partner in life ---

We must maintain our independence during a relationship. Men like room to try to figure out what we are doing. Plus, they like the freedom to breathe.~
~Stop nagging. Ask your man for help instead of telling him to help you.~
~Let him be your hero every once in a while. Ask him to take a look at the faulty dishwasher, car, or whatever, and watch him work overtime to try and figure out the problem.~
~Appreciate everything he does for us and for our family.~
~Appreciate everything about him and tell him~
~Go out and have fun with him.~
~Stop being so serious.~
~Don’t hassle him about household chores or his male bonding time. Let him continue to enjoy time with his male friends. Sure, he’s a husband and father but if we take away his male identity, guess what? He won’t be our man much longer!~
~Don’t ask him, tell him or expect him to change. Love him for his unique and wonderful qualities. Accept his annoying traits and habits as unique characteristics which make him special.~
~ If we want to hold onto our man we need to keep him happy! That does not mean we have to work overtime to please him, instead just let him be himself. If he is happy, we are going to be happier than ever. He will work harder at fulfilling our needs and wants because he won’t want to lose us.~
~Coming from this single woman, please appreciate your good man. There are far too few out there. Finding a new one is more difficult than accepting and loving the one you have.~

Things to never say to our man:
1. You NEVER take me out!
2. You NEVER buy me flowers!
3. You NEVER help me with the kids!
4. You NEVER do your chores on time!
5. You NEVER show and tell me you love me!
6. You NEVER help me around the house!
7. You NEVER do anything!
8. You NEVER listen to me!
9. You NEVER remember our special occasions!
10. You NEVER call me enough!
11. You NEVER do what you say you are going to do!
12. You NEVER tell me the truth!
13. You NEVER do anything right!
14. You NEVER get anywhere on time!
15. You NEVER follow directions!

Ladies, don’t act like you don’t know what I am talking about. We are all very good at talking but not always at listening. Stop and really listen to the attitude in your voice and words. How would we like it if our husband spoke to us the way we speak to him? Men voice the above as common complaints they hear. Ladies, we need to take a good look at ourselves and ask if we are guilty of stating them.
Set up a tape recorder and see what it tells us about how we speak to our husbands. Listen not only to what we say but also to how we say it. We might be surprised. It’s often easier to see faults in others than in ourselves. We have to take a good look in the mirror and listen to the sound of our voice when we speak. We may not be as perfect as we like to think we are.
If you or your husband is unhappy, you share at least half the blame. Look at ourselves: Do we smile? Do we laugh? What is our tone of voice? We need to change what we can’t accept about ourselves, and know that while we are beautiful we are not perfect.
Our husband isn’t one of our children so don’t treat him that way. He is our partner in life, not our possession. Learn to appreciate him. We don’t own him just because he married us. Like us, he has free-will to make his own decisions. Don’t force him to decide to leave you!