Dating. What's it really all about?

I guess when we're looking to find that special person; communication goes a long way. We listen for key words that trigger thoughts, memories of past and/or we hear patterns we like or try to avoid.

There is a "method to our madness"!

In many ways we like the comforts of singledom - yet desire that closeness we have during companionship. So how do we know they're the one? How do we determine the legits from the fakes? How do we know if we're actually ready to be a partner ourselves, if we keeping running from people and what they say and not giving them the time of day?

I've often thought that the process should just be simple. We talk, are compatible, like the same things and begin the dating process. Usually it's nice when men are a little bit like that of a caveman - just bonk me on the head, claim me and drag me away by my long hair. Of course, we're past that era and into that modern day mentality of everyone being equal. So why is it still bad for a woman to go after what she likes? I'd hate to assume that we women can't behave in this manner.

Of course there are so many other variables in the equation. We look at things that are important to us. Or maybe they're not important to us...but, we're accepting to them. In a sense - we're settling for something in that "gray" area of love and mate finding.

Then I still have to wonder: Is there really an easy way to anything?

There are not that many elements to the equation: acceptance of looks, character, morals, religion - might be some to name. Maybe, instinctively we're prone to animalistic mating rituals where the male species dances and shows his colors which in turn arouses the senses of the female species.

What is "dating" really all about? I'll never know.

I do know that dating is really not for me - and I dislike it.

I do better as a long-term partner and monogamous lover. But, I am hopeful and keeping an eye and ear open for my future guy.

To finding our mates in 2009.