOUTH, Maine USA

Jan 31, 2013●4 Comments

Fishingandshooting you hit it right on the nose. He is my boyfriend but, I'm feeling that he doesnt feel the same since he cant say the words. I want a commitment and I am not getting it with him. This has been eating at me for months now and I know I need to make a decision. Thank you

fishinandshootin●elko, Nevada USA

Jan 31, 2013●11 Comments

you are very welcome. i hope i didnt come across as mean because i did not mean to. just be true to you and let that truth out to all that are involved. you will figure it out.

particolor●Inverell, New South Wales Australia

Jan 31, 2013●9,376 Comments

I had a Phobia once and I took it back to the Pet Shop!! I said... "I think I have a Faulty Phobia!! It wont tell Me it Loves Me!!..

lgs37●Bellefontaine, Ohio USA

Jan 31, 2013●96 Blogs●1,505 Comments

grene...I think you already know the answer to your own question..right???

cupidsoul●4, Wicklow Ireland

Jan 31, 2013●9 Blogs●80 Comments

This is just my opinion but does he show you that he cares, some people are less inclined to vocalise the words I love you because they'd much rather show you via their actions, for some it is precious and when they do say it you know they mean it because they don't just say it all the time.
I think, if it were me, I'd probably talk to him and ask him if you're heading the same way. I wouldn't pressure him into it though, that said if you are looking at a possible relationship with an ex then maybe you said it too early too... but what do I know, I'm single and have a zero success rate behind me

Good luck

greneidladyOP●MONMOUTH, Maine USA

Jan 31, 2013●4 Comments

I thought my head was spinning before.

Bogart_1960●Ask me !, Provence-Alpes-Cote d'Azur France

Jan 31, 2013●2,177 Comments

Relationships dont always make sense. Especially from the outside.. so make your own decisions.. with your hearth and brain.

good luck

particolor●Inverell, New South Wales Australia

Jan 31, 2013●9,376 Comments

See

The CS Toolbox is Full of all sorts of Usele..ER! Useful Tools!!!..

AmusThree●Dublin, Ireland

Jan 31, 2013●15 Blogs●442 Comments

After a year...have you discussed living together...if he's working nights and is alone...I don't know the distance between the two of you...but think of the money...having two different places...would you not be closer living together...or is this something one of you does not want...maybe questions you need to ask yourselves if you are in...love...in my opinion...

Bunbun1989●Miami, Florida USA

Jan 31, 2013●1 Blogs●134 Comments

Date them both!

particolor●Inverell, New South Wales Australia

Jan 31, 2013●9,376 Comments

At The Same Time!

Ccincy●Cincinnati, Ohio USA

Jan 31, 2013●1 Blogs●3,385 Comments

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Bunbun1989 Miami, Florida USA
17 minutes ago
Date them both!

That might not go to well if she happened to get the dates and the guys name mixed up and calling them by the other guys name.

As in OOPs!!!

Irishidaho●Weiser, Idaho USA

Jan 31, 2013●6 Blogs●103 Comments

Doesn't your heart beat faster in the presence of one more so than the other?

Ice_Cream●Singapore, Central Singapore Singapore

Jan 31, 2013●24 Blogs●109 Comments

One year is a long time to get to know him i guess, why dont you ask him about your real status instead of telling him you love him and yet no response, though some guys are not really that vocal about their feelings though i know you can always feel if they really love you or you are just an option, better take that risk and get hurt, atleast you know where you stand.

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