He got mad

Well he made that but when he got mad he broke it.

Well yeah, but I never was in charge of my money, I was not a spender, he paid all the bills of course but it was not a kind of control

he is your hubby ,half of your belongings are his and yes the bills must be payed ,so 200 seems reasonable...

200 seems reasonable

Well I said to him that we need a marriage counselor but he said that his health insurance doesn't cover it, so I couldn't do anything about it.

He's retired

He is retired???

How long have you two been together ???

Almost 4 years

It's not the amounts of money that is important, it's having someone control you as if you are inferior, rather than an equal partner.

If after paying your half of the bills and expenses out your own account there was only $20 left, that $20 would be more valuable than $200 handed out to you like a child's pocket money.

Have to agree with Jac on this... partially...
If the Monthly cost of living are creating difficulties and one party in this relationship is having a weakness or unrealistic vision about howmuch can be spent ...the other has to control the budget

Then it would still be about agreement, Boban.

If one party had a tendency to overspend, then someone could make an agreement whereby they willingly give the better financier in the partnership control over the money and accept an allowance.

This appears not to be the case here, however. Avelina appears to be saying she's having her financial control taken away from her against her will.

Yep, and thats the part I agree with you Jac ,however , lets keep in mind that this is very incomplete picture ,we have been presented here
She has been in this relationship for four years ,Im sure that by now they have seen and got to know each others characters under different circumstances

Well, We are getting divorce and the money is one of the problems, I am not perfect and he is not perfect, I am not trying to put him like a monster or something like that, it's hard to move on because of my self esteem and he's asking me to come back. I only wanted your opinion because I read some blogs and that is why I am here not for looking for someone to fix my life I put in my profile that I want friendship and I don't want pity or something like that, and I have feelings for him and it's hard you know.

I'm with KN on this. You're on a dating site, moaning about your husband?

Something's not right.

Make up your mind Avelina and stick with it, that's probably the most sensible thing you can do.

If you are getting a divorce, get out of there asap, things won't be getting any better between the 2 of you if a separation is announced.

Every break up is hard but to get on your own feet and set up your own life is what you probably should focus on. It might be difficult, but it will help yourself and your self-esteem if you manage to run your own life.

Sit down and start thinking. What do YOU want? Where do you want to go and what do you want to do with your life? Just think of YOURSELF and what's best for you and achievable. Self esteem is something you can work on.

It is your life and it is up to you to make changes so that you will get to live a life you like and enjoy - don't look at somebody else for that!!! Not easy and not happening overnight but you have to start somewhere.

Best of luck and hope we'll hear of some positive future plans of yours.

Thank for all your advice, I appreciate the time that all you gave, I will think and I will decide what is best for me.