How to reject...
Hi,I have problem. There is someone keeps declare his love to me already several times. I already explained to him that I can't love him or at least I feel nothing for him other than a friend. This happened long time ago before I met my crocodile, for the whole 3 years when I was with my crocodile he stopped talking about his love to me but now he continue trouble me with that. I told him, I can't love him doesn't mean he is not good but it is because I have a broken heart. I still feel very hurt about love so please don't talk about it to me for any reason. But if he doesn't mind then we can continue be friends.
Since then to now, he keeps asking me going out with him and keeps being so nice to me. I rejected all.
If listing conditions such as handsome, working hard, care for family, has money, then, he is qualified for all of those.
From my heart, I do appreciate that he was and is so nice to me, BUT, perhaps I have too big love for my crocodile that I think in this life I can't love anyone else ever. Moreover, from the beginning I really have no feeling for him other than just a friend. I told him that with his situation, it's quite easy for him to find someone else to be with, why have to be me?! After I said that, he cried! MY GOD! I don't know what to do...
He said, for years he already tried to date many girls but his feeling is still for me!!
Anyone know how to reject him but don't make him feeling hurt?
I'm talking about real life, not cyber world. Thanks.
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Anyway, he is educated enough so I think it should be ok for me, just I feel not easy to reject someone sincerely love. I feel sad for him.
Regarding to crocodile, it's in my dream everyday that we will get back. But in fact, the situation is almost IMPOSSIBLE. I love crocodile a lot, I wish he is able to be happy with his life.
Thanks again Smart, sincerely, you and some people here (even we never talk) but you all made me feel CS is part of my life! Thanks a lot... and nice weekend!
I already did. I told him all the truth and I think he gets message. Just I feel not easy to hurt someone with sincerely love. But I think it will be fine. Thanks again.
The only thing I can say is that crocodile has missed out on a great thing. Your so pretty.
Oh well, it's not for me to know. I hope your heart heals soon!
Yes, I always try my best to be nice to him but very clear to him that he should not hope so much on me.
And to Ed,
Thanks for your compliment but I think when it's love, then, pretty or not is not really that important. Crocodile is a good person with a very sweet heart. I hope he is happy with his life too.
I am not a relationship expert, but let him know that you will only be friends.
No need of justifications and don't get manipulated. If you don't feel right about it, it's your life and stay away from getting involved as you may regret later.
Yes, I did let him know that we can only be friends long time ago already. What I can do more for him is wish him all the best then.
Since your family knows this man I suggest talking to your family and friends if he knows them about him and letting them know what you have let us know here. This might help you in your transition to make him stop.
Your next move would be to be stern with this man and tell him you are uncomfortable because of his pressuring and you can no longer talk to him anymore. Then say good bye.
After you do this you MUST NOT GIVE IN! If he writes do not even open it. If he calls do not answer. The ONLY way to make it stop is to stop communications altogether. He is not respecting YOUR feelings. I commend you on your patience. You must be a very good woman to be so kind. He is taking advantage of your soft side.
I know how it feels and I feel badly for you. It is difficult to do these things when one does not like to hurt people.